AScomposer13413
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| ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | Honestly Postie, if it turned out a girl I was into was into a spanner like that dick, I'd be over her pretty quickly.
Remain friends and everything, just steer clear. |
^ This, pretty much! |
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The_Postmaster
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Age: 17
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| Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2012 3:34 pm Post subject: |
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| ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote: | Honestly Postie, if it turned out a girl I was into was into a spanner like that dick, I'd be over her pretty quickly.
Remain friends and everything, just steer clear. |
I'm not quite over her, but I don't think that's a problem. She'll find out soon enough that she's dealing with a colossal as*hole who also happens to be a dolt, but admittedly puts on a good show. I think she's very intelligent. Hopefully that means she'll be able to see this. |
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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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Location: Ireland
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| Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2012 3:45 pm Post subject: |
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I hope so, too  |
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IlovemyAspie
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Location: On the brink....
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 1:09 am Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | She'll find out soon enough that she's dealing with a colossal as*hole who also happens to be a dolt, but admittedly puts on a good show. I think she's very intelligent. Hopefully that means she'll be able to see this. |
Oh she will!! Someone can only put on that kind of show for so long. It's only a matter of time before the show is over! |
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The_Postmaster
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| Posted: Thu May 03, 2012 6:28 pm Post subject: |
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Okay. There has been a major development for me lately.
Last night, she messaged me to tell me (confidentially) that the relationship is bad for her and she is going to break up with other guy on Friday at the chess club.
I've been acquainted with other guy for a few years now, so she asked my advice regarding the situation, which I gave. Then I asked her if I was actually her friend or just an acquaintance of other guy and through him her friend. She said, "of course we're friends lol, that's why I'm going to keep going to the chess club."
I said that that's good, and I was worried that after she broke up with other guy my connection with her would be severed. She said, "not at all. I think after I break up with him I'll be better friends with you than him. It would probably be too awkward to hang out with him. But you'll probably be with him at the chess club so I'll end up being with him anyway." I didn't pick up on this at the time, but perhaps this was a subtle invitation to hang out outside of the chess club?
Then, since it was late, she asked, "Since you're good at science, I have 3 tests tomorrow, do you think I will do badly on them since I'm up this late?" (At this point it was about 12:30- we both get up for school around 6)
I gave her some general psychological information on how lack of sleep effects cognition, and she said she was really worried about the math quiz she had since she wasn't in school when they learned the material. She knows I'm really good at math. Was this a subtle way of asking for help preparing for the math quiz? I offered her some general advice on how to counteract exhaustion (advice I have employed on many occasions), we talked briefly, and she said that she was going to sleep so she doesn't do badly on the tests.
Thoughts?
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IlovemyAspie
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Location: On the brink....
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| Posted: Sun May 06, 2012 2:10 pm Post subject: |
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| I think possibly she's trying to pursue a relationship with you! She's starting off slow, which is good. The fact that she said she's going to continue coming to Chess Club because of you is a positive message. I'd wait and see what happens on Friday. Let's see how this breakup plays out. Just play it cool until then. |
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DogOfJudah
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Location: Staffordshire, UK
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| Posted: Sun May 06, 2012 3:16 pm Post subject: |
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This is so sweet :')
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I could have brought you roses or a diamond ring, that's just material things...This day i want you to be mine...I'm your blood stained valentine.
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Dr_Mrs_the_Monarch
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| Posted: Sun May 06, 2012 3:29 pm Post subject: |
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| IlovemyAspie wrote: | All of those things don't make him superior to you. I know for myself (I'm and NT female) none of those things matter. For me it's always been a chemistry thing. Most of the guys I've dated have been people no one would expect I'd be with. I went out with a guy who wasn't what most folks would call attractive but the chemistry was AMAZING. Looks aren't everything. Beauty fades, dumb is forever! Sometimes guys who are very social are too social and it's hard to keep their attention because they are all over the place. I have dated several folks and have been married. All to guys who were NT. I am currently in love with an amazing guy who happens to be an Aspie. He's quiet, socially awkward, has special interests,doesn't know crap about pop culture and shuts down on me sometimes. Guess what? I'm the exact opposite! BUT, he's sweet, caring, intelligent,sincere and much much more. Add some chemistry to that and it's a wonderful mix.
That other guy may have all of those things and still be a jerk. If you are interested in her, go for her. Chess and social skills do not a perfect man make. Oh and by the way NOBODY is perfect |
"Beauty fades, dumb is forever!" I almost spit out my coffee when I read that!! Thank you for a much-needed laugh!! As to the rest of your post, I completely agree and am in a very similar boat to yours - NT female hopelessly in love with an Aspie male (and when the "air" is right, we have fantastic chemistry!) 
And can we get an "AMEN" to "NOBODY is perfect"?!?! |
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edgewaters
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Location: Ontario
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| Posted: Sun May 06, 2012 3:37 pm Post subject: |
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| The_Postmaster wrote: | | She said, "not at all. I think after I break up with him I'll be better friends with you than him. It would probably be too awkward to hang out with him. But you'll probably be with him at the chess club so I'll end up being with him anyway." I didn't pick up on this at the time, but perhaps this was a subtle invitation to hang out outside of the chess club? |
The bolded part screams ... something. I'd turn red as a fire engine right there (though, that doesn't necessarily mean anything). I don't pick anything up from the part about the chess club but, you know, I'm not exactly Mr. Perceptive either. I'm definately picking up something in what you're saying here, I just don't really know what. |
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IlovemyAspie
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| Posted: Sun May 06, 2012 4:13 pm Post subject: |
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The text in bold is her NT way of flirting!
Dr_Mrs_the_Monarch:
Glad you got a chuckle from my post!
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AMEN! |
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waitykatie
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Joined: Apr 19, 2012
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| The_Postmaster wrote: | | He asked me, and I'm not exaggerating, if the earth's crust was pizza crust in earth science a few years back. The sad part is he wasn't joking. |
Look at the title of your post again. Seriously? Every time you see this guy, for the rest of your life, relive that moment in your head. Those words are out there forever, and can never be stuffed back into his mouth. That ought to reorient you!
Just a quick note from at least the third NT woman on this thread, who is hopelessly in love with an Aspie. One night, my Aspie stole me from my NT boyfriend - a similar suave, smooth-talking, popular, supposedly smart guy - right in front of him. How? (1) Mr. Cool had been arguing with me for two weeks, insisting that the second law of thermodynamics couldn't possibly hold true, with absolutely nothing to back it up. Call it the Pizza Crust factor. (2) Mr. Cool was too absorbed with impressing his fan club to stay close to me, which gave Mr. Aspie the opportunity to buy me a drink and persuade me that Mr. Cool was just another pony-tailed pompous ass douchebag,
They say the early bird gets the worm. Sometimes. Other times, the second mouse gets the cheese. Stay positive! |
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