Post 4620093 - (i starting to get more stressed and sad'er)

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Posted: Wed May 09, 2012 3:39 pm Post subject:

I think exercise of all sorts is generally a very good way of responding to stress. The school authorities and/or your parents, is there just some way you can give them a heads up so they won't worry?

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Posted: Wed May 09, 2012 4:00 pm Post subject:

I guess it's standard for authorities and parents to take away 'privileges.' Now, whether it is in fact a privilege or not, well, that can be debate-able, but they're not trying to simply be jerks. In a sense, they are trying to be middle-of-the-road. And like a business person, I really encourage you to be proactive in negotiations. Whether in writing or in face to face conversation, maybe begin with "I think my life will take a step forward if I am able to ________________________', and then say whatever is important to you. And the general strategy is a series of medium steps staying alert and open to feedback.

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Posted: Wed May 09, 2012 4:09 pm Post subject:

i noticed it like in the 1st hour of the school day im most stressed do u know why this might be?

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Posted: Wed May 09, 2012 4:31 pm Post subject:

Now, for me personally, I like to read a little, walk a little, maybe even write a little when I first wake up. If I had to go somewhere right away, I might not be 'centered,' calm, alert. Now, that's just me. Other people might feel different in the morning.

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Posted: Wed May 09, 2012 4:51 pm Post subject:

i run outside before school and get talked to about how my shoes are dirty(a moldy garden due to loads of rain in england) i don't know why i feel stressed as soon as i go to school i got a test tomorrow to get into collage

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Posted: Wed May 09, 2012 5:52 pm Post subject:

First off, good luck on your test. And then, a lot of people run before work or do another kind of exercise and I think morning exercise is a good thing. Maybe you could get a second pair of tennis shoes, and one pair could be your outside running pair?

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Posted: Wed May 09, 2012 6:25 pm Post subject:

i use a £50 pair of nike shoes for running and i do have a £93 pair of niked but i run untill the secound i go into the car to go to school i sometimes forget to eat breakfast(most of the time)

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Posted: Wed May 09, 2012 7:30 pm Post subject:

I kind of believe in taking and accepting an existing system and building on it. Okay, so you typically don't eat breakfast, maybe not the healthiest thing, but a number of people do the same thing. Maybe you could keep energy bars or an apple or another snack in your backpack? (and check the labels on energy bars because some are healthy and some aren't) And maybe keep an old towel on the floor of the car to quickly wipe off your shoes?

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Posted: Thu May 10, 2012 2:02 am Post subject:

i don't use a school bag as my stuff like pens ect are at school i go to private special education school in suffolk as i was kicked out of mainstream school because i used to go to a school with 1,282 other puples and could not cope with it so was kicked out and moved to a diffent school

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Posted: Thu May 10, 2012 11:09 am Post subject:

Maybe you could try and run one or two sack lunches ahead of the curve. That is, have two sack lunches sitting in the refrigerator waiting for you? And that way, maybe in the typical busy morning, maybe your parent could just grab one for you? I myself sometimes either bail on planning or overplan. I'm getting better on finding that happy medium more often, and it does not need to be 100%.

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Posted: Thu May 10, 2012 2:25 pm Post subject:

do u have any advice to help me stop getting stressed and walking out of class?

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Posted: Thu May 10, 2012 3:26 pm Post subject:

as i hate doing it

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Posted: Thu May 10, 2012 5:20 pm Post subject:

Maybe doing something earlier in the class, to increase your odds and percentages, that you'll just kind of allow the bad stress to be deflected to one side. So, maybe sit in the back or the side where you might feel less distracted? And here's one technique I use: During lectures I can take pretty much continuous notes with gaps and missed parts where I just jump ahead to what the teacher is saying right now, I give myself permission to be sloppy. The point of these notes is for me to stay alert. I sometimes later go back and draw boxes around the more important things. But frankly, I do most of my studying from the book (and some pre-studying). So, yes, I could probably improve on the note taking. And maybe relaxation breathing techniques, lightly done, and again you try more on the early side as you are beginning to get stressed or when you are medium stressed, that kind of thing. (And I think these techniques by their very nature are imprecise, nonperfect techniques and work better because they are imprecise and nonperfect.) ================= And the other part is damage control. That if you do need to walk out, maybe the bench in building C just to pick a random example. So, you can pace the hall and chill out on the bench. That way, the teacher and/or other school authorities know where you are and do not need to worry.