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Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS

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kevinjh
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Posted: Fri Nov 18, 2011 2:23 am Post subject:

I got my Code from a temporary mentor who helped with my long-term interest in biochemistry. Here it is: Practicality supersedes praise Reality above fantasy Originality over conformity Vision becomes success Organization complements planning Society is but inspiration Truth defeats dishonesty Practice yields progress Zeal must support intelligence I always found it somewhat odd. He always insisted that I list the lines in the order he gave them, although to be fair, he was probably someone with AS. Maybe he received them in a sentimentally valuable order following a long project of some sort? _________________ Q(A44,E06,F19,S64),158/200,33/200 BAP123a(87),126r(95),107p(89),9d(89); HSP20; Face12; 5w(4/6) kevin (full stop) h (full stop) mainbox (at) gmail (full stop) com PM for public key

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Posted: Sat Dec 31, 2011 7:49 pm Post subject: Re: Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS

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Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS
by Liane Holliday Willey

Self-Eradication Pledge
by Bitter Middle-Aged Aspie

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I am not defective. I am different.

I used to believe that. I would like to believe it again. As far as I can tell, though, the fact is still that difference IS deficit.

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I will not sacrifice my self-worth for peer acceptance.

Self-worth comes from achievement. Concrete achievement. For Aspies, that's even more true. Without peer acceptance, on some level anyway, how do you expect to achieve anything?? What is achievement?? Who decides??

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I am a good and interesting person.

I know I am. Someone forgot to tell everyone else.

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I will take pride in myself.

I will act like I take pride in myself. That is, I will make sure I am neat, clean, and normal-looking before I step out the front door. I will do this because people judge everyone all the time and I am terrified of the consequences of being found wanting.

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I am capable of getting along with society.

I probably am. I have met society on its terms for years, and I am still alive. What I am NOT capable of doing, is getting along with society as a person in equal standing with other people.

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I will ask for help when I need it.

I will ask for help before I need it, while I can still ask in a carefully controlled and circumspect manner. Because being in trouble in public is the most dangerous thing you can do in this society. If I can't manage that, I will hide the fact that I need help until the storm has passed and I can once again try to look pretty while I do it.

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I am a person who is worthy of others' respect and acceptance.

I don't get to decide that. I don't have a mind-control device. I'd like to be deemed worthy of respect and acceptance, but the fact is that my worth in their eyes is up to them to decide. All I can do is try very hard to earn it.

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I will find a career interest that is well suited to my abilities and interests.

Yeah. I did that. I'm a housemaid and baby factory.

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I will be patient with those who need time to understand me.

I will be meek and cowed and try very hard to act normal, because the fact is that most people can't understand me and many won't take the time to try. It's easier to assume and judge, and that's what they're going to do.

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I am never going to give up on myself.

Life seems to be less painful once you fully give up on yourself. I am grateful that I'm not sleeping under a newspaper getting pimped for heroin.

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I will accept myself for who I am.

Yeah. That was a mistake.
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Posted: Sun Jan 01, 2012 2:20 pm Post subject: Re: Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS

sunnycat wrote:

Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS
by Liane Holliday Willey

I am not defective. I am different.

I will not sacrifice my self-worth for peer acceptance.

I am a good and interesting person.

I will take pride in myself.

I am capable of getting along with society.

I will ask for help when I need it.

I am a person who is worthy of others' respect and acceptance.

I will find a career interest that is well suited to my abilities and interests.

I will be patient with those who need time to understand me.

I am never going to give up on myself.

I will accept myself for who I am.

I think I've had a lot of trouble with some of these. Especially getting along with society.

mntn13
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Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2012 12:18 am Post subject:

Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS by Liane Holliday Willey I am not defective. I am different. I will not sacrifice my self-worth for peer acceptance. I am a good and interesting person. I will take pride in myself. I am capable of getting along with society. I will ask for help when I need it. I am a person who is worthy of others' respect and acceptance. I will find a career interest that is well suited to my abilities and interests. I will be patient with those who need time to understand me. I am never going to give up on myself. I will accept myself for who I am. I am going to read this to myself every morning when I drink my tea. I think it might help keep me going as I get older. Thanks for posting it.

Azmodania
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Posted: Wed May 02, 2012 10:14 pm Post subject:

Thank you for this. I needed it. I am me. I am okay the way I am.

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Posted: Wed May 16, 2012 1:32 am Post subject:

As a victim of oppression on account of certain human weaknesses caused by my unique neurology, I do solemnly pledge to heart all of this affirmation pledge. I will not fail. For Freedom! For Liberation! For Revolution! Long Live The Otaku Revolution!

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Posted: Sat Jun 30, 2012 10:06 am Post subject:

I will use my emotions as tools to use for my Art, and not as self destruct buttons. My thoughts had no power or control over me until they became thoughts... my thoughts that there is a bad energy going on to stop me progressing is a thought only. I will hold onto the affirmation that my thoughts had no strength until they became thoughts, and I will try to use this to help me have the strength of good thoughts instead. _________________ Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.

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Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2012 5:29 am Post subject:

I will not allow myself to look back today in five year's time and not having achieved any goal at all. I will leave my depression well behind. I must build from scratch here, but I will allow fear to be there... I will not fight my fear - it has a use, it must be respected, not pushed away... I must understand that fear will be with me in many life situations but I must achieve my goals with it, and not try to constantly fight it because the reality is that fear will be with me in many life situations, especially those that will take risks. _________________ Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.

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Posted: Sat Jul 07, 2012 10:13 am Post subject:

I am not defective. I am different. My brain is developed differently so I would call that both different and defective, sadly in my case anyway. I will not sacrifice my self-worth for peer acceptance. My human body is worth nothing but a piece of garbage that will only get better if a cure for autism is found. Sadly a cure for autism may never be found, so I may be stuck with this condition for the rest of my life. I am a good and interesting person. I think I am quite a boring person actually so nothing interesting about me. I will take pride in myself. Nothing to take proud of because of the condition I most likely have. Infact, I feel a bit digusted that I have this autism in the first place. I am capable of getting along with society. That will not happen, I cannot have a conversation about a topic apart from a few gibbled words. I will not get a job because of my social anxiety and so on. I will ask for help when I need it. That is not possible, I am way too shy to even think of asking for help. I guess that is too bad. I am a person who is worthy of others' respect and acceptance. No, I am a waste of their space and time because of social problems. I have no idea why people would respect me. I will find a career interest that is well suited to my abilities and interests. That is unlikely in the long run. Yeah its a shame that I have no abilities, but that is the way the cookie crumbles I suppose. I have a few keen interests, but that is about it. I am never going to give up on myself. I almost have, I am on the verge of breaking point. I feel so like giving up already. I will accept myself for who I am. That it going to be very hard. Do I accept that in my case that my possible autism may be causing my below average intelligence. Accept that I cannot communicate with other people. I want a cure now!

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Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2012 1:08 pm Post subject:

Written by author/physician and brave WWII holocaust survivor, Viktor Frankl "He who has a why to live can bear with almost any how." _________________ "Barn's burnt down, now I can see the moon." - Masahide, circa 1700. Haiku poetry.

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Posted: Sun Aug 19, 2012 7:24 pm Post subject:

I don't care what others think of me. If they don't like me for who i am its not my issue. I will not conform to society. I am not a sheep. I will never pretend to be someone I am not to make another happy.

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Posted: Mon Dec 24, 2012 5:21 pm Post subject: Re: Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS

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I am not defective. I am different.

Damn right. NT people tell me practically every day that they wish they could have my brain.

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I will not sacrifice my self-worth for peer acceptance.

^I've been done doing this sh** for a while now.

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I am a good and interesting person.

Everyone may not like me, but I am nothing if not interesting.

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I will take pride in myself.

This is probably the most difficult one here for me. Logically, I have no idea why... I rarely fail at things that I actually try.

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I am capable of getting along with society.

Senior in college who is in several positions of authority/responsibility, I'd say so.

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I will ask for help when I need it.

90% of the reason I'm on this site.

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I am a person who is worthy of others' respect and acceptance.

Never mind, this is the hardest one here. I'll work on believing this one at my deepest levels. For now, fake it til I make it Very Happy

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I will find a career interest that is well suited to my abilities and interests.

In five months I will have two bachelor's degrees and an associates, all of which I will have earned in four years. I have experience working in my field of choice already. I think this is pretty likely.

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I will be patient with those who need time to understand me.

I've always been pretty good at this one.

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I am never going to give up on myself.

I never have before, and I don't intend to any time soon.

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I will accept myself for who I am.

I actually disagree with this one. There is ALWAYS room for improvement, in every aspect of everything, whether you're an Aspie or not. Complacency is equal to failure.
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Posted: Sat Jan 12, 2013 10:27 pm Post subject:

One of those nights... but the OP made me cry. I wish I could make living it as easy as reading it, but it's really very very inspiring.

BornThisWay
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Posted: Mon Jan 14, 2013 2:00 pm Post subject:

kevinjh wrote:

I got my Code from a temporary mentor who helped with my long-term interest in biochemistry. Here it is:

Practicality supersedes praise
Reality above fantasy
Originality over conformity
Vision becomes success
Organization complements planning
Society is but inspiration
Truth defeats dishonesty
Practice yields progress
Zeal must support intelligence

I always found it somewhat odd. He always insisted that I list the lines in the order he gave them, although to be fair, he was probably someone with AS. Maybe he received them in a sentimentally valuable order following a long project of some sort?

Anyone else notice that the opening letters of the lines spell out PROVOST PZ...does that make any sense to you kevinjh?