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PostPosted: Tue May 22, 2012 12:47 am    Post subject: Told: "Your a hardass!" Reply with quote

Today at work a co-worker called me a 'hardass'. I've never heard this term before, even at age 41, and I spent the better part of the last hour trying to fiqure out what this means and what was insinuated today at work. (I didn't get it at the time, processing delay for an unfamiliar circumstance)

Quote from the urban dictionary:

Quote:
A hardass or hard ass is someone who is very authoritative or who appears to be such. This type of person will have his or her own way and expects the respect and co-operation of others.

This is someone who won't let you get away with anything. Someone who falls into this category usually offers a lot of tough love and tends to lack empathy for other people.

As long as you show a good level of respect in a hardass' presence, you should be fine.


When I read this I said to myself, 'Yes, and its because I'm an Aspie'. I have strict routines, and habits. I'm a junior manager and I enforce work rules to the letter. And yes I have a problem with 'Empathy for other people'.

So I'm a 'hardass'. So where do I go from here? What was really being said to me? Do they want me to change? Was this an insult?

I just don't get it.
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PostPosted: Tue May 22, 2012 1:19 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

This kinda illustrates why I'm not manager material. I'd hate to go out to the parking lot after work and find my car has been keyed or sitting up on bricks because the wheels have been removed!
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PostPosted: Tue May 22, 2012 1:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I would take that tag and wear it with pride. Hail-fellow-well-met doesn't make the trains run on time or get the product on the shelf. If you bought it, a truck brought it, but an aspie most likely thought it
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PostPosted: Tue May 22, 2012 2:41 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yes I would say it's a compliment, and if not, it is atleast a sign of respect and you should be happy someone think so. Very Happy
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PostPosted: Wed May 23, 2012 12:06 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Somebody at a factory that I worked in during the 90s called me a Cockney Rebel. Once I got over a bad spell of psychotic depression and anxiety later on that year, I started taking it as a compliment.
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PostPosted: Wed May 23, 2012 1:36 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I would take it as a compliment.
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PostPosted: Thu May 24, 2012 8:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

This.

The co-worker by calling you a hardass thinks you are a bold person and that you have mettle. That is definitely an advantage in the world, and should definitely ensure you do not have to end up traumatised in your life.
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