Who_Am_I
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What, may I ask, is the "unmistakeable look of a psychopath", and how can it be distinguished from "I think he looks like one because I know what he did"?
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blue_bean
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| I confess, I thought he was handsome when he first appeared in the news, but he kinda frightened the hell outta me too. |
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RightGalaxy
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| JanuaryMan wrote: | | HisDivineMajesty wrote: | | What I do encounter, sometimes, is men who are not attractive at all - even less so than me - who are in a happy relationship. A convicted serial killer often receives love letters. Joran van der Sloot was able to get laid even after everyone knew he had murdered Nathalie Holloway (he murdered another one who slept with him after that). I haven't even murdered anyone. Dating-wise, I'm deemed less desirable than murderers. |
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One thing though! DID Joran van der Sloot really murder Holloway? I know he killed that other poor girl in that Casino. Anybody have any updates on a confession or anything else. Maybe Holloway unded up in white slavery. Many girls end up living with the Sultan of Brunei as sex toys for men at his elaborate parties. Some end up in Turkey with a known sex trafficker. Who knows? How come nobody cracked among all the people involved in the Holloway case? I've known really cold people who honestly would confess all that they knew after their conscience started bothering them. That's why I think she's still alive. |
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techstepgenr8tion
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2012 10:25 am Post subject: |
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| Who_Am_I wrote: | | What, may I ask, is the "unmistakeable look of a psychopath", and how can it be distinguished from "I think he looks like one because I know what he did"? |
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I tend to wonder about that often when people talking about someone just 'looking scary' - they did that with Anthony Sowell, the local Cleveland serial killer, and I've seen both less scary-looking people who've done awful things and much scarier looking people who've done little worse than get a few traffic tickets. |
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HisDivineMajesty
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I'm really jealous of his looks. As for the psychopathic look, it's the way his eyes seem very devoid of life. As for the look in his eyes, it's uncanny. It's something I don't feel when seeing the eyes of Pol Pot, Ngo Dinh Diem, Batista, Fidel Castro, or even Adolf Hitler. Where Hitler tries his best to appear dominant, Castro looks old by now and Batista looks like a happy little dictator, Breivik has very little emotion. There's just the grin on his face and the cold eyes.
| RightGalaxy wrote: | | One thing though! DID Joran van der Sloot really murder Holloway? I know he killed that other poor girl in that Casino. Anybody have any updates on a confession or anything else. Maybe Holloway unded up in white slavery. Many girls end up living with the Sultan of Brunei as sex toys for men at his elaborate parties. Some end up in Turkey with a known sex trafficker. Who knows? How come nobody cracked among all the people involved in the Holloway case? I've known really cold people who honestly would confess all that they knew after their conscience started bothering them. That's why I think she's still alive. |
Doubt it. Abductions wouldn't take place on Curaçao. It's the worst place to abduct someone - it's very far from any muslim countries (naming it along the same lines), and there are people looking for her, even now, across the world. No man, woman or child would make it out of Curaçao alive with Dutch bureaucracy and a full-scale search. Having read more than my healthy dose about Joran van der Sloot, I'm pretty certain he murdered her. He only really got away with it because of his ties on the island. To be honest, most Dutch people just want the Peruvians to stab him to death so that walking disaster is finally over. |
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mike_br
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2012 11:01 am Post subject: Re: Dating Disqualifications |
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| Adam82 wrote: | So a perfectly nice, friendly, but Aspie guy ends up perma-single like me, whereas a serial killer gets conjugal visits. Go figure.  |
Dexter is cooler than you are 
Seriously...
Asperger's interferes with intimacy... relationship IS intimacy, therefore it's difficult to link asperger's and love life.
It's quite simple, but it can be overcame. No one is doomed to a life of solitude. It's easier to some people, but get out there, be clean, work out, read and it will happen. Make yourself interesting. |
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LauraM
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Well, I'm currently in a relationship with an Aussie guy with Asperger's and while he's a great guy, the awkwardness and his tendency to go blank on things to ask me can be hard. I have Asperger's too, but I've learned you have to behave a certain way to get to know someone. I learned how to be better socially. I have to at times remember that he DOES love me, and I read his e-mails and other things over again (we met online and we're in a LDR now). The emotions are there, they're just tragically hidden a lot of times, or overwhelmingly obvious, depending on the day. It shouldn't be a dis-qualifier, but one does need to learn how to communicate or a romance doesn't have much to stand on. We have Skype dates and I can tell when he's tired because he will literally begin to shut down, and not even attempt eye contact anymore. I have to be compassionate about it, and give him the benefit of a doubt.
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ValentineWiggin
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Famous men attract all sorts of would-be partners.
Same as famous women.
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JanuaryMan
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| Posted: Wed May 30, 2012 7:45 pm Post subject: |
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| ValentineWiggin wrote: | Famous men attract all sorts of would-be partners.
Same as famous women. |
Fame or infamy, and power over others (good or evil) always attracts somebody.
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Keeno
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| Posted: Thu May 31, 2012 6:40 am Post subject: Re: Dating Disqualifications |
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| NeantHumain wrote: | | Does it seem odd to others that, at least for males, Asperger's syndrome is more a disqualification from dating than cheaters, wifebeaters/abusers, criminals/thugs, and various other assorted lowlife? |
Not at all, as if you are a lowlife, you might at least attract women with low standards. Which is more than nothing. |
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Homer_Bob
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It does seem odd but I feel that today the average women still has no idea what aspergers is. I don't think it's that they don't want our kind but that we simply can't put ourselves out there like the average women beater/sleazeball can with ease. Our inability to put ourselves out there alienates our dating chances. One stereotypical but rather true example is assholes get turned down just as much as shyer men do, the difference is assholes don't care and will keep searching for women even if it means the bottom of the barrel. Our kind will probably take rejection much worse and probably wouldn't even ask anyone out for a long period of time thus limiting our chances. This isn't entirely bad because I think people like us refuse to settle and would rather be alone than be with someone who is awful. Assholes aren't like that and will find anyone just to be with someone regardless.
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