ChemicalCole
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 Posted: Thu Jun 07, 2012 6:25 pm Post subject: Everything and everyone has changed |
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Elementary school was difficult at times, but high school is just way to much. All of my friends have changed, they all drink, party, smoke, nothing is how it used to be. This left me all alone, and I had to find new friends which I didn't, they found me (eventually). It may be due to the fact that I'm still a child in some ways, however I'm mature in other ways as well.
Has anyone dealt with a relevant problem? If so, how did you cooperate?
Thanks in return,
Cole. |
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redrobin62
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| Posted: Thu Jun 07, 2012 7:51 pm Post subject: |
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When in Rome...!
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ChemicalCole
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| Posted: Thu Jun 07, 2012 8:45 pm Post subject: @Redrobin62 |
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| I'm very sorry but, what do you exactly mean? |
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cammyyy
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Location: Ontario
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| Posted: Thu Jun 07, 2012 10:21 pm Post subject: |
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| I believe he means to drink and party and everything with them |
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ChemicalCole
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| Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2012 9:05 pm Post subject: @Cammyyy |
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| Okay, that makes sense. My answer is, No. Definitely not. |
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SpiritBlooms
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This too shall pass.
High school was a nightmare I'm relieved I don't need to relive. It will pass more quickly than it appears from your side of it. That's the only comfort I can offer, I'm afraid. I made it through with virtually no real friends, only a few acquaintances that I wish now I'd been able to be a proper friend to. But I learned self-reliance, and I can look back now at the experience as difficult but definitely survivable.
Be patient. Pay attention to what you're there for, an education, and let the social end of things be more of an educational experience than an emotional one. (I do not mean by experimenting with drugs or alcohol - best to preserve your brain cells for learning useful things.) If you can look at it that way, you'll probably get more out of it.
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thewhitrbbit
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| Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2012 9:24 pm Post subject: |
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| redrobin62 wrote: | | When in Rome...! |
When in Rome do as the Romans do is the full quote.
I disagree on that as advice. |
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ChemicalCole
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| Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 8:20 pm Post subject: Thanks everyone! |
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Thanks for all the inspiring advice! I see that I need to just go with the "flow". Keep up my work habits and get by with what I have.
Thanks everyone,
Cole. |
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lostgirl1986
There's a party in my head.
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Age: 26
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Location: Ontario, Canada
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| Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 9:40 pm Post subject: |
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| I just started hanging out with different people. It's hard to see your childhood friends change but something like this usually happens to everybody. Friends fade apart and people change and grow up. |
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infilove
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OliveOilMom
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People change. It happens and will always happen. You'll change too.
I wouldn't think they would have a problem if you don't smoke, drink or party. I have friends who don't and that doesn't mean we don't hang out. I have friends who party harder than I do and it doesn't bother them if I say "No thanks". Then again, at their ages they may feel like they want everybody in their group to be the same as them.
I'd suggest talking to them about it. Tell them you don't want to do certain things right now and ask if that presents a problem when hanging out.
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