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that is where "70 times 7" or "longsuffering" come into play.

Not that the disorder or disability statuses stand much chance of helping anyone. Practically any spectrum individual is better left to come to their own terms for their shortcomings.

in general, i believe your mental efforts in negotiating this world, won't have to be as strenuous as mine. you have the advantage of more mental horsepower to lift and wield heavier thoughts and more complex concepts. it is like the difference between what a multicore Pentium can do [with adequate memory] versus what a celeron can do.

As you type I'm wringing out my brain about cheap ways to get my hands on a few dual Xeons to overclock. I'll almost invariably be driving into the worst part of a huge city right after getting my car fixed just to save a few thousand, then I have to install everything I need to run before dealing with 'futureproofing'. This is so big and so small...

So you texted your friend about something that's important to you, something you're proud of, just like I'm sure he has done as well about other stuff, and that was so wrong for him?! He doesn't sound like much of a friend if he can't share or fake-share your excitement IMO. Maybe he's just a jealous insecure jerk who needs to be the 'best' in everything? Quite frankly if I had a skill that got me something I coveted I would find it natural to talk about it to those should be on my side too. Anyone getting upset over that wouldn't be someone I would bother with any more. They likely expect me to pretend to be excited about something they're thrilled about and that I find as interesting as watching grass grow.
I get what you mean about the one thing you feel confident about, and IMO anyone trying to sh*t on your parade about that is better left behind IMO. It's good that you have something that makes you feel confident.
Some people are proud of their face, body,particular skill, etc, you're proud of your IQ. I see nothing wrong with that. IQ is a far better thing to be proud of than something shallow like having the right curves or facial features.

When my mother and I were flying on my fave plane, the Concorde, I was so excited about it I told everyone I knew. Not to boast, but because I was so happy about it my mouth ran over with it constantly. And a dream flight it was. I didn't get any negative feedback, but if I had, I wouldn't have bothered talking to them again. Life's too short to bother with idiots, and there's plenty of bad news as it is, I don't need to make friends with the bad news.
That's my view anyway.

I made similar kinds of mistakes in the past. Now I'm very aware that it's best not to actively go and tell people about your strengths. Even if you intend to say it in a "non-boastful" way, it can still sound boastful to some people. So now I only talk about my strengths when I need to do so IRL.

SKilpadde, you got to fly the Concorde!! ! Wow, How awesome. You are lucky! I only got to see her parked and she was magnificent!

If intelligence is our only equalizing factor, our world will be small indeed.

Yep! Summer of 2003. It was the most amazing holiday I've ever had! The feeling of taking off and landing with her was like no other civilian plane. I tried the fighter plane simulator at Intrepid Air Sea Space Museum in New York and the take off with that one was somewhat similar to taking off with Concorde. She climbed for a long time and we were up so high the sky above us was darker than the time of day would suggest. The feel of her, the smell of her (a strange mix of warm glass, fuel, Kinder egg chocolate, that's the closest I get to describing it), seeing her delta wing (that beautiful, special, elegant, slender delta wing) from the window on our way to NYC, seeing the thermometer reach -58 degrees outside, seeing the machmeter reach M2, seeing her coming to towards the building when we waited at the Concorde Lounge, seeing her parking below, that beautiful little plane.... It was all so wonderful. She is the most wonderful plane ever built and I know I am lucky to have flown with her. It was just pure magic from we got to the airport and until we landed. Just writing this makes me sit here grinning, reliving it... We were also given a certificate and a b/w picture of her. When we landed in NYC the captain welcomed the passengers from the back of the plane (because they were now 30 cm closer, as she cooled down).
Funny thing, my mother was never interested in planes, but after flying with Concorde, she too fell in love with her! I'm sorry for the Concorde lovers who never got to experience her for themselves. She was retired too soon. She still had a good amount of safe flying time in her. It was a shame how Air France and British Airways decided to make her into a museum exhibit so soon.

Thank you so much for reliving that flight in this post. I am sitting here giggling with glee imagining I was there. I am so happy for you that you got to do that. WOW! Thank you for sharing the experience with me. Now I can imagine it and enjoy it too! It's a real shame she had to retire so early.

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Wow. I am envious. When I was a boy in London I saw Concorde pass overhead. The most beautiful shape. So lovely in the sky. You are lucky to have flown in that narrow cabin!

For the OP: somehow you hit a sore spot. Let it rest and don't bring it up again. Your friend will come back in a day or a few and perhaps explain or perhaps not. I would focus on the things you do that help you be friends and forget about this, other than as a topic avoid.

Sorry, OP for hijacking the thread. But it's the Concorde!! But I agree about letting this go with your friend. Hopefully you two will be fine soon. Try not to worry about it.

I bolded the part where I think you went wrong and insulted your friend, perhaps you should tell or remind your friend how this is one of very few things you have to be proud of to re-humanize yourself.

The way I read it, the part you have bonded was a thing the friend said, not Steelmaiden.

Thanks all for the replies.

I get overexcited at times about things. So sometimes I get overexcited about my 3D chemical structure modelling kit, or a textbook I'm reading etc. Sometimes I feel proud too, my IQ, and also my Dad's achievements (I really respect my Dad, he's my role model).

When I get overexcited, I talk about the topic in a very pressurised way. I lose my Social Protocol rules.

I wasn't aware that what I was doing could be construed as egotistical.

But I need something to feel good about myself, I suffer from chronic low self-esteem.

SteelMaiden, I don't think you made a blunder. I think he did.

I think some people get unnecessarily offended over things like this, but it's more them than you.

For example, I see people talk about their physical abilities without much issue. IQ, however, is something that one apparently should not talk about.

It seems to me that people often talk about their successes without being shamed for it.

Most people don't even base their subjective judgments of intelligence on things that relate to intelligence. Often it's more "I agree with you, therefore you're smart" or "I disagree with you, therefore you aren't smart."