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16 Apr 2014, 1:05 am

I don't know why but most of the women that hit on me lately are either Asian, Black, or Hispanic women more than other Caucasian women. :shrug:


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16 Apr 2014, 8:59 am

As a hispanic with a wide nose, it always somewhat bothers me when ethnic groups with that beautiful slender nose date other races with wide noses and coarse hair, there's just something terribly sad that's lost within their children; wide noses are quite frankly, terribly ugly, i mean black women straighten and dye their hair for a reason, and that's to look more white, they need to compete with those features which are undeniably beautiful.

I would guess because the place where my parents are from there was someone down my family tree whose black, although I'm actually quite pale, I don't have straight hair or a slender nose, which makes me look significantly uglier, and I've taken phothoshop to my face plenty of times to confirm this.

Not to say I'm against interracial relationships but ultimately I see something that's lost that was once beautiful -- a pain that I share. A person like me needs to make a monumental effort to let go of physical beauty and to grasp inner-beauty, which is a tremendously hard thing to do when you can't attract anyone, it can be done but it's a painful hurdle that will take many years to overcome.

That separation from beauty is a painful sort, which is why I wish that races with the slender nose and straight hair should try to keep it, though I'm not against interracial relationships, but It's more of a remainder that something is indeed lost.



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16 Apr 2014, 11:22 am

I know plenty of obnoxious and rude Asian women and plenty of meek and polite Caucasian women, this happens in every culture especially in today's modern societies. It all depends on the person, yes how they are raised plays a big part in the role but not everyone respects tradition these days, especially the youth today.

I believe it is mostly physical attraction to a specific gender vs the entire personality overall. But with that said people are attracted to what ever attracts them, so be it.

I am an odd mix of different races myself and race has never really been a factor for me when choosing a mate.

For example: on my fathers side I am Irish, German, Scottish, and Swiss, on my mothers side I am English and Ojibwe.
It doesn't make me any less polite, reserved, or honorable than say Asian women.


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16 Apr 2014, 1:45 pm

Klowglas wrote:
As a hispanic with a wide nose, it always somewhat bothers me when ethnic groups with that beautiful slender nose date other races with wide noses and coarse hair, there's just something terribly sad that's lost within their children; wide noses are quite frankly, terribly ugly, i mean black women straighten and dye their hair for a reason, and that's to look more white, they need to compete with those features which are undeniably beautiful.

I would guess because the place where my parents are from there was someone down my family tree whose black, although I'm actually quite pale, I don't have straight hair or a slender nose, which makes me look significantly uglier, and I've taken phothoshop to my face plenty of times to confirm this.

Not to say I'm against interracial relationships but ultimately I see something that's lost that was once beautiful -- a pain that I share. A person like me needs to make a monumental effort to let go of physical beauty and to grasp inner-beauty, which is a tremendously hard thing to do when you can't attract anyone, it can be done but it's a painful hurdle that will take many years to overcome.

That separation from beauty is a painful sort, which is why I wish that races with the slender nose and straight hair should try to keep it, though I'm not against interracial relationships, but It's more of a remainder that something is indeed lost.


I am biracial, with long curly hair and NO slender nose. Rather a button nose. I feel quite beautiful, and recieve compliments from all kinds of people about my features.
I feel sorry for you to be so brainwashed by this caucasian ideal.



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20 Apr 2014, 10:36 pm

How about if we consider the simple possibility that people have different personal preferences? Seriously! Maybe what is being vilified as racism is just a matter of normal aesthetic variance.

And, the issues cited are generally culture, rather than strictly race.



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21 Apr 2014, 4:44 pm

I have personally seen how some Black men react when they see me with a non-Black partner, yet these are often the same men that rejected me for being too dark or some other (often colorist)nonsense, and end up dating non-Black women while acting that way. I've also have had some White women react negatively too to me dating outside my race, though it's mostly of jealousy and racism on their end. It's a shame there are such stupid double standards in dating.


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28 Apr 2014, 2:16 am

I radically believe that EVERY s**t in humanity has a biological basis, take a look at this:


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Skin[edit]
Male skin is thicker (more collagen) and oilier (more sebum) than female skin,[28] but females have a thicker layer of fat under the skin and female skin constricts blood vessels near the surface (vasoconstriction) in reaction to cold to a greater extent than men's skin, both of which help women to stay warm and survive lower temperatures than men.[29] As a result of greater vasoconstriction, while the surface of female skin is colder than male skin, the deep-skin temperature in women is higher than in men.[30]

Males also generally have darker skin than females. The lighter skin in females helps their bodies synthesize more Vitamin D from sunlight and absorb more calcium, which is needed during pregnancy and lactation.[31]


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_differ ... physiology

That's probably where the "Tall, dark and handsome" comes from.

That's most probably while black men are seen as masculine hence more desired and black women are seen as less desired (an alarming portion of them in white-dominated countries remain singles).

That's most probably while Asian women are desired while Asian men are generally not.

It cannot be a coincidence.



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28 Apr 2014, 11:01 am

Cafeaulait wrote:
I am biracial, with long curly hair and NO slender nose. Rather a button nose. I feel quite beautiful, and recieve compliments from all kinds of people about my features.
I feel sorry for you to be so brainwashed by this caucasian ideal.


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06 Jun 2014, 5:53 pm

I'm married to an Afro-Caribbean woman.

I'm of northern European descent.



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06 Jun 2014, 6:37 pm

I think it's more a matter of personal preference, rather than reading into it stupidly.

I've liked people of many races, for all different reasons. Some races and cultures I don't find attractive. It's not racism.



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06 Jun 2014, 6:50 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
I think it's more a matter of personal preference, rather than reading into it stupidly.

I've liked people of many races, for all different reasons. Some races and cultures I don't find attractive. It's not racism.


You get a lot of points for separating aesthetics and personal preference from racism.



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06 Jun 2014, 7:21 pm

There is a massive difference between Hating someone because of their race or the colour of their skin, or their culture than a biochemical reaction in your own body that you have no control over stopping you from wanting to make babies with them.



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06 Jun 2014, 7:46 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
There is a massive difference between Hating someone because of their race or the colour of their skin, or their culture than a biochemical reaction in your own body that you have no control over stopping you from wanting to make babies with them.


Very true.



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06 Jun 2014, 9:02 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
I think it's more a matter of personal preference, rather than reading into it stupidly.

I've liked people of many races, for all different reasons. Some races and cultures I don't find attractive. It's not racism.


I wish more people would *get* this, as it's really frustrating to see accusations of racism hurled at people over what amounts to an opinion on aesthetics. I've always dated outside my own race, even married outside it, but I've also dated white girls, and it always came down to attraction pure and simple, no racial complications necessary.


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07 Jun 2014, 1:54 pm

Dox47 wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
I think it's more a matter of personal preference, rather than reading into it stupidly.

I've liked people of many races, for all different reasons. Some races and cultures I don't find attractive. It's not racism.


I wish more people would *get* this, as it's really frustrating to see accusations of racism hurled at people over what amounts to an opinion on aesthetics. I've always dated outside my own race, even married outside it, but I've also dated white girls, and it always came down to attraction pure and simple, no racial complications necessary.


I'm one of those people that don't *get* it. I probably never really will.



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07 Jun 2014, 3:28 pm

Cafeaulait wrote:
I'm one of those people that don't *get* it. I probably never really will.


You think most people's concept of physical attractiveness is based on racial bias rather than aesthetics? Why?


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