Why I'm content with being alone (for now, at least....)

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equestriatola
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16 Sep 2014, 8:21 pm

Well, it will soon be the 1-year anniversary of my cousin and sister getting married (not to each other, however!), and one year out, I realize that I am almost 28, but am still single and still unemployed.

I'm just going to say this right about why I'm now at peace with my being alone (for now, you never know when things will change):
1) Me. I've realized that too many girls have thought I stalked them when I wasn't, just sending a message every now and then does NOT constitute stalking. Only if I did more constantly would it be that way. Some girls just did this to me when they misunderstood me. UGH. Their loss.....

2) My re-diagnosis in mid-March. Yes, I finally have some closure, and confirmation, and this has been a year where I've gone on some soul-searching journeys, like visiting anime conventions, going on thrifting tours (and finding some wonderful stuff along the way!), playing my retro gaming collection and attending sporting events. For me, being 27 and alone makes me more able to do these things.

3) Read this article: http://sfari.org/news-and-opinion/news/ ... -as-adults - It just explains so much to me, why I'm struggling socially and financially despite being ac college graduate. But I know that in the end, I'll still be standing and that tomorrow will be another day, so I don't let such problems get to me AT ALL.

4) Being at peace with the whole 4/13 thing. I know, I have said in the past that I am cursed because of it (both numbers are considered unlucky, 4 in Asian cultures, 13 in Western cultures) and the connotations associated with the webcomic Homestuck (which I LOATHE with a flaming passion). I just realize that those are only numbers, and nothing more than that.

I have gotten quite a bit of encouragement from my friends, however, and say that I worry too much. Do you think this is true? And what do you think I can do to help myself find my woman in the future (and eventually move to L.A. like I promised myself)? Do you have anything to say about all this? Post it here.


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17 Sep 2014, 10:38 am

I hope I've given people a better understanding of myself with this post, somehow. My time will come, hopefully....


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17 Sep 2014, 11:27 am

Interesting post. I enjoyed the article, also.


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17 Sep 2014, 11:48 am

equestriatola wrote:
I have gotten quite a bit of encouragement from my friends, however, and say that I worry too much. Do you think this is true?

Who are your friends?

Are they people who are in the same position as you are what concerns this problem?

Easy for others of course to downplay your struggles with this if you ask me.



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17 Sep 2014, 1:57 pm

^ My friends are a mix of ones I have known since grade school to today. A few of them are, as a matter of fact.


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17 Sep 2014, 3:59 pm

justkillingtime wrote:
Interesting post. I enjoyed the article, also.


Quite a bit of us here can relate to the article I posted.


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18 Sep 2014, 9:10 pm

I hope more people can chime in on what I have said in my initial post. I am not alone in this world, but sometimes I forget and think I am at times.


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18 Sep 2014, 9:21 pm

Not content but it's just the way life is. For now at least I have money. Maybe someday I'll be able to live on my own but it looks like that may require a second job and it was hard enough to find this as it is.


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18 Sep 2014, 10:44 pm

Boxman108 wrote:
Not content but it's just the way life is. For now at least I have money. Maybe someday I'll be able to live on my own but it looks like that may require a second job and it was hard enough to find this as it is.


That's one of my goals.


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