Alright fine I'll ask for advice...should I text dude again?

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So I was going and seeing this dude a few times a month, since we ended up not able to hang out much more than that since he had some family stuff and what not going on. Anyways initially I was just looking to meet new friends, wasn't sure if I'd want to actually date him...but as we hung out more I was kinda starting to like him that way. So last time we hung out it was a couple months ago, and after we where done hanging out I went to wait for the bus...had drank a little too much so caught the attention of a cop who stopped(I dropped something probably my bus change or transfer and reached to grap it and stubbled some so whatever cop had my mom and her boyfriend come pick me up otherwise he said he'd have to take me to detox because he can't just leave an obviously intoxicated person out like that since if they get hurt he'd be liable which makes sense so whatever. But I texted the guy about it but said it worked out ok and I didn't get in any trouble, also they way I drank I wasn't that tipsy when he left me at the bus stop to go home but it all hit me after I had been sitting there....uhh so not really his fault and in my perceptive not a big deal I just need to make sure and be more careful about drinking when I have to catch a bus home at night.

but I texted him, he texted he was glad I was ok and sorry about that I ran into the cops....then I was out of minutes and couldn't afford it the rest of the month, but I messeged him on facebook to let him know my phone was out of service and I couldn't get more till the next month...he messaged back and said he understood and it was all good said he got a job and so we talked some about that then I had to go or he had to go. But then once I got minutes I texted him that I have minutes now and haven't heard back for like a month.

So yeah long boring reading there, but based on this does it sound like a good idea to text him again or just forget about it and move on? If I did text back i'd probably just say 'hey, I texted you a while back and haven't heard back so was wondering how you are.' or something along those lines instead of like 'why haven't you talked to me bla bla bla.' because maybe there is a reason maybe his phone is out of service and he hasn't had internet access so don't want to assume anything....but kinda want to know whats up, like if he still wants to see me or not...otherwise might want to try meeting other guys rather than waiting around if it turns out nothing happens between me and him.

Forget about it imo

1 Month is too late.

meh?go ahead and text the guy. I don't see how it will hurt anything.

If you don't hear back from him in a week or so, you might want to just forget about it. I'm more of a 3-strikes kinda guy. 1st time we just forgot. 2nd time, maybe he was in the hospital. 3rd time, we're getting faded. Beyond that, it makes you look like an obsessed stalker.

Normally this is the kind of advice I'd give someone who wants to get hardcore about dating, which in my view is more about making friends than it is about a trip to the courthouse and making babies, and I've been accused of being perhaps TOO goal-oriented. But I think same applies here as well.

^ I don't think the op is a "dolled up in a flowery dress" kinda girl...

Just text him but don't mention about your previous text which he did not reply to.
Ask him about his new job maybe. Like "Hey what's up? Haven't talked to you for a while. How's your new job going?" Or something along that line.

Sorry about that. I don't have enough friends or enough to do, so tend to get worked up and find myself extremely depressed when friends or dates don't respond. It's hard to resist sending an angry message laying in to them and telling them how rude they are. People these days just seem inconsiderate. In your position I'd almost rather hear he found someone else and doesn't want to hang out anymore. That takes more guts but it's better than silence. I'd want a direct answer even if it's not the answer I want to hear. If I know I can move on more easily. If I don't know I get obsessive thoughts that just don't go away. Since it's been a month I think you'd be okay looking for someone else to date and forget about that guy.

nah. if he chooses not to respond it's up to him to re-establish contact. and he won't.

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