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Boxman108
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08 Feb 2013, 10:59 pm

There's nothing wrong with being shy. Sure you have people trying to make it sound bad by calling it "insecurity", but they are stuck in a narrow minded way of thinking. It's certainly been alright for females to be shy, so why not males? Those who are truly insecure won't give a **** about being shy; they'll seek validation wherever they can get it from.


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08 Feb 2013, 11:17 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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good stuff about shy guys




lolol empty set, you cheeky bastard



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29 Sep 2014, 7:04 pm

billiscool wrote:
so much negative stuff about the shy dateless guys well we should have some postive stuff about them
1-since their not good with women, they are most likely not going to cheat
2- they don't go to party's and get hook up on drugs or alcohol
3- they have no friends, so they have more time with their girlfriend

that just some I can think of.


We're more likely to be uniformed first aid cover or running sound at said parties - if we're there at all.



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29 Sep 2014, 8:50 pm

I find shyness/introversion attractive in certain guys as I don't like feeling overwhelmed by men (or people in general for that matter). People who are too extroverted are also more likely to overstep my boundaries.

What ISN'T attractive to me, and probably to any person with an iota of self worth, is when a guy talks about women as if we were a uniform group comprised entirely of lying, manipulative b*****s whose only purpose in life is to make his existence miserable by dating aggressive 'alpha males' instead of him. It's not just demeaning, it's factually inaccurate and a sweeping generalisation that you absolutely cannot extend to hundreds of millions of people on the planet.



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30 Sep 2014, 5:18 am

I never knew any shy guys. They just didn't seem to exist here.



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30 Sep 2014, 10:18 pm

Hmm I don't have negative things to say about shy guys, I like shyness. Your positives, however, are not positives to me!

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1-since their not good with women, they are most likely not going to cheat

Not cheating because one is not able to is not in itself a desirable quality in a partner. The shy guy could still be a jerk who would cheat if he got the chance.
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2- they don't go to party's and get hook up on drugs or alcohol

Why is this a good thing? Each to their own. Also I've met plenty of drunk shy guys.
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3- they have no friends, so they have more time with their girlfriend

Similarly to point 1, this in itself is not a positive quality. A decent guy works with his partner to spend the amount of time together that suits them both, regardless of how many friends they have.

The good thing about a shy guy is he is shy. That is a quality that some people find endearing. Any other positives are separate things that vary from shy guy to shy guy.



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10 Nov 2014, 4:27 pm

I think it's easy to stereotype "shy guys". I will say that it seems like the one I know is extremely shy to the point he sweats and shakes when attention is paid to him by me. He can easily talk about his work, but find the socializing part more difficult (stutters and fumbles through conversations about anything other than work). I know that he has never dated someone and that he desires a family. He doesn't respond to texts very often (even from his boss). He seems like he takes the time to think before he speaks and he is very kind. No he is not an "alpha", yet I respect him and find him attractive to the point that I would love to get to know him more in the way of dating. I don't feel sorry for him and if anything, I think he does just fine as anyone else we work with. I see his personality and that is what I am attracted to. He is a very good and genuine person - something that I place a much higher value on than "alpha" males. I've dated "alpha" males and they seemed to have no depth and seemed to care for themselves and what I looked like. I care how I look, yet I don't place such a huge emphasis on it that it outshines all of my other qualities. I care about my appearance, but I let myself enjoy life at the same time as much as I can. I chased after these alpha's when I was a younger girl, but my preferences have evolved to desire a man who has all the characteristics of the shy man I described above. I desire him not because I have no self esteem, it's because I think he is so strong in so many other areas. As I said, every shy guy is not necessarily alike and some may be jerks in their own way. I just want to let people know that there are cases where overlooking a shy man may be a loss that was worth exploring. In my case, I just enjoy our small talk and I will see where this goes. I know he is worth knowing.



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11 Nov 2014, 1:17 am

violetpinks wrote:
I think it's easy to stereotype "shy guys". I will say that it seems like the one I know is extremely shy to the point he sweats and shakes when attention is paid to him by me. He can easily talk about his work, but find the socializing part more difficult (stutters and fumbles through conversations about anything other than work). I know that he has never dated someone and that he desires a family. He doesn't respond to texts very often (even from his boss). He seems like he takes the time to think before he speaks and he is very kind. No he is not an "alpha", yet I respect him and find him attractive to the point that I would love to get to know him more in the way of dating. I don't feel sorry for him and if anything, I think he does just fine as anyone else we work with. I see his personality and that is what I am attracted to. He is a very good and genuine person - something that I place a much higher value on than "alpha" males. I've dated "alpha" males and they seemed to have no depth and seemed to care for themselves and what I looked like. I care how I look, yet I don't place such a huge emphasis on it that it outshines all of my other qualities. I care about my appearance, but I let myself enjoy life at the same time as much as I can. I chased after these alpha's when I was a younger girl, but my preferences have evolved to desire a man who has all the characteristics of the shy man I described above. I desire him not because I have no self esteem, it's because I think he is so strong in so many other areas. As I said, every shy guy is not necessarily alike and some may be jerks in their own way. I just want to let people know that there are cases where overlooking a shy man may be a loss that was worth exploring. In my case, I just enjoy our small talk and I will see where this goes. I know he is worth knowing.


not many women like you though :(



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11 Nov 2014, 8:15 am

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Nothing, shyness by itself is a weakeness.



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11 Nov 2014, 9:25 am

I don't see much good in shyness alone. Its mainly just a attribute. Like the color of a car. You couldn't come up with much of a list of reasons why green cars are good.

I think you are reading into it and ascribing other qualities to it, that may not be there at all.



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11 Nov 2014, 9:31 am

why can't more chicks see that we're better than obnoxious extroverts
probably because most of them are that themselves haha



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11 Nov 2014, 2:31 pm

I don't know if this is relevant to the conversation but I had to say it.
I love shy guys!! !! They are so cute and sexy



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11 Nov 2014, 3:04 pm

Toy_Soldier wrote:
I don't see much good in shyness alone. Its mainly just a attribute. Like the color of a car. You couldn't come up with much of a list of reasons why green cars are good.

I think you are reading into it and ascribing other qualities to it, that may not be there at all.


to much judging for what were all after.


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