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18 Oct 2014, 2:31 pm

According to one of my friends this girl who is in my social circle said about me "James is lovely but he's too shy"


Is that good or bad?



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18 Oct 2014, 2:57 pm

Short answer: bad



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18 Oct 2014, 3:04 pm

Cafeaulait wrote:
Short answer: bad


Why?



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18 Oct 2014, 3:12 pm

Not that bad.

At least you're lovely.



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18 Oct 2014, 3:22 pm

Uprising wrote:
Not that bad.

At least you're lovely.




Lovely in what way though?



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18 Oct 2014, 3:32 pm

IMHO...the girl that made the comment is saying that you are good looking enough physically (lovely), and this may include your manners as well, but that you are not outgoing enough. As soon as someone says "too" anything, its not a positive comment. Unless they say, "toooo cute!"



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18 Oct 2014, 3:36 pm

beady wrote:
IMHO...the girl that made the comment is saying that you are good looking enough physically (lovely), and this may include your manners as well, but that you are not outgoing enough. As soon as someone says "too" anything, its not a positive comment. Unless they say, "toooo cute!"



So why can being too shy push people away in some cases?



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18 Oct 2014, 3:44 pm

Jamesy wrote:
beady wrote:
IMHO...the girl that made the comment is saying that you are good looking enough physically (lovely), and this may include your manners as well, but that you are not outgoing enough. As soon as someone says "too" anything, its not a positive comment. Unless they say, "toooo cute!"



So why can being too shy push people away in some cases?

Gender roles and social norms.



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18 Oct 2014, 3:46 pm

What do you mean gender role uprising?



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18 Oct 2014, 8:03 pm

Uprising wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
beady wrote:
IMHO...the girl that made the comment is saying that you are good looking enough physically (lovely), and this may include your manners as well, but that you are not outgoing enough. As soon as someone says "too" anything, its not a positive comment. Unless they say, "toooo cute!"



So why can being too shy push people away in some cases?

Gender roles and social norms.

It can also mean that it makes it harder to get to know you.


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18 Oct 2014, 8:32 pm

Shy men are only "bad" according to dumb girls.

If I was sexual, I'd give you a shot. You're smart and sensitive, which is a lot better than some of the twits I've been exposed to.

Keep trying. You deserve to succeed.


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18 Oct 2014, 10:20 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:
Shy men are only "bad" according to dumb girls.

If I was sexual, I'd give you a shot. You're smart and sensitive, which is a lot better than some of the twits I've been exposed to.

Keep trying. You deserve to succeed.


I so agree with this post.I have never understood why being 'shy' is associated negatively.To me is extremely charming.
I am an introvert myself but tend to spout nonsense from time to time so people think I am apart from being AS a mental case as well.
So is it good or a bad thing?
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18 Oct 2014, 10:27 pm

Okay, so she didn't say that you are "shy", she said that you are "too shy". So shyness is not necessarily a negative quality but if there is too much of a quality it can be a negative, just like you could be "too polite" to the point that they wish you would relax, or "too friendly" to the point that they doubt your sincerity. Being "too shy" could mean that you are difficult to communicate with. Like one poster said you might be too difficult to get to know.