I really like a girl but don't know if she's worth it

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Chernobyl
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20 Oct 2014, 7:44 pm

I have had a crush on her ever since I knew her which has been over 3 years ago and the longest crush I've had other than her was only a few months. She's really social and nice but I have tried 3 times to talk to her online and every time she just asked who I was and I didn't know what to say. I know it would be really weird to tell her I like her as a stranger. All I know is that she at least knew my name in high school so I'm glad she noticed me that much. I feel like her social skills will compensate for my lack of them and that my intelligence will make up for her average intelligence. I was pretty surprised that she accepted my request on Instagram without even knowing me. I'm kind of nervous about going for her since she has some bad habits that almost make me stop liking her. In the past year she has posted multiple photos of alcohol bottles and using a hookah which are both things I strongly oppose. On top of that she's not even old enough to drink legally yet. I have already convinced a few people to stop smoking so I feel confident about getting her to stop. My only way of contacting her now is online and I really have no idea what to say. First I would have to become good friends with her and then I'd have to tell her I like her. I know she would like me if she knew me but I can't think of anything to start a conversation without being creepy.



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20 Oct 2014, 7:56 pm

Chernobyl wrote:
I feel like her social skills will compensate for my lack of them and that my intelligence will make up for her average intelligence.

Why does average intelligence need to be "made up for"? She probably thinks she is doing just fine with her level of intelligence and isn't looking for someone to come along and help out with that.

Chernobyl wrote:
I have already convinced a few people to stop smoking so I feel confident about getting her to stop.

She doesn't want you to get her to stop. Going into a relationship already having plans to change someone is very unhealthy.

I don't feel you have the right attitude towards this girl (or perhaps towards relationships in general). I'd work on that before pursuing her.



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20 Oct 2014, 8:04 pm

Just build a Robot girlfriend, it'd be much easier I'm sure!
Plus you can scrap her for parts to build a new one if she gets too b*tchy.


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