Have you ever gotten in trouble for swearing at work?

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I have gotten in trouble at work in my high school teaching job for swearing a couple of times in the past, and it has generally been, to my mind, something impulsive I said, rather than an intentional use. In any case, I knew I had done it as soon as I said it each time, and faced the consequences. I should say I have been in the position for 13 years, and this is something that has only come up periodically, and have only been formally addressed with it a couple of times in annual evaluations. What is concerning me now is that I have recently been accused of swearing at a staff member, and while I do not recall specifics, know that I did not direct anything at her specifically regardless, even though she took it that way and informed my boss, who is now conducting an investigation. I have been denying it because I did not recall doing it, and could not accept that I would swear AT a staff member, much less the mini-diatribe I had quoted back to me from the staff members report. But now I am not so sure (about the swearing, not about directing it at this person, as I did not); I know I have been under a lot of stress over not feeling very supported at work, and accommodations not being used appropriately in my view, and this person being one of the most frequent visitors, and I do recall I was irritated with this staff member entering my room and my saying... something... as they left/were leaving. Yes, I know. I probably DID say those awful things. Also other students have confirmed it with my boss. But they were not directed at her specifically, just the frustration of being interrupted and not respected (visits to my classroom by other staff for errand running are supposed to be limited to unavoidable circumstances, not just to drop something off to a student. At any rate, I would appreciate your thoughts, particularly if you have ever experienced anything like this before or have any advice. I may get another reprimand.. or worse. Anything?

At work, I've received a couple warnings, but I wouldn't say I was ever "in trouble". In school, I've been in a tremendous amount of trouble for the manner in which I try to communicate with people. Usually, it's just that someone misinterprets something I say, but other times they get terribly irate with me for using a word they don't understand. I've been sent to the office a few times for swearing at my old school. They always would give me a really terribly formulated lecture about how "inappropriate" it is to say things like "s**t" or "f**k", but I would point out (in the same relaxed, monotone voice I almost always use) that "inappropriate" simply means suitable to the circumstances & so long as circumstances arise in which such words might be used cathartically, to express a sense of comradery (as such terms often are) or for any other purpose, a word cannot accurately be said to be universally inappropriate. As a matter of fact, It's more likely to be appropriate at school than anywhere else I could imagine myself in the near future. Of course, that's the kind of talk that got me kicked out of that school. People really hate being corrected, especially by a member of a population they're trained to think of as stupid & incompetent.

No but I've received warnings, I try to curb my behaviour at work somewhat but I am absolutely terrible at it.

No, I have never gotten in trouble at work for swearing.

People think I'm weird at work because I don't swear... much.

No - but I have gotten into trouble at home for it.

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I sweared at my parents alot & had many meltdowns with them but I always manage to restrain myself in other environments like school & work. Things just built up there & bad everionment at home where I could let things out more caused me to let alot out.

I find it uncomfortable when people swear at work. I used to work with a guy who would swear like a sailor (no offense) whenever the boss was away. I found it awkward.

I will swear spontaneously if something goes unexpectedly wrong, but some people will swear gratuitously - when there is really nothing upsetting happening. I don't know how to take that.

I understand that.

yes.
I like many aspies have a very strong sense of justice.
got kicked off a 2 year nursing training course once (20 years ago) when I swore under my breath about the finance dept messing up my pay so it was delayed and I could not afford to visit my son (again).
The woman I was complaining to (again) took offense and reported me for swearing at her. This was untrue , I actually swore at the mess the finance dept had left me in not her.
However it went to a disciplinary and they took her word over mine.
I was already quite vocal about how poorly this course was run already so I see it as their opportunity to get rid of someone they saw as a troublemaker rather than someone simply being honest about something within their control that had a major financial impact on my life,
This led to a major meltdown and wrecked my life for a while.
The moral is don`t give the creeps any opportunity to sack you because you dont fit.

I try not to curse--I find curse words to be a poor substitute for actual WORDS.

I think official complaints about someone are sometimes made in an attempt to get that person in trouble. In other words some (nasty) people are waiting for an opportunity to get whomever they don't like in trouble. They will try to interpret the most innocent comment in an impossibly negative way, twist the story, take it out of context or simply exaggerate/lie so that they can get you in trouble. So it's quite possible that complaints are made by malicious bullies. I don't know if that's the case with you.

I never swear, which makes some people uncomfortable. Someone said I sound too formal. I cannot swear appropriately. If I do, it doesn't sound natural. It sounds rather ridiculous. So I don't even try.

Yes. At my last assignment everyone was reporting everyone else, and the boss didn't like me. I did say something (stupidly - this was before I knew I was an Aspie) and it got back to my superior.

I am still learning that even nice people are not to be trusted.

well, luckily i dont talk that much at all, so there's a lot less swearing as well.

aside from that, i seem to 'transform' slightly when i'm at work, into a lot more professional. io get a different stance, gait and behaviour, including language...