Please tell me it gets better. Please tell me there's love

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Brother, you need sex!

Getting a date is good, but for some reason when I go on a date and just being completely horny for the girl I'm talking too just ruins the ambiance of the date and NT girls can see that you are being nice to get them into bed.

What a conundrum how the hell can you have sex when the girl won't even talk to you or go out with you?

Hookers Escort and massages and strippers! Get the hornball self out of your system and train your mind that the physical activity can be done at a moments notice and you don't need a girl to like you.

Then...you can concentrate on her personality and relationship building activities.

more sex and practice makes you confident...yeah you'll pay..yes you are using woman but the transaction is mutual.

Madness you say...this is manhood.

Now go out there get it out have a fling live your 30s and then find the lady that will stick with you even after your awkwardness.

..and use protection if you go the hooker route...

You could try to learn something from each rejection, and make some improvement in your presentation. Like refining a skill by trial and error.

There is of course no crystal ball that can tell you what will happen. Its up to you to make it happen. And you can if you want it badly enough. I didn't say 'will', but 'can'. Enough of us have gone before you and found good relationships.

You just have to keep trying. And I'm sure you will. You can at least make women agree to go out on a date with you. Some men even fail to do that. You just haven't met the one compatible with you yet.

Also consider improving your physical appearance. I remember your post about refusing a female friend's offer to go clothes shopping for you because you believe you should be liked for who you are and not for how you look. You should seriously consider taking up on that offer. First impression goes a long way.

Edit: You're a runner so you're already fit. All you need are nerdy-chic clothes that fit your body, a stylish pair of glasses and a haircut. Think Dr. Spencer Reid from Criminal Minds. I think you can put it off.

Put it down to experience, the right one will come long sometime. The more exposed you get to meeting people, the easier it will get. It's hard being rejected but try not to let it put you off.

I'm the same age, and I always get rejected too. One thing I have learned is that there are different types of women. Are you choosing the right type of woman--one who will be compatible with you? Do you know yourself well enough to find a good match? I think if you keep trying, you will figure it out. I know it hurts right now, but the pain will subside.

Online dating is an artificial scenario whereby you meet a lot of people, take a chance and get rejected a lot. It's the way it works. It's a numbers game. Not every person will like you and you will not like every person.

When it clicks, it's awesome. But it doesn't always click. In fact it usually doesn't. View every date as a practice run and one day you'll be pleasantly surprised when it does click.

Finding a date is much harder than finding a job. When I interview for a job the people across the table can see I'm intelligent and skilled and I only need to go on a few interviews to eventually find a place that will take me on. When I talk to women I don't know what they see in me. They don't seem to give a s**t that I'm intelligent and skilled, that's for sure.

Talking about work with women seems to be a big no no even though it's what we spend 50% of our lives doing. They would rather ignore it and pretend it doesn't happen at all & the money just appears in their bank account after a period of time that they blank out of their own memory. Like the victim of some kind of horrible trauma. Presumably they have s**t jobs and they lack ambition, and they want to look down on me for actually liking my job. Screw them. Forgive me for having skills and a good job and enjoying what I do. That doesn't make me a boring person if anything it makes me a much better person than them because I'm not ashamed of what I do during the working hours.

There's no question that I'm invaluable at work, to find someone to do my job would take months of hard searching that would cause unacceptable delays to the projects I deliver for my company. I guess they have jobs where they can be swapped out for another generic person in like a week and a half if that.