Confessions of a female "nice guy"

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19 Oct 2014, 2:18 pm

Just read this on Cracked

http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-confessions-female-nice-guy/

I kinda relate to this. I used to be really pretentious hipster girl and think that guys didn't like me because they were stupid and shallow. Now I've mellowed they still don't like me, but I don't care anymore. I am happy with who I am now.

Ok, I do care a little bit. It's nice to be liked, but meh, I give up.

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19 Oct 2014, 2:32 pm

Stopped at the end of #4 because it's full of s**t.
Guys who repetitively get rejected are seen in the same way.

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19 Oct 2014, 2:37 pm

She wasn't saying it's any different for women. Why does it always have to be a f*****g contest on here.

* eidt- Putting it more politely, what I mean is, I thought the article highlighted the similarities between the sexes quiet well and it concluded with the woman realising that in reality her attitide was her biggest obstacle, not the attitudes of others.

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19 Oct 2014, 4:17 pm

hurtloam wrote:

Not making it a contest, it's the article the made it a gender-contest, this part for example:

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Guys that chase girls unsuccessfully are split 50/50 -- some are portrayed as stalkers or losers, while many are the noble protagonists trying to get the dumb/damaged lady to see they obviously belong together (a la Breakfast at Tiffany's). Their persistence is supposed to be sweet. If a woman is persistent, it's either comical or horrifying.

Read more: http://www.cracked.com/blog/5-confessio ... z3GctBQcdg

....Is not true; an unwanted persistent pursuer is always seen negatively regardless of gender, the males doing it are not as idolized as she claims.

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19 Oct 2014, 4:45 pm

I think she's talking more about media portrayals than real life there.

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20 Oct 2014, 2:46 am

Ok I got it.

The "men are dumb and all they care about is looks, and they want stupid, boring women because smart women make them uncomfortable" is a really common attitude I've seen in online dating sites; she's spot on in that.

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20 Oct 2014, 5:25 am

I think the author wrote the article poorly, but I think there is truth. Any girl can go on an online dating website and meet 600 guys interested in her, even if she's "fat and ugly" but she can't necessarily get even 2 of them to be interested in her for more than a week because of her non-desire to be emotionally and physically close to someone? I guess it makes sense, the author just sucks. So do stereotypes.

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21 Oct 2014, 2:08 am

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600?

You mean two armies of these: http://if-fit.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/3003.jpg ?

This would be the most popular dating site for ladies.

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21 Oct 2014, 6:02 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

886 wrote:

600?

You mean two armies of these: http://if-fit.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/3003.jpg ?

This would be the most popular dating site for ladies.

Leonidas really looks like a self-proclaimed nice guy just trying to woo her into his bed, should probably block his profile.. :wink:

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21 Oct 2014, 9:17 am

hurtloam wrote:

I kinda relate to this. I used to be really pretentious hipster girl and think that guys didn't like me because they were stupid and shallow. Now I've mellowed they still don't like me, but I don't care anymore. I am happy with who I am now..

Ok, so what about the 999 admirers that you have rejected/friendzoned in your lifetime, were they all stupid and shallow who wanted only stupid and shallow women?

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21 Oct 2014, 10:00 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

Ok, so what about the 999 admirers that you have rejected/friendzoned in your lifetime, were they all stupid and shallow who wanted only stupid and shallow women?

They only count as inanimate objects.

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21 Oct 2014, 10:11 am

What just happened? Did I miss something? That is sooo not funny today bearing in mind I just found out the guy I like is going out with someone else.

I've only ever rejected 2 men. One I had nothing in common with, the other was too young. That's it. I'm the one that gets friendzoned.

I think that saying other women are stupid and shallow is just a way of saving face or just being immature, the grown up version of "well, your just a poopy head!"

The author of the article is right in that if I look at my female friends who are in relationships, they are not stupid and shallow, so it is unfair to say that men are only after stupid shallow women because they are not. It's the same with men who say girls only want stupid shallow men when they get rejected. We just don't play the game right or have some off putting habits or something. The problem is me, not other people.

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21 Oct 2014, 11:13 am

hurtloam wrote:

What just happened? Did I miss something? That is sooo not funny today bearing in mind I just found out the guy I like is going out with someone else.

I've only ever rejected 2 men. One I had nothing in common with, the other was too young. That's it. I'm the one that gets friendzoned.

I think that saying other women are stupid and shallow is just a way of saving face or just being immature, the grown up version of "well, your just a poopy head!"

The author of the article is right in that if I look at my female friends who are in relationships, they are not stupid and shallow, so it is unfair to say that men are only after stupid shallow women because they are not. It's the same with men who say girls only want stupid shallow men when they get rejected. We just don't play the game right or have some off putting habits or something. The problem is me, not other people.

There are lots of other woman that are stupid and shallow, just like plenty of guys who are stupid and shallow...I think what can be taken from this is stupid shallow people get with stupid shallow people. And in my opinion most of my failed relationships ended up being problems from both ends I imagine I do not think relationships are one-sided therefore the problem would be both people when a relationship does not work out.

It is unfair to say either gender overall is going for stupid shallow people of the other gender

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