22 Oct 2014, 1:55 am
Okay, I'm not really sure what I hope to gain out of posting this but I just need to get this off my chest and I'm sure a point will evolve out this eventually.
I am currently 20 years old, halfway through my first semester at college, and faced with the depressing reality of spending the rest of my life alone. I not an outgoing person...at all. I literally spend all of my time either doing homework (honor student 
), playing video games, or traversing the internet. I have only been in one relationship so far and I'm not even sure if it lasted long enough to count. I guess what I am looking/hoping for is someone who also thinks that most people are crap and are not worth the effort but at the same time wants to love and to be loved. (Side note: If you think love is a feeling akin to butterflies in your stomach, you can stop reading this now.) I would also like to raise a couple kids and have at least some form of legacy after I die.
That being said, I am in no place at this point in my life to pursue a relationship. Even more so, I'm not even really sure what to do in a relationship as I really haven't ever had a serious one. I would also need to finish college (3 more years at the minimum) before I started anything serious.
I guess what I am looking for at the minimum is if anyone else can identify with this and at best, someone who would want to start talking and see if anything develops over the next couple years.
About me:
I really feel as though bulleted lists are impersonal so forgive me if I choose to write about me in paragraph form. First off, my first name is Zach. I am male, 20, and I just started my freshman year in college. I am a computer science major and I have absolutely no idea what I am doing after that. When people first get to know me, I can be aloof and distant. However, after getting to know someone, I am fiercely loyal and somewhat more talkative. When talking, I will usually have short bursts where I can vigorously discuss topics which are accompanied by periodic silences (hope you aren't afraid of "awkward" silences) where I have nothing to say (my brain runs into a dead end). I appreciate almost all types of humor except slapstick though my favorite being dry. I tend to be more honest than is socially normal. I do not mince words and will give you my sincere opinion. That being said, I am also a great listener. I also love to debate just for the sake of a good debating. Lastly, I am a SuperWhoLock fan and no matter what, Battlestar Galactica will always be the best series ever created that actually finished (even though I wanted to practically murder the producers for that crappy ending).
Who I am looking for:
I am looking for a female who is about my age who is intelligent, honest, anything close to fit, and feels about the same as I do. That's really about it.
I apologize for the small essay. I think this is the most I have written in the past month. Now if only I could write papers this easily...
22 Oct 2014, 3:41 am
22 Oct 2014, 3:59 am
Wow, you are still so young. I understand your concern for being single the rest of your life, especially when you see so many people of your age in relationships these days, but 20 is still very young. So many things can still happen in your life. In fact, many new things will probably happen in the next few years.
I not an outgoing person...at all. I literally spend all of my time either doing homework (honor student
), playing video games, or traversing the internet. Obviously... that doesn't help. You cannot expect your future girlfriend to just come magically knocking on your door with some flowers. You have to meet people in order to be in a relationship. Be it in real life (school, friends, hobbies, work) or online (dating sites, messageboards).
I have only been in one relationship so far and I'm not even sure if it lasted long enough to count. I guess what I am looking/hoping for is someone who also thinks that most people are crap and are not worth the effort but at the same time wants to love and to be loved.
I know some of those people... all with a personality disorder. Herein lies your problem.
That being said, I am in no place at this point in my life to pursue a relationship. Even more so, I'm not even really sure what to do in a relationship as I really haven't ever had a serious one. I would also need to finish college (3 more years at the minimum) before I started anything serious.
Well then... start to think about what you want out a relationship. What do you find important? What do you expect?
I guess what I am looking for at the minimum is if anyone else can identify with this and at best, someone who would want to start talking and see if anything develops over the next couple years.
About me:
I really feel as though bulleted lists are impersonal so forgive me if I choose to write about me in paragraph form. First off, my first name is Zach. I am male, 20, and I just started my freshman year in college. I am a computer science major and I have absolutely no idea what I am doing after that. When people first get to know me, I can be aloof and distant. However, after getting to know someone, I am fiercely loyal and somewhat more talkative. When talking, I will usually have short bursts where I can vigorously discuss topics which are accompanied by periodic silences (hope you aren't afraid of "awkward" silences) where I have nothing to say (my brain runs into a dead end). I appreciate almost all types of humor except slapstick though my favorite being dry. I tend to be more honest than is socially normal. I do not mince words and will give you my sincere opinion. That being said, I am also a great listener. I also love to debate just for the sake of a good debating. Lastly, I am a SuperWhoLock fan and no matter what, Battlestar Galactica will always be the best series ever created that actually finished (even though I wanted to practically murder the producers for that crappy ending).
Who I am looking for:
I am looking for a female who is about my age who is intelligent, honest, anything close to fit, and feels about the same as I do. That's really about it.
I apologize for the small essay. I think this is the most I have written in the past month. Now if only I could write papers this easily...
22 Oct 2014, 5:56 am
22 Oct 2014, 11:45 am
I think he means most of the people he's met in his life, platonic and romantic, are crap people. And they probably are. He's hoping to meet someone who's shy and is as introverted as him, but still has a desire to love and be loved, but isn't very hopeful about it because the people around him are so much different than himself (and, herself.) Isn't that true for most of us? I would think if we found said person we would absolutely put forth that effort, but seeing most people in college meet at parties, and with gender roles, it's incredibly difficult.
Now having said that, you're absolutely right. College life is one thing, but in order to meet people you have to put yourself out there. Staying online and playing video games won't allow that to happen.
And this is why I hate writing...Thank you for somehow getting that through that jumbled mess.
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