I've decided to stop posting thoughts on Facebook

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As I've mentioned before on WP, I used to get a lot of likes and comments on my posts, but since I nearly had a nervous breakdown just after the new year this year, I kept putting ''I feel sorry for myself'' posts, and since then I haven't been getting many comments or likes, no matter what I post, (whether it's interesting or cool or the same as what other would post, etc). Now it just looks like I'm talking to myself, so I'm going to only post pictures and stuff like that. It doesn't matter if you don't get likes or comments on pictures so much. It's just written thoughts. When nobody posts any likes or comments on your written thoughts and feelings, I feel like a sadistic, unpopular person who just posts loads of random stuff or something.

Just thought I'd share that.

It sounds like a lot of your FB followers were fair weather friends, as they deserted you once you were posting about more difficult times for you. That sucks! I guess people don't like to hear about bad times and sad feelings, and it's their choice to move on, but it's a pity that just when you could use the support and encouragement, they all stop interacting with you.

It's probably best not to hope for that from Facebook. I don't have an account myself, but from everything I hear, it can be used both for enormous good, and also be a place where people can start to feel neglected, bullied or abandoned.

Your case remind me of what happen in the end of this video. Not the entire case of course, but what happen when he posts about his "not so happy" life.
That's one of the reasons i dislike facebook so much. That thing is almost like a theater where most people try to show the good side of their lives but get strongly rejected if they don't present the kind of show that people like to see.
Stop posting there is a wise decision in my opinion.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QxVZYiJKl1Y[/youtube]

FaceBook is all bullocks. Stop wasting your time on there.

It is indeed true that facebook is built to get the worst and most hidden parts out of people, but I'm afraid the root issue here is not facebook but rather your so called "friends".

OMG I was going to post a link to that video, but Andrejake beat me to it. That video is absolutely right on. If you wanted to do an experiment, you could do the same thing and it would happen to you. And it's worth noting that you don't have to be autistic to suffer awful consequences from getting hooked on the approval of on-line "friends."

I have never bothered with Facebook. That's because I have an awful time making real friends, and Facebook at least to me comes across as a satire of what we go through trying to be "real" with other people--they often won't let us.

Not only that, but it's not like Facebook is the product--the users are the product and I don't feel like making Mark Zuckerberg richer than he already is. I've been exploited by enough people already.

If I'm asked for advice, I would suggest you stay away from Facebook, because it will be enormously disappointing to most of us. I think it leads to greater levels of depression and sadness, and it could begin to occupy so much of your time that you would miss out on things that are really better for you.

I think posting my thoughts has become a habit, but I never post inappropriate or offensive or ridiculous things. I often post things like something witty, or something funny that happened to me that day, or what I enjoy, or even something what's going on in the media or a useful tip or something, you know, stuff people are interested in. I even went to a cousin's 21st birthday party a few months ago and put ''had a great time out tonight'', and my cousin had put a few pictures of me with some others at the party, which is a social thing, but all I got on my post was a usual comment from an annoying man (I've unfriended him a few weeks ago because he started to creep me out) just saying ''glad you're happy and very beautiful'' or something.

What bothers me is whatever other people write on their wall, they always seem to get a string of comments from people, even if their post is mundane and boring or repetitive or silly. At someone likes and replies to their post. So I'm going to give up, and just post scores from those quizzes that I like doing, and just pictures of myself and my boyfriend or friends when we go out and stuff. I'm breaking out of the habit of posting my thoughts, because it doesn't seem to be getting me far.

But I reckon people have gotten so fed up with me just for posting a few downhearted comments a few months back, that they have hidden my posts from their timeline, but have still kept me as a Facebook friend just to be polite. Some are even relatives of mine, who live in other countries, who used to like and comment my stuff and now they don't seem to any more, even though they're still on Facebook a lot. So if I have somehow annoyed some of my own relatives then I must have been really, really annoying.

Oh, and yes I do like and comment on other people's posts.

It's probably better not to rely on Facebook as a source of solace.

How's everything going with your relationship?

It's going well, thanks for asking. We've been together 3 months now and haven't argued once, and if an awkward situation does arise we just compromise (no rhyme intended ). I know 3 months is not that long but I still have a feeling we will get on as a couple, and I have very high levels of empahy so I can understand his side of things and not think of myself. He said that himself.

He is not on Facebook. I haven't posted my thoughts on Facebook since Monday, and I'm trying to keep it up, and pretty soon I will be used to not posting thoughts on Facebook and then will be out of the habit altogether. I've been posting things like videos I found and quotes and quiz resuls, those sorts of things, but not anything too personal. Sometimes it is best to just keep quiet. I often think of something in my head and have an urge to put it on Facebook, but I then have to force myself to stop. Instead I just write little things in a journal instead, pretending the journal is Facebook. That helps.

I think that's a great idea. Facebook is not for one who values his/her privacy. Keeping a journal/diary is a great thing to do. Most of the great literary figures, especially women, did so.

I'm glad you're getting on well with your boyfriend.

I just actually reactivated my account, then after a day deactivated it because Facebook is so full of sh***y beliefs and sh***y people.

No one talks to me or posts to me on Facebook besides my parents. I don't have any friends left so it's not like I'll make any new ones. The only people that seem to want to interact with me are creepy men that put comments like "keep smiling beautiful!" I did have one such guy that would post these comments constantly so I blocked him.

I had an annoying creepy old man keep on commenting stuff like that on my Facebook too, so I unfriended him. I don't know why he keeps on chasing after me for, because for one thing he's married, and another thing he's, like, seventy years old! Yuk!! ! When I see him about in town he says ''I haven't seen you online for a while'' like he hasn't figured out that I have unfriended him. I always say ''I'm still online'' with a shrug, and I just want him to figure out for himself why he hasn't seen me online lately. That's the best way to do it.

I have a few work colleagues on Facebook, but they talk to me more in work than they do on Facebook, even though they often go on Facebook and post stuff. Sometimes they will like or comment on a post of mine, and I often have conversations with one of them in the private messages bit, but other than that, I don't often get a lot of feedback on the things I post. I have a few cousins on Facebook too, and sometimes one or two of them will like and comment on my stuff but not often, and besides a lot of them don't go on Facebook a lot.

So I just decided that sharing random thoughts on Facebook is actually giving the impression to some Facebook friends that I'm unpopular, being so I don't get much feedback on what I post. So now I've just been posting videos and pictures and quotes that I can relate to. Sometimes people share them, which is, to me, as good as a like or a comment because it still makes you feel acknowledged. So that's all I'm going to do if I do fancy expressing my feelings online (well, only confirmed friends can see my statuses anyway). I might post a few pictures if I go out somewhere with my boyfriend or with a friend, or post something like ''enjoyed my day out at London'' or something like that, but that's it. Usually posting stuff that you do seems to get people's attention and they like or comment on your post. Well, that works with me anyway.