My therapist is abusing me.

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Agreed about recording the session if it's legal in your state.

I really hope you get away from that evil therapist soon. You do not deserve to be treated like that. *hugs*

OP. I am very concerned about you. This is really wrong. You may not be able to express your feelings to your parents because your upset in the context of this abusive professional relationship, but you need to try.

I suggest you write a letter to your parents, much like what you've written here. You don't necessarily have to give it to them. But it can help you order your thoughts.

Recording or not recording. You can still document what he has said to you. Recording can make it easier.

Not only should you stop seeing this person, but if what you've said is true to even the slightest degree this person should not be a licensed therapist! It's not your responsibility to get this person's license revoked, but if you feel strong enough I think you should very much consider making a complaint to this person's professional board. This sounds like very bad practice indeed!

Fire the f*****g bastard.

I have talked to people who have had good experiences with psychs, my NT daughter included. But few to none know how to support someone with autism.

The first rule of autism is "Do not believe the lies". We are not NT. They do not (as a group, there are individuals who do understand) know who we are. They think we are defective because we do not like they do. Autism is a different way of thinking. They are confused that we are a different way of being. They are not up to the task.

Dear O.P.:

This therapist sounds like an absolute piece of worm excrement. I generally hate therapists. I think most of them are on a power trip and that they are part of the scum of the planet. From what you have told me, you have grounds to file a law-suit against your therapist to have his license removed.

The only therapist who can help is a licensed social worker trained in autism spectrum disorders. Regular therapists are not equipped to handle non-NTs.

This is NOT how any therapist should deal with a patient/client. This isn't some kind of healthy pushing toward healthier and stronger coping strategies for life...this is outright verbal and emotional abuse. It's unprofessional and breaking boundaries. The guy is a freakin' psycho, to be perfectly blunt about it. Anyone trying to tell you what he's doing is okay is just wrong, no debate, end of story.

If you live in a state where it's legal to record without asking permission of the person you are recording, record him. Check online first -- google your state and "Is it legal to secretly record someone in the state of ___ ".

Your phone may have a recording app or feature. Find it and try it out at home first to judge where you're going to have to keep it in order to catch his voice from the distance you normally sit from him. Make sure the mic end is pointed in his direction to get the clearest recording.

Pretend everything's fine (don't burn bridges with him yet) and get home and listen to the recording to make sure it's clear.

Report him to the correct authorities. He needs to be struck off and never practice again.

What he's saying to you is ABUSE. Belittling, goading, insulting and mocking IS NOT therapy/counseling/the road to helping you be a stronger person. A therapist's job is to help you be a person who can cope better with the things you struggle to cope with. To function at the best of your ability as the unique person you are. That is never achieved by abuse, belittling and destroying a person's existing self esteem.

The job of a counselor is to neither enable/mollycoddle you, NOR to kick you when you're down. There is a middle ground that has nothing to do with EITHER of those extremes and anyone who can't figure that out (and I mean some of the people on this site) are full of it.

Others have raised good points about whether or not it's legal. But you don't need to make a case out of it. I think it would still be worth it to show your family that it's real. (not worth getting in legal trouble, but worth showing them proof)

I don't get if you are 18, why not just stop seeing the therapist, no one can force you to go.

Man, and I thought my therapist was bad when I was in high school. This is all bad, I would either report it if you know how or just stop seeing him. I wonder how he can even keep his license if this is how he treats his patients.

I never tell my therapist the truth, if possible, nothing she doesn't know. She just wants my parents' money.

Unless you want to try the recording device to expose him, which is up to you I guess, there is no reason for you to spend one more moment with him. Depending on what state he's in, it MIGHT be illegal and/or inadmissible. Stand you ground, there is no excuse for how he treats you.