Do the majority of guys with A.S. never get a girlfriend?

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Overall, i have been having these negative thoughts in my head telling myself that due to aspergers it will make it impossible to get a girlfriend, and at the same time trying to install a sense of belief that it is not hopeless

There most be somsomething wrong with my personality that people don't tell me because I look good but never had a bf at 22. So it also happens to girls

I've put a lot of effort into figuring out how to flirt and socialize, and I'm now considered "charming" and a "womanizer" because I get girls easily and go through them rather quickly with almost zero emotional investment. I've held a relationship up to 6 months, but I lied and cheated because she neglected me. You can certainly get a girlfriend and get laid, and the only reason I can't have long term relationships is because of myself.
Have hope! :]

I do feel a little more optimistic now, it's just the lack of intimacy, sex and companionship with the opposite sex in my life is making it very hard for me to focus on other areas of life

There's a Russian saying "hope dies last".

theres always suicide. thats my long term plan. though with how the world is going i hoping for a shtf or world war. mean sucks bunch of others will die but i don't really look forward to having to kill myself not to mention hell.

I don't recommend suicide to others though.

now the hardest part is taking action without being needy or desperate

I think for a majority of guys with high-functioning autism, they won't be getting a girlfriend until they're in their 20s. The teenage years is a bad time for a lot of us in terms of dating. Some of us have poor hygiene and we may look nerdy or plain looking to girls. And we have a hard time flirting and showing interests in girls we like so any girl who is initially attracted to us will either think we're uninterested or she will quickly move on to another guy who will ask her out.

And no offense to anyone here but I don't see a lot of really attractive aspie guys and I know at least 50 dudes with autism. Some of the guys, it's not that they're that unattractive but they don't put any effort into their appearance at all so it makes them appear even more unattractive. Like me for instance, I'm definitely not Brad Pitt but at least I comb my hair, shave, shower, and brush my teeth everyday. You'd be surprised how better looking you can be if you take care of your appearance and if you work out and try to either gain or lose some weight. My problem is that i'm really short and slim with a weird voice and an older face on a younger looking body and unfortunately theres nothing you can do about that but if you're tall and slim with a normal voice, you already have an advantage over me looks wise, all you have to do is just put some effort into your appearance a little bit and you will have more opportunities to attract women.

Being tall and slim is the ideal body type in a man. If you're between 5 ft 10 to 6 ft 3, you're the ideal height for attractiveness.

I looked up Susan Boyle and she didn't have her first boyfriend till she was in her 50s. That's pretty dang old to be in your first relationship. Never assume you're going to be forever alone because who knows? The love of your life could be around the corner. So what you didn't have a gf in your 20s or even your 30s? It could happen in your 40s or 50s when you've finally given up and you think all hope is lost.