Am I even a person?

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i've never become desensitized to rejection. in fact it wore me down so much i don't try to ask women out anymore.


also i'm not human so it confuses me when people treat me as such. like caring about me or asking how I am. though i pretty sure the latter is just required social talk rather then actually caring how a person is.

do they have a disabled pass? down here it gets us the pass at half off or youth price. so instead of 45 a month its 21 a month.

Yeah, I have read a bit about this apparently unnatural atruistic behavior. Normally creatures strive for their own DNA to be continued, but in the social species the workers assist the queen to perpetuate hers. Some tie it back to the near identical nature of the DNA between individuals, that these are nearly clones of one another. So one's DNA is as good as another's to replicate.

They have identified something of a career progression among some species of ants. As brand new ants they do certain inside the nest jobs for a while, and then later more dangerous outside foraging, and if they survive that end up back hanging around the nest in a semi retirement. In one species the old ants set up small retirement communities on the fringe of the main nest. Another oddity, for insects, is that some ants perform first aid on injured ants, by coating wounds with a certain medicinal sectretion.

Its interesting, that about half the biomass of the entire earth is ants. And they rule the earth (soil) in a way. Humans dominate, but we can not eliminate ants even if we wanted to. We can't even keep them out of our yard or house. All our power is only enough to share the earth.

The queen/worker differences are dramatic. But the queen does not have it so great in some respects. They are more or less imprisoned and mostly egg laying factories. The workers at least get around a bit. It is hard to imagine how a ant thinks. They do exhibit recognizable responses, like self preservation. There is something there but I guess far to small to consider a conciousness.

Yeah, I mean?that's the thing. People take it too personally. You have to look at the positives. If you get rejected by 1000 women, it means you asked 1000 women out. How many of us here have asked 1000 motos (members of the opposite sex) out? Not I! And, to be fair, given the difficulties we have just asking ONE motos out, someone who actually pulls that stunt off is lacking the self-confidence issues most of us face. If you're the kind of person who could do that, you're GOING to get dates because you aren't dealing with the same problems we are.

1/10 of that is neither unrealistic or unreasonable in a year's time, and I don't care what your level of social impairment is. 5 minutes, twice a week just saying "hello, my name is?what's your name?" and just getting two new people to open up to you for that length of time, closing with "It was great talking to you! Same time tomorrow/next week?" is really all it takes. Obviously it's going to take more than that to work up to asking for a date, but heck, if you see this person every day or every week anyway, what's the big deal? If you get rejected, so what? You ask someone else. Cut them loose and don't bother them anymore if you ask them out three times in as many months. You ought to be getting at least one date with SOMEONE in half that time. Set it up the right way and you could get SOMETHING in as little as two weeks, i.e. keep it casual, informal, and, good grief, don't say the word "DATE" around anybody!! !

The only thing difficult about it is how easy it is. Rejection? It's just part of it. Accept it and get used to it. Is that setting yourself up for failure? Maybe. But look at it this way: once you go monogamous, you have effectively rejected every other motos on the planet. There isn't now nor has there ever been a relationship that formed on earth that didn't end. If you can wrap your brain around that FACT, rejection doesn't seem quite so bad. All human relationships, sooner or later, one way or another, WILL END. All that rejection does is help those relationships that DO form gain an optimal chance at extending their lifespan for as long as humanly possible. Rather than fear rejection, you should embrace it. It is your friend, not your enemy.

I often feel like this OP since i'm in my late 20's and still haven't had a girlfriend yet, I feel I should have had my first by either my late teens or early 20's