Online dating I only attract low value women.

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29 Oct 2014, 1:16 pm

I wish I won the lottery then my huge amounts of money would out weigh my social awkwardness.


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29 Oct 2014, 1:35 pm

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I wish I won the lottery then my huge amounts of money would out weigh my social awkwardness.


Yeah, money is what girl love more then sense of humor or macho behavior.



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29 Oct 2014, 1:54 pm

On the surface online dating would seem a good additional tool to extend ones exposure but I don't envy people having that option. It sounds like it more often is a crusher of souls.



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29 Oct 2014, 2:21 pm

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Yeah, money is what girl love more then sense of humor or macho behavior.

the word 'love' I believe is misplaced here.
Someone who loves money ...well i think they're the type who want to become filthy rich
Money is important but it's a tool for exchange.
So please don't generalize and put every girl's priorities in the same box, it's not fair... plus there's not enough space.

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29 Oct 2014, 2:59 pm

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I wish I won the lottery then my huge amounts of money would out weigh my social awkwardness.


No it wouldn't. The people it would attract would be worse than having no one around in your life at all.



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29 Oct 2014, 3:14 pm

exactly :o


=_=(my previous post now seems rather.. blaming..what am i turning into ..? i need to shut up)


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29 Oct 2014, 4:59 pm

To the OP:

Sorry you're having such a hard time. I hope things improve for you.

And I'm sure you're a great guy, even if the women you've been meeting don't realize it.


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29 Oct 2014, 10:28 pm

I'll take them..
as long as they look decent lol



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30 Oct 2014, 2:42 am

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They can't spell or hold a conversation, they seem to be interested in me because no one else is interested in them. I try to be nice to them but they have no personality, no ambition, nothing to add to the conversation. They have blank profiles and nothing to say for themselves. It's painful. Meanwhile girls with personality and intelligence all ignore me even though I message them by the dozen.


Maybe they think you're a "low value man".



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30 Oct 2014, 1:01 pm

I don't attract any guy at all.



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30 Oct 2014, 3:56 pm

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I think what most people are looking for when they pursue a relationship is someone who is a good companion. They could be the dumbest, least attractive person on the planet but they could still be companion material. Just listing your accomplishments and what you think others think of you isn't enough. People like personality and if you come across as somewhat narcissistic (which you kind of do) then nobody wants to invest in that.


^This^

Referring to people (men and women) as being of low-value is kinda arrogant. Your criteria is mostly intellectual, but people have other things of value to offer. I think you are frustrated because no one is appreciating you. You're singing to the choir there. I gave up on being appreciated by anyone a long time ago. I mostly just try not to be a burden.



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31 Oct 2014, 7:55 pm

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They can't spell or hold a conversation, they seem to be interested in me because no one else is interested in them. I try to be nice to them but they have no personality, no ambition, nothing to add to the conversation. They have blank profiles and nothing to say for themselves. It's painful. Meanwhile girls with personality and intelligence all ignore me even though I message them by the dozen.


Maybe they think you're a "low value man".


Yeah sure whatever. I am not wrong to have standards whatever the f**k you say.

I have a borderline gifted level IQ and I will not settle for someone who is borderline ret*d. I'd rather die alone. And no that doesn't make me low value. Now please kindly get a grip and leave my thread thankyou. I don't know why you are so desperate to give these women the benefit of the doubt when I'm the one who has spoken to them, not you, and I'm telling you they are not intelligent. They are not even average. If you won't believe me, it only shows the contempt you have for me and therefore you display the same arrogance you try to accuse me of. I bet if a woman posted a thread complaining about only attracting idiot men, you would not dare to post wise ass remarks, but it's fine to do it on my thread. I bet if a woman posted this, you would be all about "oh yeah sure you deserve an intelligent man" but if a man dares to ask for an intelligent woman, he is arrogant, a scumbag, etc etc. And then people post saying no wonder I have no luck, as if I go about messaging woman saying how dumb they are. Of course I do not. Why would I do that? What do you people take me for? Some kind of idiot. I'll say it again: gifted level IQ.



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31 Oct 2014, 8:25 pm

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They can't spell or hold a conversation, they seem to be interested in me because no one else is interested in them. I try to be nice to them but they have no personality, no ambition, nothing to add to the conversation. They have blank profiles and nothing to say for themselves. It's painful. Meanwhile girls with personality and intelligence all ignore me even though I message them by the dozen.


Maybe they think you're a "low value man".


Yeah sure whatever. I am not wrong to have standards whatever the f**k you say.

I have a borderline gifted level IQ and I will not settle for someone who is borderline ret*d. I'd rather die alone. And no that doesn't make me low value. Now please kindly get a grip and leave my thread thankyou. I don't know why you are so desperate to give these women the benefit of the doubt when I'm the one who has spoken to them, not you, and I'm telling you they are not intelligent. They are not even average. If you won't believe me, it only shows the contempt you have for me and therefore you display the same arrogance you try to accuse me of. I bet if a woman posted a thread complaining about only attracting idiot men, you would not dare to post wise ass remarks, but it's fine to do it on my thread. I bet if a woman posted this, you would be all about "oh yeah sure you deserve an intelligent man" but if a man dares to ask for an intelligent woman, he is arrogant, a scumbag, etc etc. And then people post saying no wonder I have no luck, as if I go about messaging woman saying how dumb they are. Of course I do not. Why would I do that? What do you people take me for? Some kind of idiot. I'll say it again: gifted level IQ.

I can complain about them all I want in this forum, they will never read it. Show me where I posted information that would identify them: That's right Sherlock: I did not.


Certain elements of your personality seem to outweigh whatever positives you may also bring to the table. It's not as though you're wrong to have standards or preferences, but to act as though these people are somehow inferior to you for not making your required characteristics reflects poorly on you. What makes them less valuable than yourself?

Some of these so called low-value women will find happy, fulfilling relationships while you stew bitterly about how they're beneath you. For someone with a "gifted level IQ" you don't seem interested in making use of it to improve your situation.


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31 Oct 2014, 8:28 pm

I'm searching for someone on my level, that's how I'm improving my situation.

Again, you are making the incorrect assumption that when I talk to women, I go on an angry rant like I have done here. Why would I do that? Can you elaborate on the "Certain elements of my personality that seem to outweigh whatever positives I may also bring to the table."

Or is that just something you say to be hurtful?

And are you suggesting, that I'm not allowed to get angry, anywhere, ever? Tell me, have you ever been angry, frustrated, upset? Or are you perfect?



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31 Oct 2014, 8:35 pm

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I'm searching for someone on my level, that's how I'm improving my situation.

Again, you are making the incorrect assumption that when I talk to women, I go on an angry rant like I have done here. Why would I do that? Can you elaborate on the "Certain elements of my personality that seem to outweigh whatever positives I may also bring to the table."

Or is that just something you say to be hurtful?

And are oyu suggesting, that I'm not allowed to get angry, anywhere, ever? Tell me, have you ever been angry, frustrated, upset? Or are you perfect?


You come off as arrogant and resentful towards the people who make themselves potentially available to you because you believe them to be of lower value than the people who aren't available. Even if you don't speak to them in the way you are here, you're going into things with a nasty attitude that won't serve your needs. I wouldn't assume you'd rant like this towards them, you don't need to for it to be part of your attitude.

I've certainly never claimed to be perfect, or that you need to be perfect. But I know I've had an amazing girlfriend for several years and may have some insight to offer into how you may be able to replicate this feat. :wink:


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31 Oct 2014, 8:51 pm

jerry00 wrote:
Yeah sure whatever. I am not wrong to have standards whatever the f**k you say.


Ok. There is a difference between having standards and pinning a value on another human being.

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I have a borderline gifted level IQ and I will not settle for someone who is borderline ret*d.


I think the same could be said for most people. I wouldn't date someone "ret*d" or even slightly "stupid". But it doesn't make them "low value".

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And no that doesn't make me low value.


I never said it does. I was reversing your perspective to what the people you want to date may think of you, afterall, you think it of others. Perhaps it's why you aren't getting anywhere?

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Now please kindly get a grip and leave my thread thankyou.


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I don't know why you are so desperate to give these women the benefit of the doubt when I'm the one who has spoken to them, not you, and I'm telling you they are not intelligent. They are not even average.


Does that make you better than them? It simply seems that they aren't a good fit.

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If you won't believe me, it only shows the contempt you have for me and therefore you display the same arrogance you try to accuse me of. I bet if a woman posted a thread complaining about only attracting idiot men, you would not dare to post wise ass remarks, but it's fine to do it on my thread. I bet if a woman posted this, you would be all about "oh yeah sure you deserve an intelligent man" but if a man dares to ask for an intelligent woman, he is arrogant, a scumbag, etc etc. And then people post saying no wonder I have no luck, as if I go about messaging woman saying how dumb they are. Of course I do not. Why would I do that? What do you people take me for? Some kind of idiot. I'll say it again: gifted level IQ.


*yawn* The whole point of my reply was maybe other people don't see you the way you see yourself. By all means continue to think I meant that you should date them, but if you have a gifted IQ, surely you should have grasped that. :roll: