Online dating I only attract low value women.

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That's all BS. Sorry.
I don't represent every female in the world but neither does your little summary ^up^there^. The successful relationships I have always have started as friendships. The ones that were total crash and burn didn't.

My very long term relationship right now- he is my best friend and we were friends first. There is no accurate generalization, really.

*nodnodnod*

I sense your frustration here? But this is a problem, because it may be a reason that you feel alone. I am routinely frustrated by people who simply don't see the world as I do. I also see MANY people in this community alone who are quite obviously extremely intelligent but they don't defend their actions by stating they are borderline gifted. They don't really need to; it is clear they are highly intelligent.

That said- as I mentioned, I understand the frustration of not having people who you can connect with that maybe think in the same way you do or view the world you do or want to discuss the same things you do.

I think one of the issues is that you present that there is something inherently wrong with these women and inherently right with you. That's not the case- you are likely different kinds of people. So maybe you need to try a new arena. Stating you have a gifted IQ proves nothing except that you like to tell other people you are smart, really. It doesn't aid in communication, relationships, or understanding.

I'm just being honest here in saying it can seriously piss people off because really IQ means nothing in the real world. It's a number that you are born into and if you do nothing with it but use it to defend your personal judgement of other people, who cares?

Maybe try meetup.com or similar. Find a group that might have interests and maybe you will find someone with whom you are more compatible. Clearly the online dating thing isn't working. I know you want to vent, but you are also getting pretty insulting at this point so people aren't going to leave you alone on that simply because you are frustrated.

You say IQ means nothing but what about height? That's another genetically determined number, and one that women use to judge men all the time.

Height means nothing in the real would either, but to women it's deadly important. Am I not allowed to think intelligence is important in a partner? But my potential partners are allowed to judge me on my height? How is that fair?

It's not *my* summary, in the sense that I didn't come up with the idea. I always thought that being friends first was the most obvious way to have a good relationship...then I joined this board and everybody seemed to be saying that wasn't an option - if you didn't ask the girl out within say three weeks then she'd friendzone you.

. . . but your post comes across as mostly being critical of the fact that I dared to defend my own intelligence, having been dealt with by you and others as though I were an idiot.

At work I have been interviewing job candidates for programming roles.

So I am a programmer, and one good enough to judge others. When I tell my employer, candidate x is competent, and candidate y is a no-hoper, they make important hiring decisions based on that feedback.

Repeating over & over that you are soooo smart makes you sound uber-insecure. Super-smart people? Usually aren't.

How tall are you? How fit are you? How bald are you?

And are the women who don't return your messages approximately as "attractive" as you, going by those same measures?

Because if you're a pudgy, short, bald & super-smart 48 yr old who emails only 21 yo blonde super-hotties who are super-smart... well, that's why you're getting no replies.

(If you rewrote your profile in an attempt to not come off as an over-entitled, condescending her, it'd probably help too!!).

Because if you're a pudgy, short, bald & super-smart 48 yr old who emails only 21 yo blonde super-hotties who are super-smart... well, that's why you're getting no replies.

Repeating over & over that you are soooo smart makes you sound uber-insecure. Super-smart people? Usually aren't.

How tall are you? How fit are you? How bald are you?

And are the women who don't return your messages approximately as "attractive" as you, going by those same measures?

Because if you're a pudgy, short, bald & super-smart 48 yr old who emails only 21 yo blonde super-hotties who are super-smart... well, that's why you're getting no replies.

(If you rewrote your profile in an attempt to not come off as an over-entitled, condescending her, it'd probably help too!!).

Why all this age-fascism? Do you have a problem with age differences in relationships or what? Some 20 years ago I knew a guy in his 40s that dated a 19 yo, and they are married since long and have a couple of children.

Sure, but it is NOT the norm and by far most 21 year olds would never even consider dating someone as old as their dad.

Not too weird imo. Pretty easy to see why they wouldn't want to.

Repeating over & over that you are soooo smart makes you sound uber-insecure. Super-smart people? Usually aren't.

How tall are you? How fit are you? How bald are you?

And are the women who don't return your messages approximately as "attractive" as you, going by those same measures?

Because if you're a pudgy, short, bald & super-smart 48 yr old who emails only 21 yo blonde super-hotties who are super-smart... well, that's why you're getting no replies.

(If you rewrote your profile in an attempt to not come off as an over-entitled, condescending her, it'd probably help too!!).