roygerdodger
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| I know most aspies have (or had) a tough time in high school or college, but was elementary or middle school tough for you? |
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TheMidnightJudge
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| Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 9:28 pm Post subject: |
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I hated middle school and elementary school both passionately. High school was a relief. Back in middle school I hated everyone outside of my family.
I'm quiet and reclusive but I have a couple friends and I get along okay with people. |
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GoatOnFire
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| Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:36 am Post subject: |
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Elementary school was probably the best time I've had in school, although I did have some bullying problems. I was homeschooled through most of middle school.
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Starbuline
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| Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 1:06 am Post subject: |
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| Elementary school was great. Middle school was awful. I got bullied a lot, and I seriously wanted to kill the bullies. |
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BazzaMcKenzie
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| Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 4:04 am Post subject: |
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not really, but I only had 1 school, which looking back was probably a good thing.
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calandale
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| Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 4:07 am Post subject: |
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| BazzaMcKenzie wrote: | | not really, but I only had 1 school, which looking back was probably a good thing. |
Yeah. My folks moved around a bit,
and it was pretty hard being the new
kid. By the time things got settled, I
was pretty heavily ostracized - something
I don't remember much earlier. |
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Eller
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| Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 4:08 am Post subject: |
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| Elementary school was hell. Both teachers and classmates were a bunch of unfriendly people. After that, I didn't have any social problems anymore. |
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curiouslittleboy
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| Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 4:55 pm Post subject: |
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| After being taken out of Kindergarten for being stabbed in the hand with a pencil, I was homeschooled from grades K-8. Was still homeschooled while seeing a speech-language-patholist while in 9th grade. Entered the school system officially in tenth and have been in ever since. :\ |
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Kilroy
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| Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 6:17 pm Post subject: |
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after grade 3 everything went to hell  and hasn't gotten better since (breifly in grade  |
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nocturnalowl
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| Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 7:07 pm Post subject: |
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Middle school stunk for me, especially 6th and 7th grade. 8th grade was a little better but still. To me middle school (or jr. high) is just incognito. Nothing special about it at all. It's like a hybrid of grammar school and high school. Plus middle school has that coming of age conflict and if you are caught in the wrong spot, it can be very very rough. Especially if you are a lot more timid and a lot more slower in development (mental, emotional, social, physical). And then of course it's harder for those who are more unique in a way others cannot understand.
I'll make it simple, jr. high is technically high school, but the first 2 or 3 years of it. (6-8 grade, 7-8, 7-9) hell I heard some school districts have 5-8.
Grammar school has Kindergarten, primary grades and upper grades, but at least we stay in the same campus, but with separate area on campus, lunch and recesses.
High school is more like that last few years to reaching some sense of independence but a lot more responsibility. Especially the final 2 years. My jr. year was better than my sr. year for some reason.
But I don't know what is worse: going to the same middle school that most of the grammar school peers go to, or a completely different middle school with different students. I did that latter. |
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KalahariMeerkat
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| My mother took me out at the end of 4th grade to homeschool me so I don't know what my middle school expireneces would have been like. My biological mother was mentaly retarded (my mom says she was probably just lowly functning Autistic and plus she was neglected as a kid) even before my birth people suspected there might be something wrong with me. Some people even tried to convice my bio mother to have an abortion and I am not lying. But when I was three or four I was FORCED to attend this preschool program for low income kids and foster kids called Headstart because the adoption wasn't finnaized until I was four because they wanted me to learn to socialze with other kids (they also made me go to coutless "therapy" programs in attempts to make me normal.) I don't really remember that much of Headstart except a bi-racial girl named Tiffany purpsolely turning the water to hot when I was washing my hands and not being allowed to bring stuffed animals anymore because you wern't allowed to hold them on the bus but had to surrender them to the driver until you got to the school and when I relaiated and had a meltdown I wasn't allowed to bring them anymore. I also remember dumb felid trips to places such as zoos and farms but you were only allowed to look at and not being disapointed with the petting "zoo" because it was just a bunch of boring domesticated animals I saw everyday at my neighbor's house. I found that kinda cruel and no one could understand why I had a meltdown. I had a meltdown on Valentine's day because I couldn't understand why I had to give the cards away. I had a meltdown almost everyday. I even started to think that crying was as necassary as breakfast and asked my mom, "did I cry today?" I also had a lot of VIVID scary reams at that age. Some I had on the nightly basis. I wonder if they were related to the daily trama I faced. As I said everyone knew there was something "odd" about me that wasn't normal. When I enterered Kindergarden my mom entered me in an school that was out of disctict because she had heard that the teachers there were really understanding. Understanding of NT kids maybe. All the teachers there were abosulte b*tches. I remember wating to get a mowhak die it pink and wear chains at FIVE years old. I had this werid OCD like obsession about giraffes having to be with zebras in everything and if they wern't I threw a fit. Ironicly we were given a worksheet with groups of various animal species and we were supposed to write the number of how many there were. One of those animal groups was a grop of giraffes and there was not a zebra anywhere. I started to panic and I didn't want to misbehave by throwing a fit. A bratty blone tattle tail who had been tattiling on me all day for breathing goes, "Teacher Jessie's coloring on her paper." The teacher gets up from her desk, struts over to mine with red pen in hand and X's out my zebra and goes back to her desk. The tattle tale smirks. I glared at her and said, "Just wait till recess." I didn't do anything except fight tears. I hate myself for being too submissive until about third grade but now I wish I would have throw a rabid Tasmianin devil style meltdowns to show the teacher just WHO she was dealing with. I would do anything to do back and do so. I spent the whole time until recess making out the girl who tattled on me and runining my zebra and at recess I hid in the bushes stalking her and when I did I litteraly ponuced on her like a rabid animal. I think I remember trying to bash her head into the concrete. A teacher cought me on top of her and made me stand in the couner for 5 minnutes. I think I just ran off when they weren't looking and hid in the trees unil I saw her again and then held her down. This happened at least three times and I was brought into the bulding and watched by a man until recess was over. I don't remember much but another time the teacher kept trying and trying to force me to write my name which I clearly could not do and was in tears by the time my mother came to pick me up. I saw her and ran to her knowing she would protect me. The teacher tried to grab me but I could not stand being touched and maybe it was the fact knowing that I saw her as a threat and trying to prevent me to get to my mom so I kicked her and kept running and jumped in my mom's arms. She about went baistic at the site of me crying and you would have though she would have ripped the teacher into peices. After that which was only about maybe three days of kindergarden she and my dad figured I wasn't ready and kept me home until I turned six. I was then diagnosed with ADHD and was going to kindie and the district school. I the teacher's favorite there and NEVER had a problem at least at school. In first grade I was diagnosed with AS and the teacher's little brother had it to. First grade was my best year. Second grade was okay. The teacher was a demon and threatned to send me back to kindie because I had full body tremors and couldn't stay in the lines when coloring. She also woud tie hyperactive kids to tables but my phologist who was well known threatned her that if she did it to me he would sue her himself. |
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medfly
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| i had a horrible time at elementary school. i was the weird kid that would always have meltdowns at everything for no reason. kids used to tease me just to get a response from me. i moved to NL for some time when i was 11, and i studied in a school there. i learned how to calm down and i stopped having meltdowns, so middle school was alot better than elementary. |
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Redrocket
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| Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2007 8:26 pm Post subject: |
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For me Elementary School, for the most part, was pretty good. My elementary school was a small special ed school. The classes were small, practically everyone knew all the teachers and other staff and I felt really comfortable there. There were a few bad times there but most of the times were good and fun. In the beginning it was interesting because I could not talk or communicate. I was in my own little world. As I progressed I talked and got speech therapy. It was a big learning curve.
Middle school or Junior High was a tragedy!! Going from a small protected special ed school to a larger urban primarily regular ed junior high school was a real big transition for me. I got teased, picked on and ridiculed by many of my peers. I managed to make a few acquintances there but no real good friends. I won't get into my experiences in junior high but most of the two years were horrible. The experience really set me back and changed me for life. I remember the first few weeks I would just cry in class because I missed my old school so much and how I was being treated. |
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nocturnalowl
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| Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2007 3:34 am Post subject: |
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| Redrocket wrote: | | For me Elementary School, for the most part, was pretty good. My elementary school was a small special ed school. The classes were small, practically everyone knew all the teachers and other staff and I felt really comfortable there. There were a few bad times there but most of the times were good and fun. In the beginning it was interesting because I could not talk or communicate. I was in my own little world. As I progressed I talked and got speech therapy. It was a big learning curve. |
My first few years of elementary school consisted of 3 or 4 sp. ed type classes which had in avg. of 12 kids each room. This section was apart from the rest of the school campus, so we were pretty much on our own and had . I didn't even know why I had to be in these types of courses until I realized I was having communicative problems. I would be sent to take classes in the regular classrooms (starting with the Kindergarten level) which were a huge difference for me at that time. In my last year which was equivalent to 3 and 4th grade (There was no official grade level since the ages were mixed around even though the oldest were about 9 and 10 and I was the youngest at 7), I started to notice some lagging in doing certain subjects like reading, packaged exercised assignments and certain projects. Heck! I even had trouble with certain long addition and subtraction.That and the communicating became more diffcult and interacting with my time in the regular classerooms were pretty hard. Problem was that I had to move and be put in regular classrooms and that is were the social difficulty really started to become more exposed. After that I had to experience some lagging in my young life which I still experience today. |
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