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Learning2Survive
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 Posted: Sat Jun 06, 2009 10:24 pm Post subject: What? No step by step guide for adult aspies? |
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Yea, what I said. Why can't we have a step by step guide for aspies to get their social skills and their life on track?
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MathGirl
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I'm sure there are books that serve as guides for adults with AS.
I can't name a specific one at the moment, but I'm halfway through the book called "Succeeding in College with Asperger's Syndrome" and it explains many social nuances. However, it's obviously specifically for those who are in college/going to attend college.
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pensieve
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Just press a bunch of buttons until something happens.
This was a sarcastic post btw. That's kind of my life motto.
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sinsboldly
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| pensieve wrote: | Just press a bunch of buttons until something happens.
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or 'percussive maintance' by smacking the thing till it works.
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flamingshorts
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| I notice that most books are marketed to parents of children with Asperger's. Cynically I suspect selling to the parents is easier than to the undiagnosed and recently diagnosed adults. I know I have bad thoughts and wont make friends saying things like this. |
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wigglyspider
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| Posted: Sun Jun 07, 2009 1:23 am Post subject: |
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| pensieve wrote: | Just press a bunch of buttons until something happens.
This was a sarcastic post btw. That's kind of my life motto. |
I like it. ;D
Anyway, someone recently posted a link to a social conduct video on here that was hilarious but also really accurate and detailed. It was instructions on giving a man-hug, and there were several others like it. That's all I remember, but it should be enough to find it by on google.
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wigglyspider
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| Posted: Sun Jun 07, 2009 1:25 am Post subject: |
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| flamingshorts wrote: | | I notice that most books are marketed to parents of children with Asperger's. Cynically I suspect selling to the parents is easier than to the undiagnosed and recently diagnosed adults. I know I have bad thoughts and wont make friends saying things like this. |
lawl, no, you're probably right. It's because we're all unemployed and broke, as opposed to parents, who will basically buy anything kid-related. (I'M the one who's not going to be making any friends. :B )
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Who_Am_I
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| Posted: Sun Jun 07, 2009 2:28 am Post subject: |
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| sinsboldly wrote: | | pensieve wrote: | Just press a bunch of buttons until something happens.
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or 'percussive maintance' by smacking the thing till it works. |
That's a brilliant term.
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Learning2Survive
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lets make a step by step guide like a wiki for newly diagnosed aspies
step #1 don't fart in public
step #2 get a hair cut
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GoatOnFire
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Someone really should write a good guide to how to succeed socially as an aspie. Maybe NTs don't know social skills well enough to write it and that's why it hasn't been done that I know of. Should an aspie write it?
My attempt: I know a 12 step program would probably be better, but I only feel like half of that.
Step 1. Rob a few banks 
Step 2. Don't get caught 
Step 3. Flaunt your wealth to attract member of opposite sex 
Step 4. Sign pre nuptial agreement 
Step 5. Marry 
Step 6. Have kids 
*sarcasm* GoatOnFire is not liable for any damages caused from following this advice.
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Greentea
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| Posted: Sun Jun 07, 2009 5:54 am Post subject: Re: What? No step by step guide for adult aspies? |
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| Learning2Survive wrote: | | Why can't we have a step by step guide for aspies to get their social skills and their life on track? |
Because the non-verbal is non-verbal for a reason. Namely, because saying it outloud would be uncovering an underworld that we're all supposed to pretend doesn't exist in society. Nobody wants to write the "king is nude" truth, and nobody wants to publish it either. Even parents of Autistic kids have admitted that they feel extremely uncomfortable teaching them verbally what they can't pick up non-verbally, because it's admitting that society is a lot more phony than is usually acknowledged.
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| Posted: Sun Jun 07, 2009 6:03 pm Post subject: |
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| I will work on it, but my working title is, "Pandering To Apes." |
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millie
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I'm working on it too. The title is "How To Learn THE SECRET CODE so YOU - YES YOU - can communicate with Chattering Monkeys."
And of course it is just a working title, as I am loathe to offend any true monkeys when the guide finally goes to print.
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pandd
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I think "Pandering to Great Apes" would be a more positive title.
People are not monkeys. |
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millie
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^whatever............... 
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