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| How long do you have to be apart from your SO before you miss them? |
| I never miss them. |
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3% |
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| I never miss them. |
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3% |
[ 2 ] |
| A month or more. |
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3% |
[ 2 ] |
| A month or more. |
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3% |
[ 2 ] |
| A couple of weeks. |
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1% |
[ 1 ] |
| A couple of weeks. |
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1% |
[ 1 ] |
| A week. |
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3% |
[ 2 ] |
| A week. |
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3% |
[ 2 ] |
| A couple of days. |
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9% |
[ 5 ] |
| A couple of days. |
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9% |
[ 5 ] |
| A day. |
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3% |
[ 2 ] |
| A day. |
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3% |
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| A couple hours/I miss them when I blink. |
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9% |
[ 5 ] |
| A couple hours/I miss them when I blink. |
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9% |
[ 5 ] |
| I don't have a SO. |
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13% |
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| I don't have a SO. |
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13% |
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Serissa
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 Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 8:25 am Post subject: How Long Do You Have To Be Apart From Your SO... |
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...before you miss them?
Just trying to get a feel for "normal" here. Hey, this is better for figuring "normal' than just asking my mother! |
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tracylynn
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Location: upstate NY
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 This is a great question! I miss mine all the time (NT here), but I think he just figures he'll see me when he sees me, and that's just the way it is. |
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Bland
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| Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 11:07 am Post subject: How long before you miss your SO? |
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That's an interesting question, Serissa. It's something that has come up in my marriage more than once.
I do not miss my husband until a week to ten days has passed. And that's just the point where I start thinking more about him. It would take me a couple of weeks or more to actually feel a longing to see him again. I know that this is not normal but it's the way I am. I call him now out of duty when I'm away visiting relatives and I view it as a pain in the a**. But I realize that it's a courtesy and I should comply. I just hate it, though, because I don't feel it. That's the problem with social skills; it seems like you're faking if you don't really care or feel.
The only exception to this is my kids because I know that I'm responsible for them and they count on me for meeting their needs and for guidance. I must admit, though that when they go away to camp, I'm curious as to how they're doing, but I don't really feel that "missing you" feeling for several days.
I practically never miss my parents, extended family, or friends.
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Sanityisoverrated
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| Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 11:48 am Post subject: |
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baby
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| Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 2:39 pm Post subject: |
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i miss mine all the time, its just the feeling i get when i'm with him makes it hard when we're apart, i think about him constantly and am forever texting or ringing him, but he's the same so its ok
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DivaD
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that's a disappointment... i thought the question was going to be "How Long Do You Have To Be Apart From Your SO... before you feel up to seeing them again?" my answer would have been about 2 weeks, or at least it was when i was actually in relationships!
it takes a few months before i miss them.
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Serissa
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| Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 4:46 pm Post subject: Re: How long before you miss your SO? |
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My vote, by the way, went toward the amount of time it takes before I start to feel the worst of missing my guy. It's not this "desperate longing," but after a certain amount of time, yeah, I do wind up missing him quite a bit.
I only really feel anything like "OH MY GOD!!!! I'M SO ALONE RIGHT NOW!!!!" about once a month, and I attribute this entirely to being bombarded by stupid female hormones and therefore do not count this time as a time in which I am in my right mind, and it therefore doesn't count.  ((God, when I'm PMSing, it's BETTER that I'm alone, I feel like total crap either way, and at least when i'm alone, the only person I'm acting like a basket case in front of is the cat (I also tend to avoid my friends if I can do so if I think I'm going to burst into tears in front of them for no real reason).))
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I practically never miss my parents, extended family, or friends. |
I don't either, though I do feel the need to contact them for reasons other than to ask favors every so often. |
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Belfast
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Location: New England
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| Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 5:42 pm Post subject: Re: How long before you miss your SO? |
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| Bland wrote: | | I do not miss my husband until a week to ten days has passed. And that's just the point where I start thinking more about him. It would take me a couple of weeks or more to actually feel a longing to see him again. I know that this is not normal but it's the way I am. |
Does anyone feel normal in any way ? I'm hardly a bastion of moderation, I consider myself extreme-in particular areas.
I voted that I miss my partner after only a couple hours. He works (I don't) and sleep takes up more time, then it'll seem like ages (actually one day) since we've both been awake together. I don't like to be alone, I enjoy it only when it's brief & has a finite end. Like to be "alone with" one person at a time.
| Bland wrote: | | I practically never miss my parents, extended family, or friends. |
Wish I got along with my family but I don't, so I don't miss them.
Stay in touch w/couple friends by phone, don't have to share the same environment-it's convenient when we're each busy doing things while talking. I'd much rather hang out w/them in person, but we're separated by geography. Miss how someone makes me feel, the mentality & how we interact-the few people I seek out for their positive influence on me.
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PhoenixKitten
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| Posted: Tue Jan 17, 2006 6:47 pm Post subject: |
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I'm going nuts without mine... and I haven't even met him yet! 
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Nomaken
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| Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 11:41 am Post subject: |
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Like 20 minutes - If i have something to distract me.
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SuXEed
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sorry for my ignorance, but what is an SO?
eidt: thanks serissa
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Serissa
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| Posted: Wed Jan 18, 2006 7:41 pm Post subject: |
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| SuXEed wrote: | | sorry for my ignorance, but what is an SO? |
Significant other. Boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, etc. |
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Nomaken
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Cats don't count? My cat is very signifigant to me.
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hale_bopp
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| Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 8:35 pm Post subject: |
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I voted for the first option, because to be quite frank, my most recent relationship sucked. The guy was the complete opposite.
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Absolute_Zero
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| Posted: Thu Jan 19, 2006 9:43 pm Post subject: |
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| My so....... what? |
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