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| do you find that you are aquiring survival skills..and adapting? |
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SamanthaBlake
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Mar 11, 2009
Age: 16
Posts: 32
Location: south florida,suberbia,swampland,the middle of nowhere
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 Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 12:21 pm Post subject: coping skills for becoming a young adult. |
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| I am 16 and hardly as independant as my contemporaries I cant make myself a meal,wash clothing,make my bed,have a sense of direction or time and the list goes on.My mental capacities are far greater then my parents friends but I am useless in terms of motivation.As my aspergers is becoming less noticeable and I am somewhat adapting I find that I am not developing the skills required to survive on my own.what should I do? |
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demeus
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Joined: Jul 25, 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 12:27 pm Post subject: |
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| You need to learn these skills somehow, whether it be through parents, school, or some other method. It is good that at 16, you realize this and can make the changes now when they are cheap rather than later when it gets more expensive to learn them. |
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SamanthaBlake
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Mar 11, 2009
Age: 16
Posts: 32
Location: south florida,suberbia,swampland,the middle of nowhere
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| Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 12:31 pm Post subject: |
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| why would it be expensive? |
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kc8ufv
Deinonychus
Joined: Jul 28, 2008
Age: 27
Posts: 345
Location: Toledo, OH
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| Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 12:43 pm Post subject: |
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| SamanthaBlake wrote: | | why would it be expensive? |
Hiring a maid/housekeeper to do these things long term would be expensive. |
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Prof_Pretorius
troubled Soul
Joined: Aug 21, 2006
Age: 51
Posts: 5872
Location: Hiding in the attic of the Arkham Library
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| Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 1:10 pm Post subject: |
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Come now, you can't open a can of beans into a dish and warm it up???
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sinsboldly
Free Range Aspie
Joined: Nov 22, 2006
Age: 59
Posts: 13216
Location: Oregon, USA
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| Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 1:27 pm Post subject: |
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| Prof_Pretorius wrote: | | Come now, you can't open a can of beans into a dish and warm it up??? |
put on the kettle and make instant soup, or instant oatmeal. . or TopRamen! Knock back a few vitamins, and plunk down two slices of bread and smear liberally with peanut butter and jelly. (yuk, I dispise peanut butter, but somepeople like it!) Put on baloney or tempeh instead.
helpfully,
Merle
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DW_a_mom
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Joined: Feb 23, 2008
Posts: 3194
Location: Northern California
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| Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 2:21 pm Post subject: |
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As a parent, I'm prepared for my AS son to take a little longer acquiring those independence skills. They are definitely much harder for him than schoolwork is. I know he won't have them by the magical age of 18, or probably even 22. So, we'll have to adapt as a family accordingly. Exactly how, who knows - we'll cross that bridge when we come to it, since I think his feelings on how things get done will be important.
Hopefully your parents are patient and understanding and willing to help you with the skills you will need. I believe you will acquire them - just in your own time and in your own way. So you need extra guidance for a longer period of time - it isn't a big deal, as long as you and your parents are prepared for it.
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puzzle62
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Joined: Jun 02, 2009
Age: 46
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| Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 5:08 pm Post subject: |
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| My sons are 18 and 20 yrs old. My 20 yr old has asperger, he doesn't work or drive. He has learned recently to make sandwiches or soup or microwave food. My 18 yr old has been doing that for years and can now cook from scratch, he also drives. My 20 yr old wants to work and drive but I think it is the anxiety more than anything. He and I are here alone alot since I had foot surgery a couple weeks ago, while my husband is working and my 18 yr old is at a friends we have to fend for ourselves and it's tough, I'll be glad when my foot heals. I know my son wants to be independent i just don't know when it will be.I've put a sign up over the washing machine but he still won't do his own laundry. |
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