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cutepuppy
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 Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 2:35 am Post subject: "internet girls" |
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It seems that any forum like this you go to its the same.
The 'guy' posts are literally identical, except for the age that they are currently a virgin as.
I don't really care about guys.
I come hoping to get a little taste of how a girl thinks.
But what I realize is that girls on the internet aren't like guys on the internet.
What I mean is if you take the 'guy' post and make it into a female version you will end up with guys replying saying 'oh how id like u so mcuh'.
Before long the girl has made internet boyfriends and is likely being bombarded with complements and 'confidence builders'.
She then goes from being low self esteem/depressed to a happy person, because people (guys) talk to her all the time.
This ticks me for some reason, I guess because of seeing it happen like with every girl? And then these same people reply to posts with their 'wealth' of experience saying how you shouldn't have sex until you know the person for 6 months.
guys... don't use internet girls to gauge girls in general. |
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TonyFremont
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| Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 2:49 am Post subject: Re: "internet girls" |
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| cutepuppy wrote: | | guys... don't use internet girls to gauge girls in general. |
Most girls use the internet these days, so, it's pretty much the same as it is offline. Women seek out what they want in a partner, and guys keep trying to reinvent the wheel. |
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GoatOnFire
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| Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 3:08 am Post subject: |
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Just remember that not all girls on the internet are girls.
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MrLoony
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| Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 3:14 am Post subject: |
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| GoatOnFire wrote: | | Just remember that not all girls on the internet are girls. |
"And these women I've been chasing are all men.
I asked one to join my side
She just laughed until she cried
And said, 'Get your skill at begging up to 10!'"
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zena4
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| Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 3:24 am Post subject: |
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| GoatOnFire wrote: | | Just remember that not all girls on the internet are girls. |
And the opposite ! 
Many fakers on internet, many liars and cheats - on every forum.
As many and maybe even more than in real life. |
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Keeno
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When I first got the Internet I very quickly realised I could talk to girls on it. Ability to contact so many girls online improved my self esteem and happiness. Then, because I realised just as quickly that girls I talked to online were unspeakably disloyal to me, they seemed to stop talking at the first excuse they could think of to do so, my self esteem and happiness dropped just as quickly.
I now virtually avoid contacting girls online or trying to develop contacts with them online, because of this. It has to be done if I want to keep self esteem up. Sure, it's because they are bombarded with people wanting to talk to them, compliments, confidence builders etc. so don't see a need to talk to you. |
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zena4
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| Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 7:45 am Post subject: |
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But also, sometimes, you (or anybody ) can meet wonderful people!
Who are even better in life than on internet!
Yes! It's possible! 
At least, it happened to me.
And more than once |
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Maggiedoll
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| Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 12:17 pm Post subject: |
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| As they say.. "Welcome to the internet, where the men are men, and so are most of the women." |
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LePetitPrince
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| People are not real on the Internet , they always unawarely project different images than what they really are in real life, the question is ....what image is the least fake? the one projected on forums/chat or the one projected face-to-face to the public in real life? |
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Daniel09
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I severely dislike online relationships. It really is too easy for the opposite party to cheat and lie, and it's happened to me in the past for no reason.
I really prefer real life, because the girls are nicer, easier to connect with on a real level, and it's just over-all a happier experience for me. Maybe I just attract those types, but whatever, I'm not complaining.
When I'm online, I'm almost always a guy. I can be extremely feminine though, so I do sometimes portray myself as a woman in games. What can I say, it feels better. |
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Asterisp
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| Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 1:18 pm Post subject: |
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| LePetitPrince wrote: | | People are not real on the Internet , they always unawarely project different images than what they really are in real life, the question is ....what image is the least fake? the one projected on forums/chat or the one projected face-to-face to the public in real life? |
That is a good question indeed. In real life people also have different identities.
On some issues I would not dream of telling what I think in the real world, but here I can share those thoughts.
It would be nice to look at the character-tests (or psychiatric tests) from different personalities people use online and IRL. |
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hyder13
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| Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 1:34 pm Post subject: |
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| LePetitPrince wrote: | | People are not real on the Internet , they always unawarely project different images than what they really are in real life, the question is ....what image is the least fake? the one projected on forums/chat or the one projected face-to-face to the public in real life? |
Internet has a certain feel of anonymity so people can feel free to be more honest here than in real life...
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MissConstrue
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Actually, I feel more compelled to be a little too open and honest here than IRL. Yes there are things I still things I don't say here just as I wouldn't if I met strangers. But I find typing much easier than talking.
Now if we're talking about internet girls for sex, relationships, or romance.....that's a different story. Of course women are going to lie or exaggerate their positive attributes just as men do when selling themselves to the highest bitter online. It's like advertising yourself for a job....although I don't everyone is that bad. In fact, I find people that admit their flaws are more honest...yet less likely to attract since online relationships are mostly based on fantasies.
One of the reasons why I don't do online dating anymore. People put too many expectations onto other people and it's like going to the meat market. People will mostly base attraction off pics and their online personality. But meeting someone irl is totally different and that's where the true test of chemistry comes in.
Anyway I've kept in contact to one person online via phone. They almost talk just like how they post. It is a bit surprising but interesting when one feels less inhibited to type than to talk.....especially if you have weak verbal and social skills. But it's great to have share a basic understanding and support site in where you're coming from. We've been pen pals for a while, and I don't feel as embarassed about my condition than if I were with someone who knew nothing about my condition nor an understanding in where I was coming from. Communicating via online is easier for than talking. I find verbal words more frustrating to digest since it takes me a while to digest and process what is being communicated to me. Thus another reason why I don't like to chat online....you have to come up with something quick and witty....aspergers is a b***h when it comes to pablum chat!
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Zornslemma
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| There's often a discrepancy between how people are online and what they are like IRL. The thing is, I for one Do Not shower net.girls with compliments because that just strokes their ego and makes me look like a sycophant loser. I tend to be VERY Outspoken online and am not afraid to tell net.girls what I REALLY think and feel about the opposite sex. Sometimes I get frustrated and rant about women's behaviour but I am a lot more discrete about doing so IRL. |
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Ligea_Seroua
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| Posted: Sun Jun 28, 2009 7:51 pm Post subject: Re: "internet girls" |
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| cutepuppy wrote: | | It seems that any forum like this you go to its the same. |
I can't speak on this, this is the only forum I "do". Do you mean AS specific forums?
| cutepuppy wrote: | What I mean is if you take the 'guy' post and make it into a female version you will end up with guys replying saying 'oh how id like u so mcuh'.
Before long the girl has made internet boyfriends and is likely being bombarded with complements and 'confidence builders'.
She then goes from being low self esteem/depressed to a happy person, because people (guys) talk to her all the time. |
I rarely venture here into L and D, but I've only seen one example of this kind of thing that I can think of, (unless the eligible odd bods thread is full of it, I can't say I look at that much, I bet I'm the wrong age demographic for a start). I don't see this as a trend. So I don't think you can generalise about females on WP from that. There's been cyclical outbreaks of "females with AS have it easier than males" threads which tend to get quashed, yes, females present differently in some ways and therefore have different social challenges. So that's that one stopped before it snowballs
As for misrepresentation, that's the more interesting issue. People consciously and unconsciously misrepresent themselves ALL THE TIME, particularly when they want approval or acceptance. When you tend to err on the side of honesty, it is disconcerting when you find other people don't. I have come to realise unless something is an outright lie, the "airbrushing" of reality goes on a lot, and there's not much can be done about it. Sometimes the airbrushing goes on inside their own heads...I gather it's called positive self image:lol:
| cutepuppy wrote: | And then these same people reply to posts with their 'wealth' of experience saying how you shouldn't have sex until you know the person for 6 months.
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Yeah, personally I'm not sure people with AS are the best people to advise others on how to conduct their lovelives
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