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quietangel
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Does anyone else feel like when they communicate, either in person or online, that no matter what you said it gets miscommunicated?
I feel like getting myself a t-shirt that says "If I talk, I will piss you off"
Frustrated...
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hermit
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yes it happens all the time. More IRL but I'm finding online communication has it's own challenges too.
Often I find myself just cutting someone off and never speaking to them again. It's a terrible habit and I'm trying to break it.
Sounds like a tough day. Hope it gets better. |
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Sarcastic_Name
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I have to avoid certain people online because of how they are emotional and I can't tell.
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| I hate it having to go into detail to explain things I thought were perfecty clear I have also learned not to talk to some people or about some subjects becuse of all the explaining that follows or the people get offened and wont even listen to the explaination |
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Emettman
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| Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2006 5:00 pm Post subject: Re: Screaming into a black hole... |
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| quietangel wrote: | | Does anyone else feel like when they communicate, either in person or online, that no matter what you said it gets miscommunicated? |
The treaty of Brest-Litovsk. |
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Lonermutant
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| Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2006 5:02 pm Post subject: Re: Screaming into a black hole... |
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| quietangel wrote: | Does anyone else feel like when they communicate, either in person or online, that no matter what you said it gets miscommunicated?
I feel like getting myself a t-shirt that says "If I talk, I will piss you off"
Frustrated... |
I feel like that all the time. I often stutter and can't control the pitch and the volume of my voice when I'm nervous. I hate giving messages on the phone and I often leave to my mom to give important messages like getting people to repair stuff. |
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Emettman
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| Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2006 5:14 pm Post subject: Re: Screaming into a black hole... |
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| quietangel wrote: | ... no matter what you said it gets miscommunicated?
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Apologies, I couldn't resist my previous post.
I know whereof you speak, but your frustration and question have been communicated quite effectively, so the answer is no, not everything gets mis-communicated.
Nothing gets perfectly passed from one being to another, but "good enough" *is* good enough for most exchanges. Otherwise message boards wouldn't work, for one thing.
And there's feedback, where mistaken interpretations can be amended, and improved communication passed back and forth.
Which is not to deny the incredibly frustrating moments where people aren't listening, or are locked into their own assumptions, or simply coming from too different a world view for the gap to be bridged easily, if at all. Worst of all, when these come in exchanges which are simple, clear and obvious to *one* side of the conversation.
Err, does that make sense? |
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Liorda
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Sometimes, I feel like I'm talking to Martians. 
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quietangel
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| Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2006 6:23 pm Post subject: Re: Screaming into a black hole... |
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| Emettman wrote: |
Err, does that make sense? |
Yes it does. It just doesn't lessen my wanting to jump up and down and scream.
Thank you
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quietangel
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| Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2006 6:29 pm Post subject: Re: Screaming into a black hole... |
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| Emettman wrote: |
The treaty of Brest-Litovsk. |
I had to look this up,but I am wondering what the connection is... I am totally confused (my state of being)
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Emettman
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| Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2006 6:38 pm Post subject: Re: Screaming into a black hole... |
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| quietangel wrote: | | Emettman wrote: |
The treaty of Brest-Litovsk. |
I had to look this up,but I am wondering what the connection is... I am totally confused (my state of being) |
There isn't one, except via my twisted sense of humour.
I felt a pressing need to go for a complete mis-communication.
If it helps, I felt somewhat ashamed of myself for giving in to temptation. |
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quietangel
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| Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2006 7:18 pm Post subject: |
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ahhh no sweat
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hale_bopp
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| Posted: Tue Jan 24, 2006 8:13 pm Post subject: |
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YES!
It is my life story! Uh.. it's so frustrating, I can never win! If i shutup I get asked why i'm so quiet, and if I talk I manage to piss people off or look like an idiot. |
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quietangel
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| hale_bopp wrote: | | If i shutup I get asked why i'm so quiet, and if I talk I manage to piss people off or look like an idiot. |
We shold make this into a t-shirt!
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nirrti_rachelle
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