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SilverPikmin
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PostPosted: Sat Aug 29, 2009 4:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm sort of opposite to your problem: I have trouble understanding people. I hear them fine, but if it's sudden or unexpected, I often have to make them repeat it. I usually find myself in a conversation just guessing what the person just said; fortunately people are quite predictable. Smile Then I'm never quite sure how to ask them to repeat... 'What?' gets to the point and I use that the most but apparently it's rude (everyone uses it though), 'Sorry' doesn't feel right to use constantly, and can be misunderstood, and 'Pardon' seems excessively polite.
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PostPosted: Sat Aug 29, 2009 5:20 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

People can never hear me when I'm trying to speak loud enough, but at other times when I'm not trying to be loud, they can hear me perfectly.
I think that people are pretending that they can't hear me just to annoy me.
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PostPosted: Sat Aug 29, 2009 9:10 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

People either tell me to speak up or to BE QUIET!!!! Usually to speak up though.

Once this person said to me "You talk really fast and quiet."
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PostPosted: Sun Aug 30, 2009 5:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think I used to talk at what's considered the normal volume. Now I speak quieter. It sounds normal to me, but I also have really good hearing, so me talking normally feels like I'm talking louder than others would say. People get on to me for it all the time. >.<
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PostPosted: Sun Aug 30, 2009 10:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm soft spoken so I often have to repeat myself, it can be really annoying. My husband gets annoyed and says that I mumble, even though he admits to have hard hearing. I always get irritated with him for ignoring me but he says that he never heard me say anything to begin with. I know that most of the time I *could* speak louder but I don't. I don't know why this is though.

SilverPikmin wrote:
I'm sort of opposite to your problem: I have trouble understanding people. I hear them fine, but if it's sudden or unexpected, I often have to make them repeat it. I usually find myself in a conversation just guessing what the person just said; fortunately people are quite predictable. Smile Then I'm never quite sure how to ask them to repeat... 'What?' gets to the point and I use that the most but apparently it's rude (everyone uses it though), 'Sorry' doesn't feel right to use constantly, and can be misunderstood, and 'Pardon' seems excessively polite.


I have that problem too. Especially if someone has an accent, I can't handle accents at all. I usually just pretend to understand but that gets me into trouble too. Laughing
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PostPosted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 8:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I was always told to speak up as a kid. Now I speak loud enough (usually), but people still don't understand me half the time.
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PostPosted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 10:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Strangely I don't have a problem with speaking up in presentations for school but speaking to other people I'm really really quiet. Embarassed
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PostPosted: Sat Sep 05, 2009 9:43 am    Post subject: Re: "I can't hear you, speak up!" Reply with quote

tarepanda wrote:
Is this just me? I talk in what I think is a normal level, if not too loud but am often asked to repeat myself or speak up. I absolutely can't stand repeating myself and most of the time I assume the person just wasn't listening to begin with and stop talking altogether. Confused

Argh.


It's not just u.
happens 2 me too..

I can't help but think people are ignoring me.
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PostPosted: Sat Sep 05, 2009 1:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

It isn't necessary to diagnose one with AS.

1: A guy in my class doesn't have it but speaks low, so low that even the teachers ask him to speak up.

2: My one of my relatives almost screams everytime she talks.
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PostPosted: Sun Sep 06, 2009 9:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yes, I have had this problem. Back in high school, I used to practically whisper just about everything I said, except for when I was talking about one of my special interests, at which point my voice would go out of control and I was told that I yelled at people. My friends were always telling me to speak up, while when I would talk about my special interests to the teacher who was on duty at the library during lunch, I was often told to lower my voice because probably everybody in the room could hear me and it was very disruptive. I believe that I have, for the most part, gotten over this problem by now, in large part due to my friends constantly pointing it out to me. I still have trouble controlling the volume of my voice when talking about my interests, though.
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PostPosted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 2:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think the number of times I've heard people tell me to speak up, or you're mumbling, etc. has got to be in the millions. I just can't help it. I have a very quiet voice. Usually when I am talking at a "normal" volume I feel as though I am almost yelling and it's very uncomfortable. I have improved my mumbling tremendously though and just constantly remind myself to enunciate every word. If no one had ever told me that I mumbled I would have never known. So sometimes feedback from others is extremely helpful.
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PostPosted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 3:01 pm    Post subject: Re: "I can't hear you, speak up!" Reply with quote

tarepanda wrote:
Is this just me? I talk in what I think is a normal level, if not too loud but am often asked to repeat myself or speak up. I absolutely can't stand repeating myself and most of the time I assume the person just wasn't listening to begin with and stop talking altogether. Confused

Argh.


I do that constantly, my voice sounds fine to me but too low to others. I have very sensitive hearing and so most things sound to loud to me. Hence, when I think I'm speaking at a normal volume, it's really too soft. conversely, if I'm in a chaotic situation (to me, like a store or restaraunt) then i may speak too loud because to me, all the other sounds are too loud. does that make sense?
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PostPosted: Sun Sep 20, 2009 8:55 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

frankly it happens to me all the time Confused
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PostPosted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 2:45 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sometimes...... But most of the time no. Ussually if I'm told that I've been mumbling and not really confident in saying what I was saying or am just really tired ha ha.
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PostPosted: Sat Nov 07, 2009 2:14 pm    Post subject: Re: "I can't hear you, speak up!" Reply with quote

tarepanda wrote:
Is this just me? I talk in what I think is a normal level, if not too loud but am often asked to repeat myself or speak up. I absolutely can't stand repeating myself and most of the time I assume the person just wasn't listening to begin with and stop talking altogether. Confused

Argh.


Same here
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