anahita
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 Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 2:47 pm Post subject: why you are a virgin? |
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At my work one of my college and I are single (others are married) ,this single man and our boss are new in our workplace, in the first day work of my boss he impolitely said to both of us(in front of other colleges) both of you must marry! After that day I have a trouble to communicate with my single college and I can’t look at him have a very bad eye contact.(I have a ruined social interaction in general and my trouble becomes double).I am very introvert and mute, it causes others find me very special which I can’t hide it, most of the time my boss admire college(you are very good looking ,gentleman ,and every girl wants to be with u!!) today my boss said to him that there are so many of our costumers who ask about your marital statues , you have so many votaries,) actually I think he is so crazy that can say so idiotical things. In the other side he say to me you area strange girl (he admire him and abject me, I am so jealous to all of them.
This is my only wish “ to be enough brave” to tell them:
Yes this the way I am and what can you do?
You created a monster inside me
I hate you as you hate me
I don’t want to be one of you
It is the reason I will never connect to none of you(NT) in no way . |
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Tim_Tex
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I am one because I can't find anyone I am compatible with in that regard.
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sarbear1987
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This is a kind of... personal topic.  
I am because I've never been with a guy, especially not long enough to have reached the comfort that I think is required. I feel like it's a giant step because it's just so intimate. I'm not in a rush because I want it to happen with the right person at the right time when we're both comfortable with it.
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persian85033
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 3:32 pm Post subject: |
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I don't see why I should waste my time, and subject myself to such a disgusting experience. I just don't see the point, and I'm terrified of infection. I don't like people to touch me, or to touch people, either.
I've never even dated. I've never been kissed. Though I've never really wanted to, either. Watching people on tv is enough. And one must be ruled by logic. At least I like to think I am. |
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i_wanna_blue
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 3:37 pm Post subject: |
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| It's pretty simple. I'm not confident enough to have a relationship with someone, let alone be able to get married and spend the rest of my life with her. This and the fact that I've got a very small percentage of female with whom I am compatible with (I assume). I don't smoke, drink, do drugs or socialise in any mainstream way. How am I gonna find her? But this doesn't really bother me that much at present. Single life is ok. |
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Peko
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I don't really know what to say b/c I've never been in a relationship (and don't ever plan to be). If you can muster up the courage, ask this said colleague or friend if he's feeling alright since the incident. If he's uncomfortable as well you can both attempt to work together to get your boss to back off. The fact is what other people think of you two does not matter.
But I'm a virgin b/c I have no interest in sex, have never been in a relationship, etc. I think of myself as a panromantic demisexual w/ leaning towards hetero (seeking an opposite sex/this case male partner) b/c I noticed I don't like hugging girls (sensory issue)/though they tend to smell better. I also would only want a relationship that lasts a lifetime "without the sex".
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Tim_Tex
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 6:47 pm Post subject: |
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Shouldn't his go in either Love and Dsting or the Adult Forum?
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David1981
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| Posted: Thu Sep 17, 2009 10:55 pm Post subject: |
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| I am a 28-year-old virgin because I am unappealing to women and I have no idea to go about it. |
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Francis
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Sounds like you have a sexual harassment lawsuit.
When he said you both should get married. Did he mean to each other? or in general? Not that it matters, I just can't figure it out from the story. (i guess it'd be more uncomfortable if he meant to marry each other)
I'm a little confused on peoples answer to this question too. Most people have stated they are still virgins because they are not in a relationship or can't connect with anyone. For the sake of catagorizing things. There are two ways, you can 'make love' or you can have 'sex'. Making love would involve the relationship, commitment, and connection. Having sex is, well just that. You may not even remember their name the next day, nor ever see them again (hopefully).
So most responses have been why people have not 'made love'. That only answers half the question of "Why are you a virgin?"
I'm not trying to be obnoxious. I'm actually curious. Obviously, the being terrified of infection does answer the whole question.
Why is this not in the adult section? |
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Brittany2907
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| Posted: Fri Sep 18, 2009 12:29 am Post subject: |
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| persian85033 wrote: | | I don't see why I should waste my time, and subject myself to such a disgusting experience. I just don't see the point, and I'm terrified of infection. I don't like people to touch me, or to touch people, either. |
Those are my reasons too (that & I've never had a boyfriend).
The whole scenario just seems really messy and uncomfortable, and I'd only ever go through it if I wanted to get pregnant.
Oh and I'm only 18 so it's not like it's abnormal for someone my age to be a virgin (I think?).
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I'm not interested in the whole 'sex thing, in fact I'm quite appalled by it. However, I would like a relationship that lasts for a lifetime.
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wigglyspider
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| Posted: Fri Sep 18, 2009 3:38 am Post subject: |
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| Francis wrote: | | Sounds like you have a sexual harassment lawsuit. |
Why does everything have to be a lawsuit?;;; It always seems like way more trouble than it's worth. But maybe you could just threaten him with one. Thanks to all the people who really sue people, it could be a convincing bluff.
Anyway, you guys aren't really missing a whole lot. Well, at least the girls aren't. I can't speak for the guys.
I think sex is sort of like the NT "special interest".
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wigglyspider
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| Posted: Fri Sep 18, 2009 3:39 am Post subject: |
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| Henriksson wrote: | | I'm not interested in the whole 'sex thing, in fact I'm quite appalled by it. However, I would like a relationship that lasts for a lifetime. |
Dude, marry me.
edit: oh no wait, don't, I just saw your profile. We'd never get anything done. *epic procrastinator*
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Henriksson
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| Posted: Fri Sep 18, 2009 3:46 am Post subject: |
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| wigglyspider wrote: | | Henriksson wrote: | | I'm not interested in the whole 'sex thing, in fact I'm quite appalled by it. However, I would like a relationship that lasts for a lifetime. |
Dude, marry me.
edit: oh no wait, don't, I just saw your profile. We'd never get anything done. *epic procrastinator* |
I am actually in a relationship as of yesterday. 
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wigglyspider
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| Henriksson wrote: | | wigglyspider wrote: | | Henriksson wrote: | | I'm not interested in the whole 'sex thing, in fact I'm quite appalled by it. However, I would like a relationship that lasts for a lifetime. |
Dude, marry me.
edit: oh no wait, don't, I just saw your profile. We'd never get anything done. *epic procrastinator* |
I am actually in a relationship as of yesterday. |
Oh, well congratulations! :3
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