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Blindspot149
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It's mostly women that say this to me. If a guy says it, I politely tell him to go 'stick it where the sun don't shine'
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Blindspot149
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| Posted: Fri Oct 30, 2009 1:14 pm Post subject: |
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It's mostly women that say this to me. If a guy says it, I politely tell him to go 'stick it where the sun don't shine'
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PrisonerSix
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In the past, I was often told to smile and given long lectures from my parents about how not smiling was destroying my future.
Also my sister would say things like "come on, chin up, stop feeling bad." Ironically, she was later diagnosed with depression and institutionalized voluntarily not once but twice, and put on medications. She has always been something of a hypocrite and a purveyour of double standards. Apparently, it's not OK for me too feel bad but it's OK for her. Go figure.
If you point out her double standards, hypocrisy, etc., she won't deny she did it, she'll simply say "well that's different" and if you ask her how and why it is different she says "shut up."
I don't think very highly of her.
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Blindspot149
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| Posted: Fri Oct 30, 2009 1:48 pm Post subject: |
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| PrisonerSix wrote: | In the past, I was often told to smile and given long lectures from my parents about how not smiling was destroying my future.
Also my sister would say things like "come on, chin up, stop feeling bad." Ironically, she was later diagnosed with depression and institutionalized voluntarily not once but twice, and put on medications. She has always been something of a hypocrite and a purveyour of double standards. Apparently, it's not OK for me too feel bad but it's OK for her. Go figure.
If you point out her double standards, hypocrisy, etc., she won't deny she did it, she'll simply say "well that's different" and if you ask her how and why it is different she says "shut up."
I don't think very highly of her. |
Well, her rebuttals could use a little work 
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AmberEyes
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I've been told that I looked miserable when I was actually deeply contemplative.
I was actually offended by these comments, even though perhaps I shouldn't have been.
I have been asked if I'm 'alright' if I say nothing, have a neutral expression and do my own thing on my own.
People expect me to be with other people a lot of the time, especially women.
So apparently, in order to be 'alright' you have to talk incessantly to people and smile at them constantly.
There seems to be a constant expectation and pressure to do so.
I can see why not smiling would put people off.
I'm not immune from seeing genuinely smiling people as helpful and friendly.
I enjoy people's company when they smile.
I've also met plenty of nice helpful people, who didn't smile at me every second.
I just accepted them as they were.
Perhaps some people think that alone and unsmiley automatically equals miserable and lost.
This isn't always the case, though I appreciate why some people might be concerned. |
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iSpy
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| Posted: Fri Oct 30, 2009 10:57 pm Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | Do You Get Told To "Smile" All The Time? |
Yes all the time and I get sick of being asked. 
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RainSong
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People don't tell me to smile too often. If they do, it's usually just once; I guess I look annoyed enough for them to not repeat the request often.
However, a lot of people do tell me I look sad. It doesn't matter if I actually am sad or not; it seems I look like it all the time. I've had people randomly offer me tissues, like I'm about to burst into tears, when I'm not even feeling the least bit bad.
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Blindspot149
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On second thoughts, I think I will just blurt in future, if someone wants to give me advice on smiling.
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FeralAspie
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Perfect timing for me to come inside and read this. I'd been told earlier in the day that I looked really unhappy when I was out in the garden. The stupid thing is that I started to believe that was the case.
Great to come back to the forums here and be reminded about who I am.
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Tory_canuck
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yup...in high school, one teacher would always come up and say "smile" or "why arent you smiling"?
Thankfully, I dont get that alot in college 
LOL..only once by one instructor, but thats cuz she was taking a picture of me..so I didnt mind.Shes a great instructor.
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MudandStars
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I used to always get told that - now I'm more likely to be told I smile to much or at inappropriate moments
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MizLiz
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My default facial expression is a slightly downturned mouth AND I'm a woman, so I get this a lot it's just that people stopped saying it to my face when I grew up.
But, when I was a little girl, the school secretaries would always get on my case:
"Oh, Lizzie! You never smile! What's wrong!?" (one even called my mom about this... I was kind of a teachers' pet so if anything ever needed to be delivered to the office, I was the one to go)
Uh... I'm not NOT happy... this is just my neutral expression, you gossipy bitches. Do I have to sh** rainbows for you c**** to think I'm not getting beaten at home? |
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DarrylZero
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| Quote: | | Do You Get Told To "Smile" All The Time? |
Yes. My usual response: "Why?" They stammer a bit, shake their heads, then walk off. They usually don't ask again. 
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IMForeman
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| Posted: Sat Oct 31, 2009 9:36 am Post subject: |
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| DarrylZero wrote: | | Quote: | | Do You Get Told To "Smile" All The Time? |
Yes. My usual response: "Why?" They stammer a bit, shake their heads, then walk off. They usually don't ask again. |
LOL. Busy bodies. I really never did understand NTs. |
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Skilpadde
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| Posted: Sun Nov 01, 2009 1:32 am Post subject: |
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| Yep, I've gotten quite a few of those through the years... |
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