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Shebakoby
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| I must be a very atypical female. I know what I want...and it's not what regular NT women want. |
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sinsboldly
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| ToadOfSteel wrote: | | AnotherOne wrote: | they want a guy who will not ask these questions.
if you are good for your own standards then you'll probably be good for a her. although i admit women here are pretty materialistic too. |
I don't think you're getting the point... For some of us, all we want to do is make her (whoever her would happen to be) happy... and trying to do that is nigh impossible for most men... |
now, I am not being sarcastic nor a smart arse, but trying to make someone else happy seems like a never ending task. I mean, like any thing addictive, tolerence grows to what made someone happy last week, last month, last year and it just becomes more and more difficult to keep up with the demand of what makes someone happy.
It does seem like a good thing on the face of it, but it really just sets up the partner to demand more and more leading to the question 'what do women want?'
perhaps if another criteria for having a good relationship were used, instead, it would be a simpler and ultimately more 'happy' life?
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ManErg
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| AnotherOne wrote: | | they want a supermodel but they are more realistic while girls always have this dream in their heads. |
Don't worry about it. Nature produces plenty of men like me who work tirelessly to awaken them from that dream and replace it with reality.
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Avarice
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From what I have seen of women, all they want is money. That's it.
Of course, none of them have a "disorder" such as Aspergers, no, they show signs of far worse things such as Narcissism and Histrionic disorders. But that can be applied to a great deal of men as well... |
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starygrrl
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 3:15 pm Post subject: |
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| Avarice wrote: | From what I have seen of women, all they want is money. That's it.
Of course, none of them have a "disorder" such as Aspergers, no, they show signs of far worse things such as Narcissism and Histrionic disorders. But that can be applied to a great deal of men as well... |
Talk about chauvinism, misogyny and innacuracy.
There is no one answer, each woman wants something different. I know some that never want kids and want to have a career and a husband who respects that, I know others who want to be housewives, I know others who just want a funny guy they can get along with, and it goes on and on. It varies quite a bit, and has alot to do with interpersonal dynamics. Generalizing women is one of the great faults of men. Every woman is different, every one wants something different out of a relationship.
Oh yeah...respect is usually high up on any womans list though. |
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AnotherOne
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 3:50 pm Post subject: |
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| ManErg wrote: | | AnotherOne wrote: | | they want a supermodel but they are more realistic while girls always have this dream in their heads. |
Don't worry about it. Nature produces plenty of men like me who work tirelessly to awaken them from that dream and replace it with reality. |
or you can try and find the ones with more testosterone and more logic minds. try to hunt around engineering schools/companies. good luck  . |
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Janissy
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| Avarice wrote: | From what I have seen of women, all they want is money. That's it.
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Says the man whose poster name is "Avarice". Oh the irony. |
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Ruchard
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| They want everything |
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MissConstrue
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 6:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Avarice wrote: | From what I have seen of women, all they want is money. That's it.
Of course, none of them have a "disorder" such as Aspergers, no, they show signs of far worse things such as Narcissism and Histrionic disorders. But that can be applied to a great deal of men as well... |
Looks like someone here suffers from an inferiority complex.
You did know that women are people right and that your statement is BS right?
BTW, when I look at a guy, I don't think about his money and yes I have aspergers.
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HH
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| Janissy wrote: | | Says the man whose poster name is "Avarice". Oh the irony. |
Much of this thread is turning into a textbook example of 'confirmation bias'. |
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I hate to burst bubbles here but this isn't the first time a thread about what women want gets attacked with statements about how selfish women are.
It doesn't surprise me that this is more of a bait thread than a thread about what women truly want....
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HH
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| Posted: Tue Nov 03, 2009 6:48 pm Post subject: |
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| "Women are selfish" is just shorthand for "they're not doing what I want." |
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0_equals_true
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| HH wrote: | | "Women are selfish" is just shorthand for "they're not doing what I want." |
Humans are self centred beings. At the heart of why anyone would want to do anything there is a stimulus->response relationship. This is demonstrable on fMRI scans and is just is true when you have a couple deeply in love. They are serving each other’s interests. I wouldn't say that makes it unromantic or wrong, but that is entirely subjective anyway
But yes, typically resentment results in them blaming the other person, which is the easiest thing to do. If they can't get what they want it is the other person fault, because somebody has got to be at fault. Then again it is not really surprising that people have a sense of entitlement.
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ToadOfSteel
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| sinsboldly wrote: | now, I am not being sarcastic nor a smart arse, but trying to make someone else happy seems like a never ending task. I mean, like any thing addictive, tolerence grows to what made someone happy last week, last month, last year and it just becomes more and more difficult to keep up with the demand of what makes someone happy.
It does seem like a good thing on the face of it, but it really just sets up the partner to demand more and more leading to the question 'what do women want?'
perhaps if another criteria for having a good relationship were used, instead, it would be a simpler and ultimately more 'happy' life? |
It's not just relationships that I do such in... to me, making other people happy in general will make me happy (hence my current title, "vicarious")... it means that there's someone out there that appreciates my existence, and that kind of appreciation is one of the few things that makes my life worth living...
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Homer_Bob
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| I have no idea what they want. I wish they would simply want a real nice guy but we all know that's not it. |
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