| How Many X's do you have? |
| 0 (ZERO) |
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8% |
[ 23 ] |
| 0 (ZERO) |
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8% |
[ 23 ] |
| 0 (ZERO) |
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8% |
[ 23 ] |
| 0 (ZERO) |
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8% |
[ 23 ] |
| 4+ |
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8% |
[ 23 ] |
| 0 (ZERO) |
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8% |
[ 23 ] |
| 0 (ZERO) |
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8% |
[ 23 ] |
| 0 (ZERO) |
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8% |
[ 23 ] |
| 0 (ZERO) |
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8% |
[ 23 ] |
| 4+ |
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8% |
[ 23 ] |
| 1-3 |
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5% |
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5% |
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sc
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Location: Fortuna California
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 Posted: Fri Jun 02, 2006 4:33 am Post subject: How Many X's do you have? |
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How Many X's do you have?
I dont believe I can count my first two intential encouters with the female kind. The first was prior to me moving and the second I think was supposed to be just a friend, not sure I got to confussed.
The first one I recall meeting more then a few times. The initial encounter began with her saying I don't want to move to fast. I said but I am moving soon.
Some days later after thinking about her reaction on her face, I concluded she took it the wrong way. Can anyone guess which way? I'm such a clueless person soemtimes, I just say things and forget about possible meanings. In this instance it took over 48hrs to figure that out... laugh snort
Really I intended that I was moving, there was no possibility of a relationship.
So really, I've never had a girlfriend relationship.. I'm hoping to meet one at the gym, i'll be there daily scoping it out, hooyaaa.
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TheBladeRoden
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So where's the 0 option?
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sc
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Location: Fortuna California
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| If you have 0 X's then you don't have any at all. I thought about that after, oh well. |
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sc
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Posts: 1432
Location: Fortuna California
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The poll keeps messing up when I try to add the zero option.
EDIT: It is not what is displayed in the poll options in edit so the first 3 zero's are the same, the rest gives a measure. But then to properly do this poll it would be for adults only and for A.S.D people only.
oh well the poll was a curiosity to some humor.
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Xuincherguixe
High Priest of the Followers of Squiggy
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Location: Victoria, BC
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| That explains why I had the dilema over which zero to pick. |
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hale_bopp
All Kinds of Freak
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Location: New Zealand
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| lol I thought the three 0's were supposed to be a sarcastic joke :p |
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Enigmatic_Oddity
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| I voted zero but I forgot, I do have one ex. From years ago, but the relationship we had was so weak that it doesn't really count. |
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Raph522
Trapped Inside My Mind
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| i had 1 if you would consider him an x... We went out a few times and broke up. he still calls me every few months to see if I'll start to date him again. he is not very nice to other people either and when he calls he always makes fun of the way I talk. very annoying and that is why i only have one. |
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phoenixjsu
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4 if you don't count single dates. The first one, I was 18. I dumped her when I found out a pretty bad secret she had been keeping from me. The second was in college -- we just kinda lost interest in each other and we were going in two different directions.
The third didn't occur until I was in grad school -- This was the longest (six months, on and off) and once she detected that I wouldn't let myself get angry (at least not in front of her) she did anything she could to get a bad reaction out of me (she never succeeded). A year after we broke up she called me to apologize.
The four seemed nearly perfect except for a few ... quirks. Turns out those were horrific red flags. She had previously had a fantasticly abusive alcoholic father and she had a very hateful angry side. The week before we broke up I didn't call her because I really wanted to break up with her. I had begun to sense something was critically wrong with her. At the end of the week she sent me a text message saying, "We need to talk."
So I waited till later that night and called her, talked like we always did. I was looking for my chance to tell her but I just didn't have the heart. So then she said, "I don't think this is going to work." I'm told by several female friends that this was a preemptive dumping. She knew she was about to get the axe. She had sensed it when I hadn't called her all week after our last date. So she got it in there first.
I was naturally extremely relieved (thinking she didn't have feelings for me). I expressed it by sincerely saying, "Oh, thank God. I'm glad you feel the same way." Those same female friends told me I commited a mortal sin of dating right here.
I got treated very badly after that...
That's been more than a year and a half. I've shown little interest in dating and to be honest it terrifies me. Mostly because she just seemed so normal. I've been out on single outings with a few girls; I don't call them dates because I really wasn't interested. These were usually prodded on by friends.
To be candid, if I didn't date again for the next several years I think I would be fine with it. |
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Fiz
The Outspoken
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Ex#1: Very sweet guy, but liked to have everytihng his own way and was rubbish with punctuality. Not the most exciting of people, didn't set my heart on fire. Now in the Royal Navy, very happy for him cos he always wanted to do it.
Ex#2: I feel in love with this guy in a big way and it took me nearly two years to get over him. I thought he was special but I realised that everything he said was a lie. This took a long time to get over.
Ex#3: The first time he punched me was also his last as I left him and never looked back.
Ex#4: Heart in the right place sometimes but he made my sister cry and called my dad a c@*^!!!! He insulted my family and took drugs.
I am now weary of entering a relationship. |
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Enigmatic_Oddity
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| phoenixjsu wrote: | | I was naturally extremely relieved (thinking she didn't have feelings for me). I expressed it by sincerely saying, "Oh, thank God. I'm glad you feel the same way." Those same female friends told me I commited a mortal sin of dating right here. |
I don't think that's all that bad. The alternative, if you'd made out to look disappointed when she said that, might have caused the whole break-up to be even harder. It let her know exactly how you felt about the relationship. If you'd done the opposite she might've tried to attach herself to you again later on, thinking you still had feelings towards her. Plus it would've made her out to be the 'bad guy' in the relationship. Instead, you decided to share the responsibility for the breakup, which I think is honourable. |
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phoenixjsu
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| Enigmatic_Oddity wrote: | | I don't think that's all that bad. The alternative, if you'd made out to look disappointed when she said that, might have caused the whole break-up to be even harder. It let her know exactly how you felt about the relationship. If you'd done the opposite she might've tried to attach herself to you again later on, thinking you stil had feelings towards her. Plus if you acted disappointed, it would've made her out to be the 'bad guy' in the relationship. Instead, you decided to share the responsibility for the breakup, which I think is honourable. |
Well, I completely agree with you. But most of the NT women I'm friends with pretty much put it in the mortal sin catagory. As crazy as it sounds, they wanted the guy to be a little sad if they broke up with him. I found it pretty distressing that if the guy was relieved it was like they took it as an assault on their vanity. This was compounded by the fact that she already knew I was probably thinking about dumping her. Who breaks up with who often does seem more important to some girls. I don't really care. To be honest, I would rather be dumped then to be the one to spill the bad news.
Oh, and I left out the part where she stalked me (which is why I'm so terrified of dating again)... This girl wasn't exactly a rational person to begin with anyway.  |
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phoenixjsu
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| Fiz wrote: | | Ex#3: The first time he punched me was also his last as I left him and never looked back. |
Good job.  I really hate to see girls go back to douschbags like that. |
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Tim_Tex
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I have had 2 ex-girlfriends:
1st ex (NT): The relationship ended because she cheated on me, and was an arrogant, self-centered jerk. This relationship has put me off dating NT's indefinitely.
2nd ex (Aspie): The relationship ended because she was possessive, insecure, and controlling.
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Enigmatic_Oddity
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| phoenixjsu wrote: | | As crazy as it sounds, they wanted the guy to be a little sad if they broke up with him. |
Oh, I assumed that you were sad about it. I can sort of see where she's coming from, then. You don't have to be sad about having to leave her, but you should be sad that it had to end that way.
I mean, I don't think I should dictate how you should feel but it seems that if you enter a relationship then you do so with the goal of being happy and in love and so on, etc. So while you might not necessarily have been upset to have left her, you would've been sad that things didn't work out as you'd hoped in the beginning, right? You get what I mean? |
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