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dragonrider
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Joined: Aug 22, 2006
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Location: Quebec
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I also suffer from social anxiety. I can't really remind a moment in my life when I began feeling this way. I guess it's been slowly taking over me for years. It's been a lot worse since I moved away from home town to live alone.
I was 19 back then, and for 3 years I could only go to work and rest alone. Just facing others at work would use up all of my energy. In those three years I could only make two true friend, which were someone I knew a bit from my home town and his girlfriend. I used to decline any offers to do anything or go out, so they had to call me everyday cause I would seldom call them.
Finally I got used to see them everyday and felt like a family with em. They were my only social life and I could sometimes meet other people thanks to them. But what had to happen finally happened, they broke up, took different directions and I was left alone again. I could not meet new people as this would make me so anxious I was just looking for a way to avoid them.
As anxiety and insomnia got worse, I decided I did not have to feel this way. I browsed through yellow pages for someone who could help with anxiety. I found a psychologist specialized in anxiety disorders and took an appointment. As awkward as it would be at first, I got the help I needed and after the treatment (that lasted for only a few months) I had successfully moved to a new appartment, negociated a major salary raise, had my own social network from people at work for whom I organized activities and my very own wednesday night beach volleyball group.
I still have to fight anxiety often, particularly when facing new situations and/or new people. I still hate phone too and I still don't answer when I don't feel right... But I now have some tools to help which allow me to do more of what I want and not only what I can  |
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ryansjoy
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Joined: Jun 24, 2006
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| Posted: Tue Sep 05, 2006 8:43 pm Post subject: Re: Social Anxiety |
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| bearman wrote: | | Just curious if anyone else here suffers from this. I have my whole life and I think I am getting worse. As if that's actually possible. I just started my senior year of high school and I have become very depressed lately. I am so scared of the future. I don't think I can make it in this world. Anyways, anyone else have SA? |
my husband suffers from this.. it took him years to get over this.. he finally consented to take meds for it and his entire life changed. he never dated until he was 30 something. he carries terrible scars from his high school years.. but when he sees how full his life is now and what he missed for years he regrets not getting help sooner. i fell head over heels for this wonderful man.. i met him 4 years ago and we married him last year.. we have a 7 month old now.. take it from him you live the pain now but you can get help to get you over this and see your life later.. your futrure is what you make of it.. give yourself a chance!!! |
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ryansjoy
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Joined: Jun 24, 2006
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| violet_yoshi wrote: | | I'm going to a Shyness group meeting, that I found on Meetup.com in regards to my social anxiety. I was considering not going, but then I thought..I'll be around people who also have considered not going to something, based on their anxieties of what could happen. |
what a great alternative.. this is wonderful advice for others who suffer from this.. i never knew there was something out there like that.. I will remember this when my son is older... |
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Pug
Deinonychus
Joined: Sep 06, 2006
Posts: 336
Location: Stardusk
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I also have social anxiety. Especially when I'm tired, I just like...can't have a conversation. They talk, and when I want to say something, when tired, it appears to be really hard to hear or understand what I'm saying. When I'm not tired, I can speak more properly, but for some reason, I just can't bind people for a conversation, so they go away, you know, so that my self-confidence drops ever lower than it already was, so that it's even harder to talk to most people. Only with people I know really well, I haven't got social anxiety, that is, when speaking face to face. It might sound strange for an aspie, but in most cases I can't conversate with people on telephone or via MSN.
I think it is like this: in real life you can see whether people are really disinterested or happy or whatever (not in all cases however) but when I don't actually see the person I'm talking to, I in all cases think they're disinterested or not happy to talk to me or whatever, I think because of the self-confidence I thus don't have. |
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Deinonychus
Joined: Sep 06, 2006
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Location: Stardusk
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I also have social anxiety. Especially when I'm tired, I just like...can't have a conversation. They talk, and when I want to say something, when tired, it appears to be really hard to hear or understand what I'm saying. When I'm not tired, I can speak more properly, but for some reason, I just can't bind people for a conversation, so they go away, you know, so that my self-confidence drops ever lower than it already was, so that it's even harder to talk to most people. Only with people I know really well, I haven't got social anxiety, that is, when speaking face to face. It might sound strange for an aspie, but in most cases I can't conversate with people on telephone or via MSN.
I think it is like this: in real life you can see whether people are really disinterested or happy or whatever (not in all cases however) but when I don't actually see the person I'm talking to, I in all cases think they're disinterested or not happy to talk to me or whatever, I think because of the self-confidence I thus don't have. |
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Antenna
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Dec 01, 2005
Age: 32
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Location: North Carolina
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| I'm another aspie with social anxiety. Right now I'm suffering because of my job. I work part-time at a college. I'm really afraid of casual gatherings of people and try to avoid them if possible. But to get to my building I have to pass by groups of students who gather outside the front door. Once inside, I have to navigate narrow corridors crammed with people. I try to walk by without bringing attention to myself, but the students seem to have radar which detects nervousness. I feel really embarrassed, which lowers my self-esteem and makes the situation worse. Even though I know it's just in my head, I feel like everyone can see right through me. The feeling of dread in my stomach that these encounters create makes it very difficult for me to function afterwards. It's like I become frozen: unable to move or speak. But I have to because I'm at work. |
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