willow wrote:
I've sent him emails from time to time. one of the last things he said to me was something to the effect of "YOU don't matter. I can cut you out of my life in a blink if you annoy me and never look back. " then proceeded to tell me how uninteresting and unintelligent I was. as much as I can say I know it is untrue, and I know that HE didn't really think that, otherwise we wouldn't have been friends for so long, it really was devestating (did I spell that wrong? it looks wrong. devastating. the A one looks right.) coming from him.
at any rate, he never responds.
Oh Willow, I'm sure he didn't mean that. It sounds like he had a lot of other things going on and sometimes with people (aspies or not) they'll never tell you what. A lot of times, people with anger problems have some big insecurity issues with something they think is a glaring problem (And it could actually be nothing, but to them it's HUGE!). The anger is just a shield or a defensive mechanism as Scintillate put it. It sounds like you tried to be there for him and that's all you can really do.
One day, if he manages to get a grasp on his life and fix things he'll probably try to contact you again, if for no other reason but to have proper closure. But that's a big "if". I hope for you that he gets it together, because it sounds like you really cared about him.
phoenixjsu - I just came across you for the first time and I really like your thinking and attitude. I was wondering if you would mind reading my posts about the man that I love and let me know your thoughts. I can provide the topics if you agree to help me out. Things ended abruptly and badly do to emotions and miscommunication.