slipacre
Blue Jay
Joined: Aug 18, 2011
Age: 65
Posts: 97
Location: NY state - in the woods
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thank you -
funny thing is I think maturing cures a lot of what ails us.
Of course a question is how long can one postpone maturity?
For me the younger version had a lot more to prove.
the younger version had no patience - no acceptance
the younger version was good intentioned - but there was a lot of needless drama and angst. |
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HopefulRomantic
Deinonychus
Joined: Aug 12, 2010
Posts: 398
Location: Atlanta, GA
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| slipacre wrote: | thank you -
funny thing is I think maturing cures a lot of what ails us.
Of course a question is how long can one postpone maturity?
For me the younger version had a lot more to prove.
the younger version had no patience - no acceptance
the younger version was good intentioned - but there was a lot of needless drama and angst. |
As with anything in life, timing is critical. Epiphany, the zenith of self-awareness and grasping of one’s own personal truth, is a natural progression, an evolutionary process of sorts. It can’t be coerced or engendered until the exact moment (if ever for that matter) one is ripe to succumb to it. [b][/b] |
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shrox
Phoenix
Joined: Aug 12, 2011
Posts: 3254
Location: OK let's go.
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| I am quite available, very desirable, and I command my own starship. Well, I drive a Saturn SC-1. |
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HopefulRomantic
Deinonychus
Joined: Aug 12, 2010
Posts: 398
Location: Atlanta, GA
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| shrox wrote: | | I am quite available, very desirable, and I command my own starship. Well, I drive a Saturn SC-1. |
Welcome Aboard Commander Shrox! [b] |
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teamnoir
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: Jul 01, 2012
Posts: 56
Location: Menlo Park, CA 94025
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| Posted: Mon Jul 02, 2012 8:30 pm Post subject: Re: Do you have a targeted age range you date? |
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Do you have a targeted age range you date? |
I've dated women a few years older than me. That was common when I was younger, but faded out around my 30's. Only once have I dated anyone much older than that, and that was about 6 years older.
In the last 10 - 15 years, it's been common for me to date 6 - 10 years younger, and not uncommon for me to date women half my age. With that sort of age difference, it makes for a different sort of relationship. Age does matter, but it's not necessarily a barrier.
My targeted age range right now is "childbearing" up through just about my age. I'm still looking for an opportunity to build a family and that's more difficult with a woman who's closer to my age. I'm open to dating just about anyone, but they would be different sorts of relationships. |
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bookworm285
Snowy Owl
Joined: Dec 28, 2010
Posts: 155
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I'm 48, just starting to date for the first time in my life. I was married 20 years, now divorced, and got out of a 7-year relationship almost a year ago. Both relationships were very unhealthy; emotionally abusive. As my therapist said, the prior men "chose" me I didn't do the choosing. Now I want to fix that. I want to make up for the years I should have been keeping my options open and dating, the teenager years I missed out on. I want to do this in a healthy way. It's scary, and I'm not quite sure how to start.
I have had one official date earlier this month, and decided not to see the man again because I suspected he wanted sex only. I have a first date with a different man this coming weekend. I'm really looking forward to it.
What qualities do you seek in a viable romantic match (physical and cerebral)?
Both
Do you see a viable romantic match as a "total package"?
Yes
What age range are you seeking?
Older or younger is fine at this point.
What are your relationship goals (activity partner, short term dating or do you want a shot at a long term exclusive committed relationship?
Short term dating, just seeing who’s out there, wanting to make new friends. This is because I’ve never really “dated” before.
Would you ever get married again if you found a suitable guy who chimed your bell on all fronts and he was good to your children?
I don't think so. If I was serious with someone, I think it would be ideal for us to live next to each other in a duplex, but not together.
Are you open to relocation?
Not right now.
Would you date a guy who has children from a previous relationship?
Yes, but wouldn’t want to be in a serious relationship unless his children were grown.
Do you have any other dealbreaker preferences that automatically excludes certain guys?
I want a non-smoker, but it’s not a deal-breaker at first. No drugs, period. No toxic personalities, I’m working hard to recognize those sooner.
What are your hobbies/interests and passions?
Music, listening to live bands, art, interior design, reading, good movies, mysteries.
Will you date NTs?
Yes.
Do you prefer Aspies?
No. But I am open to dating an Aspie. |
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Mahogany
Hummingbird
Joined: Apr 09, 2007
Posts: 20
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have C&Pd the last entry, as the questions looked like a great way to introduce myself.
I have not really "dated" in a very long time, and have't ever done much traditional dting. I have had 2 LTRs, maybe 3 depending on how you define "long." I a looking forward to the romantic excitement of falling in love, and getting to know someone else.
What qualities do you seek in a viable romantic match (physical and cerebral)?
Both. Initial attraction is often physical, but they have to still be sexy after they start talking! I need to fall in love with a brain.
Do you see a viable romantic match as a "total package"?
I don't expect a partner to be everything to me. I have friends and family. I dont want my "other half." I'm a complete human on my own. I do want someone to complement, support, and appreciate what I bring to the table.
What age range are you seeking? Age is irrelevant to me. I've dated more than a decade apart from me in both directions. I prefer an "old soul" with youthful enthusiasm.
What are your relationship goals (activity partner, short term dating or do you want a shot at a long term exclusive committed relationship?
I am open to most anything right now, as long as we are both on the same page with our expectations.
Are you open to relocation? Yes. It would be a good time. I do own my home in Oregon, but I can always rent it.
Would you date a guy who has children from a previous relationship?
Yes, I love kids, and have dated 2 guys with kids in the past.
Do you have any other dealbreaker preferences that automatically excludes certain guys?
No tobacco, no hard stuff, everything else in moderation. I prefer non-vanilla, but it's not a dealbreaker.
What are your hobbies/interests and passions?
Music, puzzles, reading, movies, travel, D&D, RPGs (mostly computer)
Will you date NTs?
Yes.
Do you prefer Aspies?
No. I have dated 1 Aspie, but he was uncomfortable with the sexual part of the relationship, and that's very important to me. |
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idlewild
Pileated woodpecker
Joined: Nov 22, 2011
Posts: 176
Location: WI, USA
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What qualities do you seek in a viable romantic match (physical and cerebral)?
Smart, funny, committed, respectful, and supportive. I'm not as attracted to thin men as I am average or larger men.
Do you see a viable romantic match as a "total package"?
No. I'm not, and it is probably unhealthy to expect so much from another person.
What age range are you seeking?
No less than three years younger than me or 15 years older. I tend to date older men, but I'm finally starting to find men my own age as more attractive.
What are your relationship goals (activity partner, short term dating or do you want a shot at a long term exclusive committed relationship?
Long term committed. Dating is stressful for me, and I want to be able to build a stable future.
Would you ever get married again if you found a suitable guy?
I would marry again. I'd be hesitant to jump into marriage, and it would take time, but I would do it again.
Are you open to relocation?
That would depend a lot on the guy.
Would you date a guy who has children from a previous relationship?
Yes.
Do you have any other dealbreaker preferences that automatically excludes certain guys?
No smoking or drugs. I'm hesitant to date monotheists unless they understand and are willing to respect that I have different religious beliefs. I have LGBT friends, so someone socially liberal is a must.
What are your hobbies/interests and passions?
Sci-fi (particularly Star Trek, Dune, and Babylon 5), cooking, camping, road trips, music, movies, reading, tabletop games, self-sufficiency, and DIY projects.
Will you date NTs? Do you prefer Aspies?
Either. They need to be at least moderately affectionate in private and sex should be important to them, but if we have similar goals and respect each others needs and differences, then I'm not concerned whether they are NT or AS.
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restlesspirit
Snowy Owl
Joined: Dec 06, 2012
Age: 54
Posts: 131
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I dated NTs all my life, those didnt work out for various reasons,, now that I am a self diagnosed aspie I feel Im starting all over in the dating scene,, new rules..new ways,, etc.. Im not dating currently, taking some time to sort out all this aspie side of me,, but
If i did date I think id prefer an aspie man,, around my age,, with similar interests, preferably local, prefer similar spiritual interests, and comfortable with dating a fellow aspie , living and supporting his self, willing to compromise and think out of the box.. etc.
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Mike_the_EE
Snowy Owl
Joined: Aug 16, 2010
Posts: 125
Location: Cleveland, Ohio
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What qualities do you seek in a viable romantic match (physical and cerebral)?
Intelligence is a major turn-on. I would really like to find someone who I could talk to
on a variety of topics. Physically, average looks is fine, but there definitely needs to
be mutual physical attraction.
Do you see a viable romantic match as a "total package"?
A total package would be ideal, but probably too much to ask for.
What age range are you seeking?
Age: Doesn't matter that much. Not too much older (I'm 51). Younger if fine.
What are your relationship goals (activity partner, short term dating or do you want a shot
at a long term exclusive committed relationship)?
I'm looking for a long term relationship. Dating is very difficult for me so I have no
interest in dates that have no potential for something long term.
Would you ever get married again if you found a suitable girl?
I've never been married, but I'm absolutely interested in marriage.
Are you open to relocation?
Unfortunately, no. Between my job and family responsibilities, moving any time soon is out
of the question.
Would you date a girl who has children from a previous relationship?
Yes.
Do you have any other dealbreaker preferences that automatically excludes certain girls?
No smoking or drugs.
What are your hobbies/interests and passions?
Sci-fi, Dr Who is my all-time favorite, gardening, I love working outside. Alternative
music. Music is very important to me. Science and technology are life long obsessions.
Will you date NTs? Do you prefer Aspies?
I think that I would be a better fit with Aspies, but an understanding NT would also be
acceptable. One issue with Aspies is that I know that many don't like to be touched and/or
have little interest in sex. That would be a problem because I need a relationship that
has both. I need to touch / be touched and I would not want a relationship that doesn't
have that.
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Existence, survival must cancel out programming.
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