yellowtamarin
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| The_Face_of_Boo wrote: | | Chances that she will reply you are higher if she already viewed your profile than not. |
Maybe...certainly not in my case. If I have viewed your profile and not sent you a message, I'm not interested. But yeah I get that girls like the guys to do the chasing and all that.
Also, remember that plenty of people who browse anonymously would have viewed your profile. Don't assume that because they are not listed, they did not look. If people only messaged those who they knew had viewed their profile, I'd never get any messages!
I'm also not saying that it wouldn't mean someone is interested if they viewed you, just that they may or may not, and this is what is getting a lot of guys in a fluster, because they are thinking too much about it, wondering why they aren't getting messages back ("But they clicked on my link!! It doesn't make sense!!"), etc etc. And I would no doubt go down a similar path if I had the visitors feature set up. So I turn it off, and relax. I check out who I want to (for whatever reason, including all those brought up by DogsWithoutHorses and even occasionally the one by JanuaryMan), and message those people that I am interested in.
Most importantly, once I have sent a message, I forget about it. If they reply, that's great! If they don't, I won't even realise. |
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AussieMatty
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Tim_Tex
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I hope I can once again join a datng site, but not now, not when there's so much hostility to Christians and Republicans these days.
Yes, I will likely vote for Romney in the election, unless Gary Johnson "pulls a Homer" and becomes a viable candidate. But that doesn't mean I hate gays, women, minorities, want to nuke every other country on earth, and only care about the super-rich.
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The_Face_of_Boo
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Location: Beirut ,Lebanon
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| yellowtamarin wrote: | | The_Face_of_Boo wrote: | | Chances that she will reply you are higher if she already viewed your profile than not. |
Maybe...certainly not in my case. If I have viewed your profile and not sent you a message, I'm not interested. But yeah I get that girls like the guys to do the chasing and all that.
Also, remember that plenty of people who browse anonymously would have viewed your profile. Don't assume that because they are not listed, they did not look. If people only messaged those who they knew had viewed their profile, I'd never get any messages!
I'm also not saying that it wouldn't mean someone is interested if they viewed you, just that they may or may not, and this is what is getting a lot of guys in a fluster, because they are thinking too much about it, wondering why they aren't getting messages back ("But they clicked on my link!! It doesn't make sense!!"), etc etc. And I would no doubt go down a similar path if I had the visitors feature set up. So I turn it off, and relax. I check out who I want to (for whatever reason, including all those brought up by DogsWithoutHorses and even occasionally the one by JanuaryMan), and message those people that I am interested in.
Most importantly, once I have sent a message, I forget about it. If they reply, that's great! If they don't, I won't even realise. |
| Quote: | Maybe...certainly not in my case. If I have viewed your profile and not sent you a message, I'm not interested. But yeah I get that girls like the guys to do the chasing and all that.
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If he's too sexy for you, you will be interested, maybe you'd get shy to message him and wait from him the first move 
| Quote: | | Also, remember that plenty of people who browse anonymously would have viewed your profile. Don't assume that because they are not listed, they did not look. If people only messaged those who they knew had viewed their profile, I'd never get any messages |
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I don't only message those who viewed my profile.
| Quote: | 'm also not saying that it wouldn't mean someone is interested if they viewed you, just that they may or may not, and this is what is getting a lot of guys in a fluster, because they are thinking too much about it, wondering why they aren't getting messages back ("But they clicked on my link!! It doesn't make sense!!"), etc etc. And I would no doubt go down a similar path if I had the visitors feature set up. So I turn it off, and relax. I check out who I want to (for whatever reason, including all those brought up by DogsWithoutHorses and even occasionally the one by JanuaryMan), and message those people that I am interested in.
Most importantly, once I have sent a message, I forget about it. If they reply, that's great! If they don't, I won't even realise.[ |
Ok look, i know it'd be nice if all things were the same for both genders and stuff but....
I am a guy, you are a girl, meaning that the game dynamics are totally different, It's a fact.
You cannot compare yourself to a guy on okcupid, no matter how much you try to find similarities, it's still like comparing apples to oranges.
One main difference, any girl on okcupid would try to decrease her received messages (because they're too many already, hence why a lot of girls disable features like the visiting thing and enable the anonymous visiting) so she can filter them more efficiently, while any guy there would try to increase his received messages (which are far fewer than what a typical girl get there) to increase the probability of finding someone suitable.
I know I am receiving a lot of messages there but it still far fewer than what most girls receive.
Maybe a guy has to be a celeb there in order to beat an average girl in term of # of messages. |
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Yuzu
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I've been talking with this guy for a week and now it's my turn to reply but his last message was short and didn't include any question so I'm discouraged.
I think I'm gonna have to let this one go... Oh well. |
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yellowtamarin
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Location: Victoria, Australia
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| Posted: Wed Jun 13, 2012 3:42 am Post subject: |
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| The_Face_of_Boo wrote: | | Quote: | Maybe...certainly not in my case. If I have viewed your profile and not sent you a message, I'm not interested. But yeah I get that girls like the guys to do the chasing and all that.
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| Quote: | | If he's too sexy for you, you will be interested, maybe you'd get shy to message him and wait from him the first move |
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Haha. If he has his top off I most definitely will never message him, or reply to his message, that's for sure!! (But that's a whole different thread.)
| The_Face_of_Boo wrote: | | Quote: | | Also, remember that plenty of people who browse anonymously would have viewed your profile. Don't assume that because they are not listed, they did not look. If people only messaged those who they knew had viewed their profile, I'd never get any messages! |
| Quote: | | I don't only message those who viewed my profile. |
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Never said you did. Just putting it out there, in case anyone decides it is a good idea to only contact those who have viewed their profile.
| The_Face_of_Boo wrote: | | Quote: | I'm also not saying that it wouldn't mean someone is interested if they viewed you, just that they may or may not, and this is what is getting a lot of guys in a fluster, because they are thinking too much about it, wondering why they aren't getting messages back ("But they clicked on my link!! It doesn't make sense!!"), etc etc. And I would no doubt go down a similar path if I had the visitors feature set up. So I turn it off, and relax. I check out who I want to (for whatever reason, including all those brought up by DogsWithoutHorses and even occasionally the one by JanuaryMan), and message those people that I am interested in.
Most importantly, once I have sent a message, I forget about it. If they reply, that's great! If they don't, I won't even realise |
| Quote: | Ok look, i know it'd be nice if all things were the same for both genders and stuff but....
I am a guy, you are a girl, meaning that the game dynamics are totally different, It's a fact.
You cannot compare yourself to a guy on okcupid, no matter how much you try to find similarities, it's still like comparing apples to oranges.
One main difference, any girl on okcupid would try to decrease her received messages (because they're too many already, hence why a lot of girls disable features like the visiting thing and enable the anonymous visiting) so she can filter them more efficiently, while any guy there would try to increase his received messages (which are far fewer than what a typical girl get there) to increase the probability of finding someone suitable.
I know I am receiving a lot of messages there but it still far fewer than what most girls receive.
Maybe a guy has to be a celeb there in order to beat an average girl in term of # of messages. |
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Sure the dynamics are different, but a person reading too much into things is still a person reading too much into things. I'm saying that by not browsing anonymously, a tendancy to overanalyse can occur. There are a lot of posts on this site by people wondering why they haven't recieved a message back. Browsing anonymously can remove some of the stress of the game. This has nothing to do with gender as far as I can see. I said "guys" because I can only remember reading such posts from males.
I do not get that many messages any more, as I have been on the site for a while. I would rather increase them than decrease them. I am a girl. So your "any girl" statement is wrong. I do not browse anonymously for filtering purposes. I do it for the previous reasons I have talked about. |
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The_Face_of_Boo
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| Quote: | | Haha. If he has his top off I most definitely will never message him, or reply to his message, that's for sure!! (But that's a whole different thread.) |
I am replying this in the other relevant okcupid thread. |
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BlueMax
Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot...
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| AussieMatty wrote: | | I just deleted my account. Never will go back to dating websites ever again. I been through enough is enough. I done 5 different websites. Not proving me right. Superficial and shallow women is everywhere. |
And those women are being relentlessly pursued by hordes of horny, brainless alpha(or wannabe) males.
In order to find a "good one", one must search through all the prospects. It's discouraging, but remember that once you give up your chances go from small to ZERO. |
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AussieMatty
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Location: Townsville, Queensland
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| BlueMax wrote: | | AussieMatty wrote: | | I just deleted my account. Never will go back to dating websites ever again. I been through enough is enough. I done 5 different websites. Not proving me right. Superficial and shallow women is everywhere. |
And those women are being relentlessly pursued by hordes of horny, brainless alpha(or wannabe) males.
In order to find a "good one", one must search through all the prospects. It's discouraging, but remember that once you give up your chances go from small to ZERO. |
Internet dating is waste of time. BIG TIME! I just want to get out into the world and meet women in better way.
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A_Landy
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| I am, but I'm starting to give up on finding love online |
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rabbittss
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| BlueMax wrote: | | AussieMatty wrote: | | I just deleted my account. Never will go back to dating websites ever again. I been through enough is enough. I done 5 different websites. Not proving me right. Superficial and shallow women is everywhere. |
And those women are being relentlessly pursued by hordes of horny, brainless alpha(or wannabe) males.
In order to find a "good one", one must search through all the prospects. It's discouraging, but remember that once you give up your chances go from small to ZERO. |
Small is the same as Zero as far as I'm concerned.. Once you get to the point where all of the ones you consider attractive have either ignored your messages or simply deleted their profiles.. it makes no sense to keep a profile active, At this point, I am left waiting for new people to show up because all of the ones that were on the site I considered worth sending messages to, I have. I'm not interested in long distance relationships, I'm not interested in women who live more than 25 miles away. I have no way to get to them. So if new people don't join, then I have no reason to be there except to get angry at the ones who don't return my messages.
All having it there is doing, is to set the stage for desperation to set in, in which case you will take whatever comes your way, even though it's not likely to be meaningful. It's better to just cut your losses and leave the table than to sit there waiting with your hand out. |
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yellowtamarin
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| rabbittss wrote: | | BlueMax wrote: | | AussieMatty wrote: | | I just deleted my account. Never will go back to dating websites ever again. I been through enough is enough. I done 5 different websites. Not proving me right. Superficial and shallow women is everywhere. |
And those women are being relentlessly pursued by hordes of horny, brainless alpha(or wannabe) males.
In order to find a "good one", one must search through all the prospects. It's discouraging, but remember that once you give up your chances go from small to ZERO. |
Small is the same as Zero as far as I'm concerned.. Once you get to the point where all of the ones you consider attractive have either ignored your messages or simply deleted their profiles.. it makes no sense to keep a profile active, At this point, I am left waiting for new people to show up because all of the ones that were on the site I considered worth sending messages to, I have. I'm not interested in long distance relationships, I'm not interested in women who live more than 25 miles away. I have no way to get to them. So if new people don't join, then I have no reason to be there except to get angry at the ones who don't return my messages.
All having it there is doing, is to set the stage for desperation to set in, in which case you will take whatever comes your way, even though it's not likely to be meaningful. It's better to just cut your losses and leave the table than to sit there waiting with your hand out. |
I agree with BlueMax. You don't have to be on there every day or anything. Why not keep the profile, but just check in once every fortnight, or once a month? Don't "sit there waiting", just show up every now and then. |
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AussieMatty
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| yellowtamarin wrote: | | rabbittss wrote: | | BlueMax wrote: | | AussieMatty wrote: | | I just deleted my account. Never will go back to dating websites ever again. I been through enough is enough. I done 5 different websites. Not proving me right. Superficial and shallow women is everywhere. |
And those women are being relentlessly pursued by hordes of horny, brainless alpha(or wannabe) males.
In order to find a "good one", one must search through all the prospects. It's discouraging, but remember that once you give up your chances go from small to ZERO. |
Small is the same as Zero as far as I'm concerned.. Once you get to the point where all of the ones you consider attractive have either ignored your messages or simply deleted their profiles.. it makes no sense to keep a profile active, At this point, I am left waiting for new people to show up because all of the ones that were on the site I considered worth sending messages to, I have. I'm not interested in long distance relationships, I'm not interested in women who live more than 25 miles away. I have no way to get to them. So if new people don't join, then I have no reason to be there except to get angry at the ones who don't return my messages.
All having it there is doing, is to set the stage for desperation to set in, in which case you will take whatever comes your way, even though it's not likely to be meaningful. It's better to just cut your losses and leave the table than to sit there waiting with your hand out. |
I agree with BlueMax. You don't have to be on there every day or anything. Why not keep the profile, but just check in once every fortnight, or once a month? Don't "sit there waiting", just show up every now and then. |
DITTO! Yes that is why I deleted it. Think about it. Online dating is vulnerable to criminal activity. Fake profiles, scams, murders or whatever. So, I'm heading out more from now on. Online is waste of time, the more radiation get into your body and feel emotionally critical by those ladder theory proven ladies.
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yellowtamarin
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| AussieMatty wrote: | | yellowtamarin wrote: | | rabbittss wrote: | | BlueMax wrote: | | AussieMatty wrote: | | I just deleted my account. Never will go back to dating websites ever again. I been through enough is enough. I done 5 different websites. Not proving me right. Superficial and shallow women is everywhere. |
And those women are being relentlessly pursued by hordes of horny, brainless alpha(or wannabe) males.
In order to find a "good one", one must search through all the prospects. It's discouraging, but remember that once you give up your chances go from small to ZERO. |
Small is the same as Zero as far as I'm concerned.. Once you get to the point where all of the ones you consider attractive have either ignored your messages or simply deleted their profiles.. it makes no sense to keep a profile active, At this point, I am left waiting for new people to show up because all of the ones that were on the site I considered worth sending messages to, I have. I'm not interested in long distance relationships, I'm not interested in women who live more than 25 miles away. I have no way to get to them. So if new people don't join, then I have no reason to be there except to get angry at the ones who don't return my messages.
All having it there is doing, is to set the stage for desperation to set in, in which case you will take whatever comes your way, even though it's not likely to be meaningful. It's better to just cut your losses and leave the table than to sit there waiting with your hand out. |
I agree with BlueMax. You don't have to be on there every day or anything. Why not keep the profile, but just check in once every fortnight, or once a month? Don't "sit there waiting", just show up every now and then. |
DITTO! Yes that is why I deleted it. Think about it. Online dating is vulnerable to criminal activity. Fake profiles, scams, murders or whatever. So, I'm heading out more from now on. Online is waste of time, the more radiation get into your body and feel emotionally critical by those ladder theory proven ladies. |
Hehe, that's a bit dramatic! Well if you have more success out there in the real world, that's great! I like to keep one online profile active so I actually have a chance at meeting people. And Okc is the best one, IMO. |
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AussieMatty
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