Ivasha
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I should probably reread it. It was the first book I read when I started taking my suspicions seriously but I was still in the "nah but that's not really an issue right?" phase where you recognize some details but have not yet realized how much the sum of all those 'little' things impacts your life.
The situations she described have triggered recognition of patterns both in memories and in my current situation that helped me gain some insight on how this really all fits together.
As earlier posters pointed out: I'm not prone to depressions nor do I see much in the digestive problems cause stuff, but a useful book nevertheless.
One disappointment though: it doesn't quite live up to its 'empowering' claim. Like most information on the subject, the book is all about how difficult certain aspects are and how parents should be accommodating/extra careful, and not much about how we may actually turn out fairly okay in the absence of such measures.
Not that everything is peachy - I wouldn't have ended up here on WP if it were - and yes my current situation probably could have been avoided with more external support.
However I've managed to deal with various extreme situations over the years because my brain works the way it does. It has allowed me to come up with unconventional solutions to problems. Also for me the weights of certain aspects of 'hardships' seem to be different than 'for everyone else', and my delayed reaction makes me the last woman standing in a crisis situation.
I suppose I missed some celebration of the upsides of 'different'  That said, it's a good thing more female-specific information is becoming available and I would indeed recommend it.
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I just finished reading this book and was amazed at how much Rudy and the other Aspergirls had in common with how i am. next i am going to be giving this book to my mom for her to read, perhaps it will help her to understand me better and being more understanding of some of the things i say and do that aggravate her to no end.
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I've read Aspergirls and I love it! It really describes me and exactly how I feel and how to find ways to deal with that. It's been my saviour.
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| this book is the most amazing and helpful book I have ever read. |
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| My mum works at a school and one of her colleagues bought that book to put in the library. Mum gave it to me to have a look at. It is a good book. I think it will be good for parents to look at (which is what they bought it for), |
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| ButterflyLady wrote: | | I just finished reading this book and was amazed at how much Rudy and the other Aspergirls had in common with how i am. next i am going to be giving this book to my mom for her to read, perhaps it will help her to understand me better and being more understanding of some of the things i say and do that aggravate her to no end. |
Thats exactly what I did after I read it! It really helped open up conversation with my mom.
I also really liked Pretending To Be Normal by Liane Holliday Willey. If you haven't read it, I say give it a try.
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| Pretending to be normal is also a good book. My parents bought that when I was first diagnosed. |
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ButterflyLady
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| Nymeria8 wrote: | | ButterflyLady wrote: | | I just finished reading this book and was amazed at how much Rudy and the other Aspergirls had in common with how i am. next i am going to be giving this book to my mom for her to read, perhaps it will help her to understand me better and being more understanding of some of the things i say and do that aggravate her to no end. |
Thats exactly what I did after I read it! It really helped open up conversation with my mom.
I also really liked Pretending To Be Normal by Liane Holliday Willey. If you haven't read it, I say give it a try. |
ah ok, i'll have to check out that book too. thanks for telling me about that book.
EDIT: my mom has barely gotten through the first few pages, where as me i couldn't put it down.
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Nymeria8
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| ButterflyLady wrote: | | Nymeria8 wrote: | | ButterflyLady wrote: | | I just finished reading this book and was amazed at how much Rudy and the other Aspergirls had in common with how i am. next i am going to be giving this book to my mom for her to read, perhaps it will help her to understand me better and being more understanding of some of the things i say and do that aggravate her to no end. |
Thats exactly what I did after I read it! It really helped open up conversation with my mom.
I also really liked Pretending To Be Normal by Liane Holliday Willey. If you haven't read it, I say give it a try. |
ah ok, i'll have to check out that book too. thanks for telling me about that book.
EDIT: my mom has barely gotten through the first few pages, where as me i couldn't put it down. |
I know exactly what you mean. I have read 6 books cover to cover an my mom has made it through 2. I read Pretending to be Normal in 4 hrs.
I asked my mom about it. She said it made her feel sad and guilty. Like she had failed as a parent. I hadn't even thought about that part as I don't have children of my own.
For me the books were energizing. It was as if I had a new vocabulary with which to understand the world.
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It's weird how Aspergirls didn't help me with anything. I feel like it doesn't help with the problems I'm going through. Is that bad?
| Mitsuki wrote: | Anyone read Rudy Simone's Aspergirls? I read it and thought it was brilliant. A lot of the chapters covered things which I have had difficulty with and other chapters meant I considered things I hadn't previously. Her book pretty much spelt out Aspergers to me and as a result I was able to push to get my diagnosis. If I hadn't read this book I may have just got my ADD diagnosis and always wondered what my "something different about me" thing was.
I can't wait for her new book 22 Things a Woman with Aspergers wants her partner to know. I am ordering 2 copies, one for me and one for my boyfriend.
Anyone read Aspergers on the Job? |
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I feel bad because it doesn't really describe me at all. Does that mean I'm not Autistic?
| MusicMama wrote: | This was the very first book written about women that I have related to. Ever. I've flipped through books like "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" and I thought it was a bunch of poorly conceived drivel because I'm nothing at all like how those sorts of books describe women. I'm nothing at all like how any marriage seminars or self-help books describe women either.
So, reading it was good if only to let me know that I'm not some lone freak. There are other women who are somewhat like I am!!! |
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ButterflyLady
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| Nymeria8 wrote: | | ButterflyLady wrote: | | Nymeria8 wrote: | | ButterflyLady wrote: | | I just finished reading this book and was amazed at how much Rudy and the other Aspergirls had in common with how i am. next i am going to be giving this book to my mom for her to read, perhaps it will help her to understand me better and being more understanding of some of the things i say and do that aggravate her to no end. |
Thats exactly what I did after I read it! It really helped open up conversation with my mom.
I also really liked Pretending To Be Normal by Liane Holliday Willey. If you haven't read it, I say give it a try. |
ah ok, i'll have to check out that book too. thanks for telling me about that book.
EDIT: my mom has barely gotten through the first few pages, where as me i couldn't put it down. |
I know exactly what you mean. I have read 6 books cover to cover an my mom has made it through 2. I read Pretending to be Normal in 4 hrs.
I asked my mom about it. She said it made her feel sad and guilty. Like she had failed as a parent. I hadn't even thought about that part as I don't have children of my own.
For me the books were energizing. It was as if I had a new vocabulary with which to understand the world. |
I am a slow reader but Aspergirls is one book i raced through. she has had it for over a month and hasn't really shown any interest in reading it. i was wanting to be able to read it again before i had to return it to the library, guess i'll just have to check it out again after she finally gets through it (if she finishes it).
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I'm another one who found this book energising - and life enhancing. I read it soon after I'd won a conderable battle to find out if I have AS - and subsequently confirmation that I do - and Aspergirls made me feel good about myself, especially knowing there were others like me - I wasn't just some weird (possibly insane) oddity.
There's so much negativity about the condition that it's really good to get a positive slant. |
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ButterflyLady
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So i wrote a note to my mom about my feelings and mentioned this book (since i can't seem to verbalize it without us getting into a fight) Her reading this book is like reading something for work because she's a nurse, which is why she hadn't read it and after i mentioned it in the book she picked up again (perhaps because she felt guilty, not sure though)
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| I thought it was brilliant- it was the first book I'd read about AS from a recommendation by the psychologist I was seeing and it was honestly the most amazing thing I'd read, could relate to it so much. I've lent it to my mum atm so she can read it, should hopefully help since my mum doesn't really understand what AS is. |
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