| What do you think is the ideal living situation for aspies? |
| Living alone (or alone except for animals) |
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41% |
[ 58 ] |
| Share housing with other aspies |
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2% |
[ 4 ] |
| Share housing with NT's |
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0% |
[ 1 ] |
| Share housing with both NT's and aspies |
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2% |
[ 4 ] |
| Live with spouse/partner who understands you |
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46% |
[ 65 ] |
| Live with family members who accept/accommodate aspie style communications |
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6% |
[ 9 ] |
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Selena
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
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 Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 10:26 pm Post subject: Poll: the ideal aspie living situation |
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| Without adding in sci-fi/fantasy options, what do you think is the ideal living situation to accommodate aspie-ness with as much comfort as possible? |
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megymegan
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Feb 23, 2012
Age: 22
Posts: 44
Location: New Zealand
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| Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 10:34 pm Post subject: |
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| I picked living alone. That way I have somewhere to go and be alone, and if I want social time I can go out to find it. But always have the home sanctuary. |
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Venerab1e1
Toucan
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Age: 27
Posts: 278
Location: Kentucky USA
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| Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 10:40 pm Post subject: |
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| I picked living alone assuming one can afford it. |
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Tuttle
Not a bird, a turtle.
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Age: 24
Posts: 2591
Location: Massachusetts
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| Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 10:44 pm Post subject: |
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It depends on the person.
I'd not function nearly as well living alone. For me, living with my boyfriend and my cat is far better than living alone, or with just my cat. I am far more reliable about things like eating this way. |
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CyclopsSummers
tunnel visionary
Joined: Jun 22, 2008
Age: 26
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I agree that this would differ per person, and that it would also be dependant on numerous factors in that particular person's life. What's good for you as a small child may no longer apply when you're a teenager, let alone an adult. While for others, things do not change that dramatically with time.
So, in my view, all of the poll options could be correct depending on the personal situation.
Speaking in general terms, though, I would think that the final two poll options incorporate something that's vitally important at least for autistic children growing up, and that's the understanding of the people around you. If you grow up in an environment where you are given some space, where sensory overload is kept below levels where it gets too much, where you get the room to learn how to properly interact with the people around you yet you also get plenty of 'me'-time if you desire it, AND it's also a loving environment... I think those are requisite, at least growing up.
Upon reaching adulthood, I'm more reluctant to make any sweeping generalisations I'm normally so fond of making.
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StarBird
Tufted Titmouse
Joined: Mar 03, 2012
Age: 22
Posts: 34
Location: California
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2012 3:17 am Post subject: |
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| I chose living alone with the thought that if I desired someone to live with, I could always invite someone in as a roommate. I think it would be harder to kick someone out than to bring someone in. |
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Keeno
Phoenix
Joined: Mar 09, 2006
Posts: 4948
Location: Earth
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I didn't answer the poll because (looking at it objectively and not from my personal standpoint) I couldn't pick just one option. For Aspies I just don't like the idea of sharing housing compared to living on your own, or with family you've grown up naturally with, or a partner (because that's technically a family unit or would-be family unit).
Not all the options are ideal for every Aspie. Take living on your own, not all Aspies are independent enough to do this and some may need supported housing. Even if independent enough, not all neighbourhoods are conducive for the Aspie to live without undergoing trauma.
If the option is family or a partner, the relationship might in some cases be fraught, and not harmonious enough in every case. Etc., etc. |
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arko5
Raven
Joined: Jul 19, 2010
Age: 24
Posts: 107
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Living alone for me, in theory living with a partner who understands you would be prefereable, but I just don't know how realistic that is. I tend to have pretty strong preferences about cleanliness and noise which means unless I'm with someone with similar preferences we'll just annoy each other. It's kind of sad that my current aspiration is just to have any stable job and stable living arrangements (although in the current economic climate even that seems quite hard to achieve), I feel like I should aim higher but really I just want something predictable and 'safe'. Once I get that then I can worry about what comes next...
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Asp-Z
Clockwork Planet
Joined: Dec 07, 2009
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2012 12:55 pm Post subject: |
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| I'd love to live with my girlfriend and our cats. |
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Joe90
Phoenix
Joined: Feb 24, 2010
Posts: 8235
Location: Great Britain
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I wasn't sure what to select, since my ideal living style is living with just one person, either an understanding, loving man who I fancy, or a close relative who I trust.
I wouldn't want to live entirely on my own, because I seem to end up depressed when spending too much time on my own. I just go into myself and start talking to myself so much that I start to feel insane. Plus I'll feel lonely at night time, and also vulnerable. And I get freaked out or scared easily, so once I get the creeps from watching a scary film or seeing something scary on the internet or even watching the news, I don't know when to stop. I get the creeps so much that I feel ill, and all objects start to turn into scary things in my mind, and so on.
I would just like to live with another close person, but obviously still be independant, I do my own thing and they do their own thing, but we still be close and sit together in the evenings or other times in the day when we have spare time. So I could live with someone else without living in eachother's pockets (which is possible).
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lostgirl1986
There's a party in my head.
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Age: 26
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Location: Ontario, Canada
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| I think it depends on the aspie, I mean everybody is different no matter what. I myslef would love to just find the right guy for me and live with him in my own place. |
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Jtuk
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Location: Wales, UK
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Wow what an interesting and polar opposite result.
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Joe90
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| lostgirl1986 wrote: | | I think it depends on the aspie, I mean everybody is different no matter what. I myslef would love to just find the right guy for me and live with him in my own place. |
Yer, that's basically what I'm aiming for. It's what a lot of people aim for anyways.
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Who_Am_I
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Location: My body is in Brisbane and my mind is in the gutter. :D
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I can only speak for myself, but living alone would work best for me.
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Matt62
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I've actually lived alone before. It works OK, but I'd rather have one person (whose not family) that understands me & gives me my own space, to live with.
Its nice to be needed. Even more to be understood!
Sincerely,
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