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 Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 2:07 am Post subject: Annoying habits of neurotypical people |
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(disclaimer: this post speaks of many or most NTs, not all of them)
Let's turn the tables. Well, not literally, but you know what I mean. Anyway, I am annoyed by NTs' lack of honesty and directness. For example, I received wto rejection letters, one for a job and another for law school. Both substitute the word unable for unwilling.. NTs' tend not to appreciate a good logical argument. NTs', especially young ones, tend to care about trivial and absurd things such as Jersey Shore, sports, sex, alcohol, and the sort. NTs' control the social rules and punish people who don't conform to the silly irrational rituals and norms they think are good. I could probably go on forever. Anyone else? |
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softlyspeaks41
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 3:19 am Post subject: |
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| Well for one I don't think sports are "absurd" and I believe sex isn't considered "trivial". but otherwise I see what you're saying |
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Joe90
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 7:05 am Post subject: |
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I get annoyed when it comes to getting intimidated or ridiculed if you don't conform to their ways, especially by strangers who don't even know you. Actually, where I come from, you can't ''mix'' your type. For example, if you look weird, you can act or dress weird. If you give off ''neurotypical'' body language, you must look normal and act normal. But those who look normal, dress normal and act normal but have some sort of odd way about them, they're the ones who get ridiculed, intimidated, shamed, laughed at and stared at the most, and sadly I happen to fall into that category. I think it's so stupid.
That goes to show that NTs only have empathy for others like them - they cannot put themselves into other people's shoes who aren't like them.
Same goes for anybody, not just Aspies. If somebody has a back injury and goes out walking a bit different because of it, they will get ridiculed. But someone like me, I look at them and think, ''maybe he's had a back injury. That poor person, I wonder how he's feeling right now, with having to cope with his back and all these awful, empathetic-less people staring at him.''
And they say Autistics lack empathy and NTs don't.....? Right.......
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lostgirl1986
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 7:10 am Post subject: |
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I hate how they always feel the need to talk.
"Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bs in order to be comfortable?...That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the eff up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence."-
Mia, "Pulp Fiction" |
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rileyup
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 7:24 am Post subject: |
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| i hate when they touch me,that is the worst |
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lostgirl1986
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| rileyup wrote: | | i hate when they touch me,that is the worst |
I hate how they like hugging people. I don't like people in my personal space. |
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Joe90
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 7:30 am Post subject: |
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| lostgirl1986 wrote: | I hate how they always feel the need to talk.
"Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bs in order to be comfortable?...That's when you know you've found somebody special. When you can just shut the eff up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence."-
Mia, "Pulp Fiction" |
I actually get uncomfortable too when no-one talks. I feel I want to laugh, or I feel awkward like they're expecting me to talk or something.
When my mum and dad are in the same room, I have to come out because they never talk to eachother much, and the silence actually drives me mad. I do try and talk to them, but my dad just accuses me of ''gabbling on about crap''.
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EstimatedProphet
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 9:01 am Post subject: |
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| lostgirl1986 wrote: | | rileyup wrote: | | i hate when they touch me,that is the worst |
I hate how they like hugging people. I don't like people in my personal space. |
I've started getting more used to this, but it still makes me quite uncomfortable. I just hate people touching me if I don't want to be or am not expecting to be touched. Even if it's somebody I'm attracted to it bothers me. I've got to be extremely close to somebody for it to not bother me. I think there's been maybe two people ever that I didn't mind being touched by. |
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biribiri20
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 10:25 am Post subject: |
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Teasing as a form of comradery. Calling each other insults in a non-serious manner. Why?
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conan
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 11:06 am Post subject: |
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| biribiri20 wrote: | | Teasing as a form of comradery. Calling each other insults in a non-serious manner. Why? |
to maintain hierarchy i think. It's totally unintentional. I think it's ok as long as they know that they are still friends |
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FishStickNick
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 1:12 pm Post subject: |
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| lostgirl1986 wrote: | | rileyup wrote: | | i hate when they touch me,that is the worst |
I hate how they like hugging people. I don't like people in my personal space. |
I've mastered the one-arm "OK, I'll hug you if I have to but I don't want to get too close" hug.  |
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biribiri20
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| conan wrote: | | to maintain hierarchy i think. It's totally unintentional. I think it's ok as long as they know that they are still friends |
I'm required to take it from friends on a regular basis. It's a part of friendship I could honestly do without.
Also getting hugged randomly from people I don't talk with much to begin with.
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FishStickNick
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 1:55 pm Post subject: |
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| biribiri20 wrote: | | conan wrote: | | to maintain hierarchy i think. It's totally unintentional. I think it's ok as long as they know that they are still friends |
I'm required to take it from friends on a regular basis. It's a part of friendship I could honestly do without. |
I do and don't understand why friends tease each other. Like, if someone says or does something amusing, I get why you might joke about it later on (I'll sometimes adopt such things as catch phrases). I don't understand why friends will tease each other about their appearance or stuff like that, though, or jokingly lob insults at each other. Either way, I never know how to react to teasing from people. |
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Joe90
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 4:14 pm Post subject: |
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It annoys me when people make up an offensive nickname for someone else but only as a joke and they take it as a joke aswell and come to love being called it. Like at my volunteer job there was a woman who spoke in a Welsh accent, and one of the men called her ''Welsh b***h'', but judging by her reaction (which was a relaxed smile) I knew he was just joking around, but I bet if I laughed warmly and called her that she'd get offended. I just don't understand how NTs can start off a nickname for somebody and they not get offended by it but if I started one off, whatever it was and whoever it was, they'll get grossly offended, even if I did it in a nice, friendly way.
Not all NTs start off nicknames that would be offensive outside a friendly joke, but a lot of cocky NTs do, and it annoys me sometimes.
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evil_expresso
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| Posted: Tue Apr 17, 2012 5:43 pm Post subject: |
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| Joe90 wrote: | It annoys me when people make up an offensive nickname for someone else but only as a joke and they take it as a joke aswell and come to love being called it. Like at my volunteer job there was a woman who spoke in a Welsh accent, and one of the men called her ''Welsh b***h'', but judging by her reaction (which was a relaxed smile) I knew he was just joking around, but I bet if I laughed warmly and called her that she'd get offended. I just don't understand how NTs can start off a nickname for somebody and they not get offended by it but if I started one off, whatever it was and whoever it was, they'll get grossly offended, even if I did it in a nice, friendly way.
Not all NTs start off nicknames that would be offensive outside a friendly joke, but a lot of cocky NTs do, and it annoys me sometimes. |
I concur, but being a paradox as I kind of am, I'm guilty of calling people names on account of my impulsitivity.
ADHDers can be like that; they may arbitrarily say things like, "HEY! HOW THE f**k ARE YOU?" - As in, their ability to think before they speak is somehow not so great.
I came across an extroverted Aspergian (or was he HFA?) - probably the latter - and he said loads of offensive things in a high energy way.
Anyways. I'm just pointing out that swear words and loud mouthiness is not reserved only for the NT population  |
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