Mootoo
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 Posted: Sun Apr 29, 2012 6:20 pm Post subject: Routines |
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So, I'm not sure if what I'm feeling is just bizarre... I know that most people with AS especially love routines, but personally, even if I know they may be useful (especially for disorganized procrastinators, like me) - I always tended to be naturally chaotic, but lately I've been making a conscious effort to reject routine... because otherwise I feel like a computer program, which ends up making me sick.
How do people love their routines? I just don't know... sure, I realize after a while it'd be easier to maintain them, but I can never feel good enough to begin with and persevere, but only recently have I become forceful against any attempt, conscious or otherwise to set up repetition.
(Then again, in my fantasies I've always kind of thought I was the embodiment of primeval chaos, so yeah...) |
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glider18
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| Posted: Sun Apr 29, 2012 7:47 pm Post subject: routines |
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I adhere as much as possible to my routines. I find that the routines I have in life bring me comfort. When those routines are messed with, I get anxiety.
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JanuaryMan
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Same as glider18. While I don't like to be a puppet to fate, I find sticking to routines gives me a lot more comfort. Being impulsive gives a temporary buzz followed by great anxiety or at times, guilt.
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E27
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| Posted: Sun Apr 29, 2012 8:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Parts of my day that have a routine, and other parts that don't. For example I have a bed time routine that last for about 1 and a half hours, and if it get messed up then it's hard for me to sleep, but around 5 to 6 oclock I just do what ever I need/want to do. |
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FishStickNick
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| Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2012 2:16 am Post subject: |
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| E27 wrote: | | Parts of my day that have a routine, and other parts that don't. For example I have a bed time routine that last for about 1 and a half hours, and if it get messed up then it's hard for me to sleep, but around 5 to 6 oclock I just do what ever I need/want to do. |
Yeah, same here; my entire day isn't mapped out with routines, but I do have a few. I've had the same basic morning routine since grade school. I tend to listen to the same songs on my walk home from the bus. When I go grocery shopping I have to start at the same end of the store each time, otherwise it doesn't feel right.
Also: When making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, the peanut butter always goes on first. The jelly always goes on the second slice, not directly atop the peanut butter. |
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Verdandi
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When my routines are taken away, I have a lot of anxiety. I can vary my routines voluntarily if I see the need, but if my routines are pulled out from under me, it can vary from causing anxiety to causing outright panic, a meltdown, or a shutdown. It can also seriously interfere with other parts of my routine, depending on various factors. I've had a break in my routines effectively negate some of my ability to function, and I guess an observer might have described me as "regressed" but I don't know that it would be an accurate description.
I didn't really think of my routines as routines before, but they're pretty important to me, and when I was diagnosed, what I thought was a mild need for routine was described back to me as an intense/severe need for routine. |
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Kinme
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| Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2012 3:25 am Post subject: |
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| Depending on how stressed out I am initially that day, I'll know whether or not I need to follow a routine. If I'm really anxious and stressed, I know that I won't be able to cope unless I know what's coming next in my day. |
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FishStickNick
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| Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2012 3:45 am Post subject: |
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| Verdandi wrote: | When my routines are taken away, I have a lot of anxiety. I can vary my routines voluntarily if I see the need, but if my routines are pulled out from under me, it can vary from causing anxiety to causing outright panic, a meltdown, or a shutdown. It can also seriously interfere with other parts of my routine, depending on various factors. I've had a break in my routines effectively negate some of my ability to function, and I guess an observer might have described me as "regressed" but I don't know that it would be an accurate description.
I didn't really think of my routines as routines before, but they're pretty important to me, and when I was diagnosed, what I thought was a mild need for routine was described back to me as an intense/severe need for routine. |
I don't get panicky when my routines or workflows are disturbed/disrupted, but I can get quite agitated. |
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Verdandi
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| Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2012 3:50 am Post subject: |
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| FishStickNick wrote: | | Verdandi wrote: | When my routines are taken away, I have a lot of anxiety. I can vary my routines voluntarily if I see the need, but if my routines are pulled out from under me, it can vary from causing anxiety to causing outright panic, a meltdown, or a shutdown. It can also seriously interfere with other parts of my routine, depending on various factors. I've had a break in my routines effectively negate some of my ability to function, and I guess an observer might have described me as "regressed" but I don't know that it would be an accurate description.
I didn't really think of my routines as routines before, but they're pretty important to me, and when I was diagnosed, what I thought was a mild need for routine was described back to me as an intense/severe need for routine. |
I don't get panicky when my routines or workflows are disturbed/disrupted, but I can get quite agitated. |
I don't panic often, but when I do, it's pretty obvious.
I mentioned in another thread I go shopping on the first or second of each month (that's when I get paid, and buy some things that need to last the whole month). If I miss that 1st-2nd day window, I will freak out. There's no real reason for this, sometimes (although this month it is actually legitimately important that I get it done on the 1st). |
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Cogs
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I dont have routine in the macro sense, however I like it in the micro sense. My days have no structure, I cant know where my headspace will be tomorrow, or even in 30minutes time to keep to any sort of routine. However, I like routine on a micro level, like someone always greeting me in the same way, interacting with me in the same sort of way, makes it easier to have greater predictability. I notice patterns in peoples behaviour and really, really dont like it if they suddenly deviate from their patterns, it makes me nervous and unsure of how to interact with them. I like things such as always eating the same breakfast, wearing the same clothes (multiple sets of the same items).
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arko5
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| Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2012 6:59 am Post subject: |
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I find routines just help offload information. I don't have to worry about the stupid day-to-day things because they're all incorporated into a finely honed routine. It means the only things I do have to think about are the more important things, like organising work. It's probably linked the working and prospective memory impairments often present in AS.
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Mootoo
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| Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2012 8:13 am Post subject: |
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| FishStickNick wrote: |
Yeah, same here; my entire day isn't mapped out with routines, but I do have a few. I've had the same basic morning routine since grade school. I tend to listen to the same songs on my walk home from the bus. When I go grocery shopping I have to start at the same end of the store each time, otherwise it doesn't feel right.
Also: When making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, the peanut butter always goes on first. The jelly always goes on the second slice, not directly atop the peanut butter. |
Doesn't this make you feel like a robot? Sometimes, when I listen to the same bunch of songs (about 100) for a few weeks I feel like I'm going insane... novelty is refreshing, I think.
(Hey, incidentally no one addressed my specific issue in the first post, but thanks for sharing your views nonetheless!) |
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