ghoti
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| redrobin62 wrote: | | <--- Stands guilty for his evil judgmental ways. |
I have not seen you that way at all. |
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League_Girl
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| Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2012 5:00 pm Post subject: |
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| ghoti wrote: | | redrobin62 wrote: | | <--- Stands guilty for his evil judgmental ways. |
I have not seen you that way at all. |
Same here.
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mds_02
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No, that would be ridiculous. I judge people based on their race, age, gender, religion, sexual orientation, country of origin, disability status, and credit score. Judged people based on how they actually act would necessitate paying attention to the world around me, listening with an open mind, and all sorts of other nonsense.
I guess it depends on what you mean by judge. I do defintely take people's posts as a reflection of their real life personalities. But, I'm not sitting here thinking "ooh, I disagree with so and so's posts, he has less value as a human being." |
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CockneyRebel
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johnny77
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| I judge you all by what you say as I am judged by what and how I say things. I don't think it its possible to talk to some one without forming an opinion of what they are like. If I was to speak harshly to people in my post you wold think I was a hard/bitter man. If I was all ways being supportive you would think a nurturer or an overly friendly person. It is judging not in evil way but a human one and I will agree that its not perfect but nether are human beings. |
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lostgirl1986
There's a party in my head.
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| I kind of tend to judge people by their posts but I try and keep an open-mind as well. Also, I try to remember that some people with AS can have certain traits that may sound rude in a post so I try to not take things too personally. |
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Shatbat
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People's posts can give me an idea of what they believe in, and their way to see the world, so yeah, I believe they are an indicator of the person behind it. But I understand people are in control of everything they say here, unlike the real word where it's much harder to hide something, so... there it is.
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AnnettaMarie
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Yes and no. I don't judge people based off of one or two posts that I disagree with. I don't judge people if they don't like me or find what I say to be abrasive. People are going to be opinionated and I am, too, so if I cared too much it would end up being hypocritical on my part.
Everyone goes through things in life that dictate the mood that they post things in. There usually isn't enough insight to know what's going right or wrong at any given time.
I take people on a post-by-post basis. So if someone posts the same sorts of things, then I tend to notice and form an opinion off of that. Which is a little bit hypocritical. But I am human.
I wouldn't avoid talking to anyone here, though, based on what they've posted in the past. If there's something that I feel I want to respond to, I'm going to.
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Kjas
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| NeueZiel wrote: | | Sparx wrote: | | I wouldn't say judge... but it gives me an overall impression of what kind of person they are. |
Actually I feel the complete opposite is true. You can't piece together an accurate picture of a person from stuff posted on a forum, no matter how personal it may seem. Sometimes people greatly exaggerate details, don't share them or post in a way completely contrary to their own characters. I think its one of the biggest flaws of the internet as a community. |
I think this one is a bit difficult.
Many of the things that I do not even think to mention because they hold no interest for me, actually interest others. I think what people choose to place enough importance on to post about can be interesting. But I don't believe that would be the sum of them as a person, many of the things they don't post about are simply their version of "normal" and therefore you may never hear about the normal things for them.
| EnglishJess wrote: | | Sort of. I've seen members be funny or sort of tease people but not in a mean way before, and then I've seen them be kind to people. |
Teasing and joking about is all well and good, but I like to make sure that someone can handle it and that they won't take it the wrong way before I do that to someone. To some, that probably comes across as playing favourites, but actually I am just trying to be considerate of others feelings. I do not want to exclude anyone, but nor do I want to offend or insult anyone by engaging with them jokingly, only to find they are taking me seriously. This is a forum for ASD after all and we are known for tending to take things literally.
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Moonhawk
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| Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 1:36 am Post subject: |
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| It depends on what kind of judging i think, for me atleast :o If someone posts very depressing things i'm less likely to talk to that person since it hasn't been long since i started feeling better myself and i'm easily influences by other people's mood, but generally i just skim through posts, because i can't absorb all the information, so uhm i don't know >< |
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SpiritBlooms
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| Moonhawk wrote: | It depends on what kind of judging i think, for me atleast  If someone posts very depressing things i'm less likely to talk to that person since it hasn't been long since i started feeling better myself and i'm easily influences by other people's mood, but generally i just skim through posts, because i can't absorb all the information, so uhm i don't know >< |
I can relate to this. I've battled self-esteem issues all my life, and if interacting with someone just makes me feel bad about myself, I have to stop. But I don't think of that as judging someone else, simply avoiding a situation that's toxic for me.
This happens for other reasons too. I find that WP is a lot more argumentative than other forums I visit. Maybe it's the nature of AS that it seems to result in arguing, sometimes just for the sake of arguing and showing off one or another person's knowledge and logic. I know I can be terribly argumentative at times too. But I'm not very logical, so sometimes the arguments just make me feel like hell.
There is another side to human existence besides logic, and just because someone can out-logic others doesn't mean they're right.
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poppyfields
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| It is hard because people with AS can be annoying to be around and I should be more accepting of that knowing it firsthand, but I can't help but get annoyed anyway. I think I'm just tired of how internet people are always so snarky and saying things to be funny without caring if it is hurtful that I mentally assume if someone here is like that they are another jerk. |
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Who_Am_I
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| mds_02 wrote: | No, that would be ridiculous. I judge people based on their race, age, gender, religion, sexual orientation, country of origin, disability status, and credit score. Judged people based on how they actually act would necessitate paying attention to the world around me, listening with an open mind, and all sorts of other nonsense.
I guess it depends on what you mean by judge. I do defintely take people's posts as a reflection of their real life personalities. But, I'm not sitting here thinking "ooh, I disagree with so and so's posts, he has less value as a human being." |
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Dillogic
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JUDGE ME WILL YOU?
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Jasmine90
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| Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 8:30 pm Post subject: |
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| NeueZiel wrote: | | Sparx wrote: | | I wouldn't say judge... but it gives me an overall impression of what kind of person they are. |
Actually I feel the complete opposite is true. You can't piece together an accurate picture of a person from stuff posted on a forum, no matter how personal it may seem. Sometimes people greatly exaggerate details, don't share them or post in a way completely contrary to their own characters. I think its one of the biggest flaws of the internet as a community. |
I agree completely.
The internet is the one place you can "be whoever you want to be". A lot of people don't like their real self, or just don't want people to know who they really are. It's easy to shape a forum post to suit any sort of personality.
But I have to admit, when someone showcases relentless self importance, I feel quite repelled. |
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