Joe90
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 Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2012 1:32 pm Post subject: Bored indoors but don't want to go out, anyone else relate? |
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Do you find you sometimes get this feeling? You're feeling really bored being at home but at the same time you don't feel like going out either. Where do these strange feelings come from? Is it depression, or anxiety, or lack of motivation/confidence?
I know most people experience this from time to time, but with me it's more frequent. Right now I am in a dilemma of whether to go out to the pub or not. I've been indoors on my own all day and I am feeling bored; I'm going round and round in circles on the internet like going on Facebook where nobody has added anything new at the moment, going on WP and seeing if there are any new posts but there still aren't, then going back on to Facebook, et cetera. All this shows that I am bored and need new entertainment or new environment. So going out for an hour or so to the pub to see friends/cousins is a good way to escape this feeling of boredom, but at the same time I don't know if I can really be bothered to do get ready and walk to the pub either.
When I get like this, the only thing I really want to do is go to bed and sleep to escape reality, but I can't do that yet because it's only 6.30pm and if I go to sleep now I will only wake up at, like, 10pm and be wide awake and then my body clock will be all mucked up, which then affects my mood and immune system for some reason.
But anyway, can anyone else relate to these awkward feelings? What do you do when you're in this kind of dilemma?
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Boxman108
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Only all the time. Of course with no money or transportation or anything like that, there's not much to do, but even when I had my job I still didn't want to socialize in what seems like a town full of scumbags.
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| Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2012 1:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes I feel the same way and it's so humid outside which makes me not want to go out even more. I try and get together with a friend at least once a week. |
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redrobin62
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Hmm...seems like this Risperidone I started a month ago seems to be working. I went to the movies last week (The Avengers) and actually thought about going out again. Prior to all of this I didn't want to go out at all. I'm still not a social butterfly, but one thing at a time, huh?
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| Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2012 6:05 pm Post subject: |
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I feel like this all the time. For me it has to be super worth it to go out. Like the benefits of whatever I have to do out there have to out weigh the negatives. My biggest deterent is the weather. I don't do sunshine well but mix that with heat and humidity. Ugh. So that leaves me with only the winter months that I really like the outdoors and it seems to me that everyone else hates the winter. I thinks its superb. The days are shorter, I can wear layers, no allergies etc.
In the meantime, summer has just begun here and I'm indoors and bored. Ideas welcome!
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Joe90
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| Posted: Sat Jun 23, 2012 8:49 am Post subject: |
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I feel more motivated to go out when it's hot, and I become more like a hermit when there's snow and ice all over the place. But the UK don't get hot summers any more so I have no more hot weather to bring me out and enjoy.
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I have felt like this many times. It is worse when I get into the position where everything I think about doing seems pointless and there is like a brick wall in my head stopping me from contemplating anything.
Usually i go to bed and sleep for a bit. But it is horrible to feel no desire to do anything. |
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| Posted: Sat Jun 23, 2012 2:41 pm Post subject: |
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| I don't like going outside, and I used to get bored inside. I started to do alot of workout with my "spare time", and it is something that works rather well now. Whenever I get bored, and I do not have college stuff to do, I just lift some weights, or do pushups, hit the bag, stuff like that. Just focus on something and make it an obsession. |
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RazorEddie
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| Posted: Sat Jun 23, 2012 6:28 pm Post subject: |
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I get this quite often. I will be bored and restless while simultaneously being apathetic and unable get up the energy to actually do anything. In this situation I often end up spending the day reading.
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| Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2012 1:05 am Post subject: |
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| i get like that very often feel bored about doing anything at home want to go out but then i question myself "where to? what do i even have to do outside?" normally just spend those day walking around the house trying to find something to do watching tv and thinking about some project to do or just about life or anything remotely interesting. |
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| Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2012 1:36 am Post subject: |
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I've always associated it with depression. Even if not major depression, if you have dysthymia you may often feel this way. My tactic is to force myself to go out. It may sound unappealing at the time, but it MIGHT be a good decision. It might not be of course, you don't know in advance whether you are going to have a good time, but I think to say then that you may as well have stayed home is wrong. You may as well have given it a shot. Because next time there might not be any social events happening so you won't even have the option (and in that case I would recommend going out anyway and exercising, if it is depression-related).
In short, what to do? Force yourself to be bothered. Even getting ready and walking halfway to the pub then walking back again is better than doing nothing, I reckon. |
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| Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2012 2:13 am Post subject: |
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| Yes I felt like that today.....for me it has to do with anxiety depression......it's a feeling of being unsettled wherever I am.....I'm inside but want to go out and visa-verse.......I'm in my bedroom I want to go in the living room, I go to the living room and then I want to go back to my bedroom. Today I just finished the first book in a series which I really enjoyed but then I realized that it was overdue and couldn't be renewed because it had lots of holds and my mom took me to return library books along with other errands , so I decided to return it with my other overdue books and couldn't re-read it. The next book in the series is in transit so if I keep waiting it'll come into the library soon........so I'd feel stupid buying it. I didn't want to start reading an old book from another series in case my new book came into the library tomorrow. Anyways, sometimes I can just daydream and be in the fantasy worlds of my novels (or otherwise occupy myself) but today I kept thinking about mistakes I've made with people , why my friend hasn't called me in a while etc. and just feeling anxious about things in general. I was really bored, restless and unsettled (I did not know what to do with myself). I did go out to go swimming (which I think was helpful) but still felt like this the rest of the day. I hate that feeling! |
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My gym and ice skating rink is like 2.5 miles away, so not much driving and I can (but haven't) walked there if need be. Anyway, I kinda hate being in my house, because now my house is messy, has fleas, and I just hate it. Before, my sister had a friend living here and her boyfriend was here like 10 hours a day and he'd aggravate the hell out of me. I'd use damned near any excuse to get out of the house.
Anyway, for me personally, if I can manage my time correctly (it's hard to start things sometimes, due to that) when I'm bored and wanna go "out" but have no money or friends to do stuff with, I'll go hiking through some local trails. Hiking is really nice to do, and quite cheap, and it's a good time you can get real alone time and really sort your thoughts out, but at the same time, you're still outdoors.
So my situation is quite interesting, as I'm "out" more than my friends tend to be, but I actually socialize less, as I'm doing individual activities, just outside my house. Ice skating, at most I talk to like, some of the older 30+ people there, most of the time 60+ year old people. And if I don't wanna socialize, I simply just skate and don't talk to anyone. Gym, headphones on the whole time, and there'll be some days where my only socialization at the gym is saying "Hi" and "Bye" to the person at the front desk. Then hiking, never usually people on the trails really hankering for conversation, so yeah. When I have money and gas, my favorite place to go that's not ice skating is the Asian market, I love getting Asian food, and then next door there's a very cheap thrift store, so I can get some clothing or old electronics or something.
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| Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2012 5:57 am Post subject: |
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I can relate. I am bored but unmotivated so I am finding it difficult to even get out of bed.
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