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Ghosthunter
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 Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 4:57 pm Post subject: Relating to Older People when I was 15-25(fitting in Period) |
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I found that most of my life(especially 15-25) that I related
to older and wiser people(due to being patient with me and I can
absorb from them knowledge). Do any of you have a similar experience? |
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Scoots5012
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| Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 5:09 pm Post subject: |
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I tend to get alone much better with the professors on campus than I do with the students.
The funny thing about the professors is that I hardly ever talk to them, but they all treat me like they treat their own mothers.
And I don't even know what I did to be liked so much by them.
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Ghosthunter
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| Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 5:19 pm Post subject: Professors and you! |
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With most adolesence's and young adults it is harder for the professor
to teach past their fitting in period(15-25). They subconsciously obsess
on boyfriends, girl friends, latest computers, cars, ect... .
Being HFA/AS allow them the possibly flow their lifelong learnings and
not have to pierce the outer-shells of I-Physical fads, and social
commitments that may occupy their mind.
ISN'T BEING AUTISTIC IN ONE SENSE A WONDERFUL GIFT, YET
ON THE OTHER HAND A SOCIAL CURSE. |
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Feste-Fenris
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| Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 5:29 pm Post subject: |
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| I tend to fit in well with academics and the like... |
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Ghosthunter
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| Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 5:42 pm Post subject: Too vague? |
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Please say that in a complete paragraph, I am not sure
how to respond? |
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Jetson
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| Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 8:42 pm Post subject: Re: Relating to Older People when I was 15-25(fitting in Per |
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| Ghosthunter wrote: | | I found that most of my life(especially 15-25) that I related to older and wiser people |
When I was young I related well to older people. Now that I'm old(er) I find I relate well to young(er) people. I think both cases are essentially the same -- when two people of different ages socialize there is more honesty to the communication because they are not competing for peer acceptance or pack dominance. When I was young the adults in my life didn't care that I was an outcast from my age-appropriate peer group and mostly accepted me as-is. Now that I'm older I present the same opportunity to those younger than me (and thereby attract the attention of young geeks who also don't fit in). I think most of them appreciate the fact that I'm one of the few adults who doesn't act superior to them in any way. I may have "adult" responsibilities, but I'm still very much in touch with my inner child/teen and like to do wacky non-adult things from time to time.
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Ghosthunter
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| Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 9:18 pm Post subject: for inspiring adult too his fellow AS/HFA's(younger) |
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I can relate. I use to go to sci-fi con's and I knew a particular
girl(age 12) to whom often associated with her older peer(15-25).
I found this person smart, clever, and wise-above her years.
It is good not to forget your youth, and celebrate it with others(younger)
for they have much to teach you and you have much to teach them. |
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CockneyRebel
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| I find that I get along better with Baby Boomers, and Seniours better than with people my own age. They're more likely to treat me with respect, they don't care if I prefer The Beatles over the young underdressed Female popstars of Today. If the Baby Boomers happen to be British, I bring back their memories of Swingning London. I also remind the Seniours of their Baby Boomer Children, because of the unisex 60s type appearance that I project. |
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axelkat
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I just dont do well with people my own age
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kaixo
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| Posted: Tue Apr 05, 2005 6:53 am Post subject: Re: Relating to Older People when I was 15-25(fitting in Per |
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| Ghosthunter wrote: | I found that most of my life(especially 15-25) that I related
to older and wiser people(due to being patient with me and I can
absorb from them knowledge). Do any of you have a similar experience? |
at school, i generally am drawn towards "hanging out" with my professors as opposed to other students. ): this has led to a few problems. they tend to misinterpret my genuine interest and enthusiasm towards a subject as romantic/some sort of sex-for-extra-credit thing, even if i have amazing grades in the class (i am a female.)
i am willing to put up with some non-institutional behaviour to some extent just to gain some extra knowledge from a phD.
i do, however, get creeped out when a prof lays a hand on my shoulder or brushes against me. i think this is so blatantly unprofessional. it bothers me. |
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MishLuvsHer2Boys
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| Ever since I was a toddler, I always seemed to 'relate' more to adults and be interested in them over my peers. Often I saw myself as a peer to an adult versus being a peer to those near my age. I did for the first 18 years of my life view myself as an equal to adults and that made things a little bit difficult in dealing with my peers as I'd spend a lot of time talking to teachers and such than my peers. |
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motherofhim
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| Posted: Mon Apr 25, 2005 8:14 pm Post subject: Hard for me to relate to ..... |
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Not that I was a perfect fit anyplace but I felt comfortable with the "art crowd" which is better than not feeling comfortable anyplace at all. I get angry when I think of the hurt these kids and adults must go through.
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axelkat
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iam 21. my best friend is 35.
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motherofhim
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| axelkat wrote: | iam 21. my best friend is 35.
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I see; I got along with my contemporaries; the one's that I did like. I was very discriminating in my own way. Now my son is, also, but for different reasons.
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NotBlueAspie
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A post on a similar topic from www.musicmademe.com/asp/
| Not Blue Aspie wrote: | | Iranda wrote: | I have a sister who is 5 years younger, but people always thought I was the younger one. Well, my sister did look quite mature and I was a late starter, but still...
Although looking much younger than my peers, I always enjoyed the company of people several years older.
Is that a confirmed AS symptom? Seems to be frequent, judging by the stories told here.
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I guess. I had the same experience. Young people are often immature and/or cruel, and are social creatures. If you are not interested in those things, there is no reason to interact with most of them. I found that adults are much less likely to lash out violently or contrive emotional torments.
Also, young people generally did not have as much knowledge and inclination toward intellectual matters, whereas it is possible to talk to adults about intellectual things. Adults may find it charming if you have an unconventional way of communicating and knowledge of obscure topics beyond your years, whereas young people often just find it annoying. |
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