Interracial Dating and double standards

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people are so varied in looks that to discount a whole race suggests an underlying racial dislike, maybe even subconsious, after all it may be a biological responce but we socially learn whats sexy, such as tattoos or stockings. I cant help but think someone who didnt fancy anyone from a whole race must have some underlying feelings of disgust or superiority to that race. just my opinion though.

That hasn't been my experience. My brother, for example, doesn't date black or Asian women (and finds Asian women particularly unattractive), but his best friend since high school is black, suggesting that it's an aesthetics thing, and I bring home black girlfriend after black girlfriend and find Asian women attractive despite sharing an upbringing. My personal theory is that I was in a majority black school in a gifted program full of Asians when I hit puberty, while in his case we'd moved to a different school by that point, but that's complete conjecture on my part. I'm sure some people do base their dating preferences on some underlying racial bias, but I don't think it's fair or accurate to automatically make that assumption.

My kids are in such a diverse environment that they don't even consider race when describing someone, which I have found interesting (ethnicity seems so useful to me in developing a picture, but they honestly don't see how). All things are a mix of assumptions we grew up with, experience, and personal aesthetics.

My tiny strawberry blond haired blue eyed daughter has been falling for "dark" boys since her first crush on a literary character. Any race; that seems completely irrelevant to her. Who knows why.

Also, some of the most physically beautiful people I know are mixed race. When genetics combine there is not usually one consistent loser in the way of features and one consistent winner. There is still a lot of luck of the draw, so to the poster worried about what is lost in the way of features . ... I think that is unfounded.

What I said was a generalisation. For example there are significantly less people of some races that I find attractive than others. And some cultures I don't find attractive at all, sort of cold and rigid. Of course it doesn't apply to "every single person", and I would happily date someone of any race if I found them attractive.

The culture thing can be applied to absolutely anyone, no matter what they look like.