Why dating sites are BS

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Yeah this whole playing hard to get thing is a double edged sword. Some women probably do it to see if the guy is genuinely interested in them. But, this also turns off a lot of potential suitors, because it makes her look uninterested / not genuine.

Anyway my issue with online dating is only the gender ratio. As a guy going on a dating website you are significantly reducing your odds than trying the same thing in day to day life.

This hasn't been my experience at all. I browse only people who live near me (that shouldn't be hard to do on pretty much any dating site), and meet up with them in real life quite quickly. I've made a few friends this way because I am able to find like-minded people more easily than by chance meeting them when going about my life. And sometimes, there's real chemistry. These are real people, the same people that wander around in the real world, you are just using a tool to locate and get in contact with them more easily.

As an update to this topic, I have decided to throw in the towel with online dating. I browsed all my matches on OKCupid and nearly every one of them were "red" in their replies and most weren't exact dream matches either. I found a few that I MIGHT consider dating and weren't red and messaged them. They DID politely reply, but it was obvious it was just a reply to keep their yellow/green intact and they never wrote back after that. I think I might have better luck randomly asking girls out at that rate! I had also been talking to a girl who seemed very high class and mature despite being 24. She initiated contact and we talked for almost three weeks and all three times I asked to meet up she either came up with a BS excuse or in the last case just stopped writing. It's a waste of time and energy and is giving me a bitter, nasty attitude towards women in general. I got a total of TWO dates from all the time on online dating (and countless flakes) and one was a girl I would not give the time of day in real life: not that she was a bad person but we had almost nothing in common.

My Ex also told me (and let's be honest she isn't that good looking) that she got several offers for a hookup recently and a guy who asked what type of clothes she is wearing. Those were the only type of messages she has received. Sounds like decent guys like myself don't stand a chance in such an environment! In theory dating sites should be a great way to meet new singles but in reality nobody even gives you a chance unless you are seen as perfect.

Just in case you change your mind I'll respond to part of your post above.

Ignore the colour of the dots. Pretty sure mine is red, but I reply to anyone I'm interested in. By ignoring red dotted people you are saying you don't want to date someone who is selective! That sounds odd to me.

I would ignore you and not just because of the red dot.

Pretty sure you sent me a message!

But anyway, I would hope that people who were not interested in me would ignore me. Why send me a message if not interested?

I was certainly drunk.

Personally, I've had more success messaging people who have the "red" dots by their name than the yellow/green. Someone with a red dot may just get spammed with a bunch of "hey hru?"'s or "baby u fin efo real"'s. With that said, I don't message people who are clearly "highly selective", because I know that they're apt to tell me off if I so much as blink in a manner that doesn't fit their perceptions of an ideal man. I'd rather put my effort towards someone who's a bit less stringent.

Still done with online dating but very good point. I guess even mine would be yellow even though I usually reply to anything more than "you are tall". Theres selective but online women generally have sky high and unreasonable expectations. Even ol super fussy me doesn't come close to that!

Well if they are selective then they are very very very unlikely to pick ugly me. This has been proven thru hundreds and hundreds of attempts. Early on I was full of silly confidence and joy that was beaten out of me the last year. There is also a 99% connection between pretty thin women and the Red color. probably a 80% connection with red and extreme pickness when it comes to job, car, house, looks of the man is required to have to contact them. It is unfortunate that they make up 95% of the women in my area. My hidden users has like 2k of them in it.

I only don't hide green users but at this point I'm too terrified to message them anymore(they're still thin/gorgeous and picky, but I guess they have the decently to reply to messages and tell them no at least.)

I sure hope they all find someone, I just know I'm not good enough for them. I leave the reds to the few attractive rich guys in my area(we're a poor area mixed with a big university town) Actually I wonder if they would not be better creating a UofO specific dating site since their ideal match would be an attractive university student not on of the poor min wage guys that are often found in my town(if they have a job at all with the high unemployment) though I also wonder why a person who doesn't plan to live here would seek a LTR. It would seem better to wait til after college when they settle down in their new state.

bit more then I intended, but related thoughts I have on the matter. Sorry

Never mind.

Last edited by Yuzu on 23 Apr 2014, 2:03 am, edited 1 time in total.

lol I told a guy on okcupid that I was too intimidated to meet him because he was too good looking.

Whoops.

Dunno if he'll bother now. Oh well. He's way too attractive for a site like that.

Wow....wish I had that problem. With me, women don't seem to want to meet me because of my living situation or my fear of dogs or my lack of knowing how to drive...or my ability to name almost all 749 Pokemon without looking lol

You should spend your times on applying for jobs instead, you're in no shape or form to be a relationship material in the vast majority of women's eyes if you're unemployed, no matter how nice, good looking or big-dicked you are, especially on dating sites where there are much more men than women.

Is there a place in those online dating profiles for stating how big one's dick is, or is that optional information?

They should add that option on okc.

Apparently, there's a dating site for every thing. http://www.sizeminded.com