Dating as an INTJ Aspie= Super hard mode!

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14 Apr 2014, 2:25 pm

CorkyandViolet wrote:
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How to tell difference between I/ENTP vs I/ENTJ.

ENTJ/INTJ - normally huge problems with direct empathy and too direct language but seen as goal oriented and ambitious. ENTJ is the hard ass of the NTs and of the all personalities.

ENTP/INTP - Too goofy, too absentminded, directionless but can be seen as devoted and quite empathetic. ENTP is the softest of NTs and propably softest of the Ts even more than many Fs.

NTPs are softies and nerdy whilst NTJs are bossy and hard asses.


Yes, I am definitely an ENTP! Lol. Don't forget that NTPs can be very stubborn and argumentative, though!


lol, I'm INTP and I've been accused of being stubborn. I say it depends upon your perspective. If I'm trying to understand something I don't believe I'm being argumentative but others say that I am. I've been accused of being stubborn but when I'm provided with seemingly contradictory standards again I will ask questions.

If the person can show me where my thinking is fallacious on something then please show me and if I see my own error I will correct the error. For whatever reason that is beyond my comprehension most people can't seem to grasp this.



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14 Apr 2014, 2:32 pm

nouse wrote:
How to tell difference between I/ENTP vs I/ENTJ.

ENTJ/INTJ - normally huge problems with direct empathy and too direct language but seen as goal oriented and ambitious. ENTJ is the hard ass of the NTs and of the all personalities.

ENTP/INTP - Too goofy, too absentminded, directionless but can be seen as devoted and quite empathetic. ENTP is the softest of NTs and propably softest of the Ts even more than many Fs (extroverts the very same processes as ESFJ aka girly girl but in different order)

NTPs are softies and nerdy whilst NTJs are bossy and hard asses.


nouse, I do have problems finding a direction for myself. The problem is that there are many sides to the equation some entangling up and if I took a position then I have to question myself in other areas outside of the problem at hand.

I do notice that on here many aspies are INTJs. A few are ISTJs though. It seems like though a number of aspies on here have this definiteness in their posts and I don't understand how they are able to live with this definiteness.



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15 Apr 2014, 3:05 am

I'm NT and have usually tested as INTJ. This thread has really helped me understand how I attracted and became attracted to an Aspie. Things are crap now as since we had a child his expectations and mine have changed and he's not handled those changes well.



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15 Apr 2014, 10:22 pm

I have a good aspie friend, and the two of us are both INTP aspies. I personally have been romantically into at least one INTJ that I know of, who was Neurotypical. So it certainly isn't unheard of :) if I were to date that girl, I think the main issue would be that we are both very stubborn, depending on the topic at hand. And although we have a lot of common ground in being deep thinkers and very articulate and philosophical... we differ quite a bit with how far to take some of the borderline obsessive discussions that we have. We both enjoy them, certainly, but I will continue a train of thought and keep enjoying it a lot longer, whereas she will be a lot quicker to want to get down to the nuts and bolts of actually APPLYING some of our conclusions (heaven knows why THAT should matter haha).

But by and large, I think there are all sorts of people that would appreciate a romance with an INTJ... so don't give up and keep a weather eye on the horizon :)



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16 Apr 2014, 1:08 am

I tend to stay withdrawn from most people and dont like working in groups or get too involved socially it would be a shocker to find someone interested in someone like that.


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16 Apr 2014, 12:43 pm

Yeah, it will be tough, I'm sure. But I still think there are actually plenty of people interested in someone who is generally anti-social and pretty independent. Those are things that I definitely like, because when I'm dating that kind of girl it means I don't have to pretend to be social myself. But the tough part in my opinion would be actually finding those people, because being anti social will also make them hard to find. Or in your case, it will make YOU hard to find for the people that are looking. But again, that's all just my own experience.