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This may sound like a complaint. Perhaps it is.

We were supposed to go out today after work. We set a time. The time was the same but I was refering the time possible for me to leave and Mr Six was refering to the time he understood I oughta be home. Since it would be about half an hour before my schedule, it was the only way itmade sense to me.
So I got home and found him ready to stay home. He tried to call me but I didn't pick up as I was in meeting with my boss. Now he doesn't wan't to go out.

I was willing to apologize assuming it was my mistake but he left the living room.

So... I'm open to sugestions: should I go to him or wait. I don't want to argue. I can't stand another one of those.

This was just a misunderstanding. No reason for an argument. Have a great time on your date; wish it were me

I would. Yet he's not coming out. I have the feeling this is going to epic mode.
Sometimes I do things right and don't intend. Sometimes I do things wrong and don't intend.
This may sound like I led him and then left him waiting. Also the fact I didn't pick up the phone is going to be interpreted that way.
This sucks!

He may be discouraged that your plans didn't work out as he expected and when you didn't answer your phone it just upset him more. Him leaving the room may be a cry for attention. I'm not saying you did anything wrong, but he's behaving just like someone who wants attention and is upset plans didn't work out exactly how he wanted them to. I would calmly go talk to him and try to learn from this. It was all just a simple miscommunication. I'm sure he'll be over it soon and you guys will be just fine.

Ok. I went and as he was quiet went trough his hair with my hand. He was falling asleep it seems, and I woke him up. I apologized and he replied I'm always apologizing.
That didn't wen't too well.

Most of the times I don't what to do. I just try not to disturb him more, I guess. Not like he's fragile or something. Quite the opposite. At a point I feel no matter what I do he'll get upset.

Latelly I began to ride this rollercoster kind of thing. When it's time to get home my stress level goes up. Sometimes when it doesn't and I'm ok, sometimes goes wrong. I feel like I'm always expecting something to go wrong.
I don't remember what is like to live without thinking how to go through the week onto the next week. And the end of the day I just wanna get cozzy and enjoy the moment. That is regarded as absence of energy, as there are so many things to do.
My work for instance is severely criticized because of the time I spend there and because when I'm there I'm actually working.
I do undertand I'm going nowhere with this job, but I have a hard time handling the fact mr Six is waiting for me to get the same amount of knowledge on the field he's developing to go freelancer in order for him to get started.
I'm now experiencing a big knot in my stomach. I hope we don't argue. I really hope so.

Dang...
I don't know how to deal with this. I don't.

This probably isn't feasible for you but....Bob Marley and a joint cures all anxiety.
That being said ask him if he's on his period, if he's not ask him why he's acting like it. There's no reason to get overly emotional about simple communication errors is the point.

Did you try to explain all this to Mr. Six? Otherwise he wouldn't understand.

^ ah sorry, I didn't read your later posts. Disregard this.

Anyway, a piece of advice if this ever happen again with someone else, DON'T wait - call or text quickly, apology and explain to him what happened, and most importantly re-set the date. Otherwise you would be perceived as you flaked and not really interested in him.

Waiting for few days or next day and then explaining would sound to him like you took your time to invent some story, especially if you are not re-setting another date. Did you ask him out after you apologized to him? From what you wrote, you didn't. He probably thought you flaked and came the next day with a convincing story.

The outcome was him pointing out my unregular behaviours that damage our relationship cause this was for him one of a bunch.
The conversation was long enough to include remarks about my atitude in work, as i am not successfull in his opinion due to my lack of social skills.

Why do you like him?