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Why do you like him?

He's a man with a capital M. Very inteligent and a good human being.
He started to blame me these last years though because we can't afford a better life. Also he thinks I give too much to my current job. He doesn't have one. He changed.
It bothers me the fact he loads my job if we are living from it.
Also he set up a plan for us to start something together, but I don't have as much time as I would like to spend on it. So I am too blame, on his view, if we are not yet to the point where we should.
To sum it up: I'm trying not to loose what we have. He's aiming to something higher. My job has turned into the center of quarrels because not only he thinks it's my main and only concern, but it also takes time I should be investing in learning the same he is.
He's right on his goals, in my opinion. Nonetheless I feel he mirrors in me much of his frustration.

This is just my opinion from my own experience.

He may be a man with a capital M. But then so many men think they are and they really aren't. I assume that after living together for a while he know's a few things about you and should be more understanding of your life revolving around your job and the effort you put into everything you do in your life. If he is going to act like a spoiled child now over what amounts to a few minutes just wait a few years, you will find you have someone with an entitlement problem.

In my experience when a man does what this man has done then he is using you to his advantage. To him you are only worth what he can get out of you. If I were you I wouldn't bang my head on a brick wall for him if explaining what has happened with the misunderstanding doesn't work.

I would accept and validate entirely this POV, if I hadn't previous experience of knowing him when he was working or knowledge of his previous relationships.
I don't think he's a bad person. I think he's handling this badly.

He ended up saying when I didn't answer the phone he was afraid something might have happened to me and he had no way of getting to me. That awareness caused that reaction.